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Guest Chris_421

So I'm currently taking time off of school since I had a gallstone attack (I have them frequently) and I'm getting it removed on Feb. 2.

That's not my issue though, my issue is that I *think* I saw an M written on the medical chart the surgeon had for me. Can this cause any issues if I go into the hospital not bringing to the attention of the surgeon that I haven't had any trans-specific surgeries? This is just on my mind and worrying that the doctor might become unprofessional or something.

Or am I just over thinking? Should I call the surgeons and let them know? How would I even bring that up to them?

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Guest Jean Davis

Well honey I think that I would definately let them know. ;)

If there is one person you don't want to surprize with your gender it's your surgeon. The may get you confused with someone else because of that,and if you're allready under you can't tell them then.

Be on the safe side, let them know. They have to keep all your medical information private anyways, so it doesn't really matter. ;)

LUV

Jean

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Guest sarah f

I agree with Jean. You should let them know that your chart was wrong. I know the M probably made you feel good inside but better safe than sorry.

Love,

Sarah F

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Guest Donna Jean

I concur on this one, Chris...

Not worth the chance you'd be taking ...

If it was me, I'd make sure he/she knew..

G' luck, Hon....

Donna Jean

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Guest Chris_421

How do I bring that up more 'professionally' over the phone to a receptionist? I tend to get nervous and jumble my words together. I could also check with my GP first (who referred me to the surgeon) about what information was sent over to him, and mention my concerns. Maybe he could help me in that aspect.

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Guest Donna Jean
How do I bring that up more 'professionally' over the phone to a receptionist? I tend to get nervous and jumble my words together. I could also check with my GP first (who referred me to the surgeon) about what information was sent over to him, and mention my concerns. Maybe he could help me in that aspect.

Now, there is an excellent idea, Chris....if doing this makes you nervous...call your GP and in any event, he could make a quick call for you to keep you out of the whole thing...

Let us know....OK, Hon?

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Guest Chris_421

Alright, so the surgeons office called me to switch the date (bumped it up to next tuesday! I'm nervous) and so I decided to ask the receptionist about it and my g.p. had informed them of that in the initial letter, and apparently the hospital was made aware too. I'm pretty glad that my doctor had that included (its annoying that have that follow you around, but seems helpful in the medical world) and I feel more at ease now about that part of it anyway. It's also nice knowing the surgeon had that knowledge and yet still had me down as male. :)

Thanks for all your support too ladies!

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Guest i is Sam :-)

that's good then. but yeah it is important for a surgeon to know. I'm not sure about the placement of the Gall Bladder specifically, but like it or not we unfortunately do have some different internal organs, parts aren't the same size and aren't in exactly the same place. the surgeon might've made his incision in the wrong place and then you'd've ended up with 2 scars, or worse. (although I would home they'd take a scan / xray or something first, but I dunno enough about it to know if that's proceedure)

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Guest Chris_421
that's good then. but yeah it is important for a surgeon to know. I'm not sure about the placement of the Gall Bladder specifically, but like it or not we unfortunately do have some different internal organs, parts aren't the same size and aren't in exactly the same place. the surgeon might've made his incision in the wrong place and then you'd've ended up with 2 scars, or worse. (although I would home they'd take a scan / xray or something first, but I dunno enough about it to know if that's proceedure)

Yeah I had an x-ray taken of my chest not long ago for him. That was an odd experience in itself. The lady told me to take my top off and so I asked for the top half of a gown...She just gave me this odd look and then said something like "I don't see why you need it but okay.." Ugh, just had a very odd feeling around her and was glad to get out of there.

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Whenever I have to break it to a doctor, I try to do so very casually, to try and not invoke any 'drama.'

Something like "You know I'm transgender, right? Are there going to be any issues with the surgery I should know about, or any medical history of mine I should tell you?" something like that. When it comes to medical situations, it's not something to hide, just warn about discreetly ;)

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Guest julia_d

gall bladder/gallstones.. gender neutral.. it's in the same place regardless. part of the general fixtures and fittings. They know where they are going after it, so I wouldn't bother outing yourself over such a small thing.

