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Hi All. I have one sister that has not spoken to me since 2003. the year that I told her I was going to transition. I found out today. that she is critically ill. the docs don't know what the problem is. She has had to have blood transfusions and can't function at all. I told my Mom that if she needs futher blood, let me know...I will give. I would love to contact her to let her know I will do anything to help....but I am a person she does'nt want to deal with. And I don;t know what to do. I love her, no matter what she thinks of me. Blood is blood. And it hurts...wanting to be there...and not being able too.

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That is very difficult for you.

You might ask your mother to check with her to see if she would be willing to accept your help and support.

A lot of time has passed and she might be more willing to listen to someone else.

I hope that you can get this resolved and see your sister agian.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest sarah f

I agree with Sally again. I can only add if your sister does not want your help than just take it in your own hands and donate anyway. She doesn't have to know where it is coming from.

Love,

Sarah F

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Hon, why not just send her a card to let her know you love her and are here for her. Regardless of how she responds or if she doesn't respond she will know how you feel.

Ricka

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Guest nymphblossom

This is so sad, Justme. It reminds me of the MASH episode about the soldier who refused to take blood from a black man. Hawkeye stained the man's body so his skin appeared darker. The soldier was convinced it was because of the transfusion! Blood is blood and it is the gift of life.

Love,

Blossom

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Guest Amanda joan

Wow this is tough.

I am sorry that you are in this place, it must be very hard. I hope that now that your Sister is in this condition that she may be open to coming to a resolve with you. I think I would go to the Hospital and have someone tell her that you are there and would like to see her. Giving blood is a wonderful gift and I would do that whether or not she decides to use it. Be gentle and be present and show her how much you love her.

Good luck to you.

Peace & Love Amanda

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Guest ChloëC

If she is going to need blood, there is no guarantee your's will be a correct match, but you can still give blood and let the hospital know you are doing it. Sometimes just giving when you know others need it, whether they use it or not, is still a good feeling. The card suggestion earlier would also be a good gesture.

Hugs

Chloë

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Guest Vivian

Tough situation. I'm very sorry to hear that about your sister. The only advice I can give is saying how I would respond to this if it was my own sister. I'm sure my sister wouldn't approve of me being transsexual, she doesn't approve of my brother for being gay. But if she was in a critical life threatening condition I would definitely be there to donate blood. Heck, I would donate bone marrow, a kidney if she needed! She's my sister and we've been through a lot together. I'm hoping for the best for you and your family.

Love,

Vivian

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Guest Justme

Hi all . Thanks for your messages of support. I really want to contact my sister...to telll her I am there for her, but I don't know how to do that. She has wanted nothing to do with me since i started my transition. But, I love my family. I want to be there. How do I be there for someone that isn't sure if they want me there or not? I don't want to make a bad situation worse. I just want her to know how much i love her....and how much I would give my all for her. Because that;s what family is all about.

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Guest Katrina Reann

Well, I don't know that you could really make it worse other than going to visit her in person before she is ready. I think that would be a real mistake at this point. I have read two good options here in my opinion. One, talk to your mom to send her a message and see where you stand with your sister. The other I really like, send her a get well card with a short personal note. You simply say something like, I know we don't see eye to eye but that doesn't mean I don't love you. I hope you get better soon and if you need me I am here for you. Then wait to see if she responds in any way whether it be a call, a letter, or through a family member. This is just a suggestion and what I would probably do if in your situation...Hope everything works out for you and youir sister...Huggsss...Katrina

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