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Guest Donna Jean

I really don't think that avoiding disclosure is really a good idea unless you are substantially transitioned....

Problem being, if you saw a doctor for a problem but didn't tell them you were on hormones and the problem turned to be related to the hormones...they may treat you for something totally unassociated to the real problem..

And possiblly make the situation worse...

I know that telling the doc sux...I hate it myself...But, the doctor is flying blind if they are unaware of your full condition.

And I'm not talking just about the placement of internal parts, but meds, too....

It's like wanting a good diagnosis from a therapist while not being completely honest with them.

And don't forget...if you with held info from a doc and something bad happened, you may have no grounds for a lawsuit.

Just thinking out loud......

Donna Jean

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Guest i is Sam :-)

Agreed and I informed the doctor at the diabetic clinic. but there are people who a very stealth, and if otherwise they definitely would disclose than something saying this could be life threatening if you don't might be useful.

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OK, I haven't joined in until now because almost everything has been covered except the one thing that our young man, Chris would really like to know.

My sister had this operation last year - she had put it off forever and had so man large gall stones that they had to use ultra sound to break them up a bit to reduce the size of the incision required to remove the gall bladder.

Her surgery was longer than usual and more problematical for the dotor but she came through it just fine - weak for a bit always after a major operation and sore for a couple of weeks but nothing too bad - it is as they say 'a routine operation'.

Don't worry about the operation or the professionalism of your surgeon - that seems to be pretty good so far.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest julia_d

Yup.. Sally as usual is right.. it's very usual.. more interesting from a medical view is why you keep getting them. Only people I have ever known to have gall stones under 40 have been drinkers of bong water...........

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Guest CharlieRose
gall bladder/gallstones.. gender neutral.. it's in the same place regardless. part of the general fixtures and fittings. They know where they are going after it, so I wouldn't bother outing yourself over such a small thing.

The first thing I thought of was actually that if he didn't tell them beforehand he could be outed through his anatomy. Your gallbladder's in your abdomen, yes? Can't you picture the confused surgeon going, "Wait, does he have a uterus?!" :P

Doctors have to be confidential, and the fact that you're transgender might be medically relevant. Bringing it up just to be safe could be done totally discreetly like Neuro pointed out.

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Guest Chris_421
The first thing I thought of was actually that if he didn't tell them beforehand he could be outed through his anatomy. Your gallbladder's in your abdomen, yes? Can't you picture the confused surgeon going, "Wait, does he have a uterus?!" :P

Doctors have to be confidential, and the fact that you're transgender might be medically relevant. Bringing it up just to be safe could be done totally discreetly like Neuro pointed out.

The gallbladder is further up, towards the right side around the beginning of the ribcage (from what I know). It's going to be done with 4 different incisions, one below my belly button, two off to the right side and one up closer to the gallbladder. Either way I'll be in a gown so they will know regardless, but so far I've not had any issues with staff (a side from the awkwardness with the x ray tech). I just went today for my pre-op appointment and the nurse asked me nicely if I had female private parts and told her yes, then on to other questions. She made a little joke about not wanting to confuse anyone too.

So far so good....Now for the surgery tomorrow :S

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Guest Chris_421

Hey all just wanted to say I'm doing good and everything went just fine. I wasn't even groggy all day, just kinda pooped out. Like now lol. Also wanted to mention that all the hospital staff were friendly and helpful, and either were respectful about my gender or didn't even notice! Haha. When I mentioned I wanted to sit up and then try to go to the bathroom they helped me up, walked me over and the nurse told me to just sit like a woman XD it was classic.

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Guest Donna Jean
When I mentioned I wanted to sit up and then try to go to the bathroom they helped me up, walked me over and the nurse told me to just sit like a woman XD it was classic.

CHRIS!

You're OK! YAY!!!!

Welcome to the world of the living, Honey....

And what I put in red above is a classic...LOL..

Wow...are we ever happy to hear from you!..It sounds as it you pulled through with flying colors!

We've been worried...all's better now!

Welcome back, Hon!

LOVE

Donna Jean

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