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Hello, My name is Alex, i'm really happy to meet you all =)

I was looking for some stuff and i just found this site, i looked a bit around , and it seems very cool.

I'm FTM , i Still can't do anything to my body, my mother thinks i got mental problems, she won't listen to anything i say, everyday is agony at Home and School.

When i have to go to school , i make sure i don't drink anything and try to eat as less possible : I try to avoid Girls W.C ... I Feel like a Stranger there, i feel bad and uncomfortable, same for the Changing Rooms Or For Gym.

Today i had The Medical revision in my school, first : i stayed With The Guys, but my teacher told me to go away, so i go to my grade Conselor, he called the Infirmary. I was obliged to go, it was the law... I was So mad, i really wanted to punch someone at the face, i tried to calm down... They told me i would be alone, When i enter the room.. Girls where still in changing room.. I was Like... HUH! Oh my goodness !! Ten the girls screaming at me "Lola Lolaaaaa" (Why do they call me like that? it's really annoying, but they still don't understand WHY i's so annoying)

I Did What They Told Me to do In The medical Revision, it was so stupid... They had to look my feet and that stuff, one of the doctors saw my written leg, he loked at it, tried to read it, then... he seems like he was disgusted, what was Written ? :

"I'm Alex , Not Lola, I'm a Boy, Not a girl" and i wrote "NO TIME TO CRY" too.

This was my experience of today, everyday i see my breats, i want to smash them, my life is a living hell, With everyday One or more than one very uncomfrotable and annoying Situation. <_<

But Well, i hope here some people will understand and listen to me :D

Thank You For Reading this.. I maybe wrote too muhc ofr the first time

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Hello Alex,

You did not write too much and you have found a site where we do understand, care and offer our support.

Won't you come inside and have a chair by the fire?

I have some pizza and a cold drink if you would like some.

We are a moderated site so please do read the rules, I don't think there will be a problem but we can be sure if we all read the rules - there are links at the top of almost every page.

So now just wait around for the others to come by and say hello, then post, ask questions and tell us more about yourself and your experiences.

Welcome to the family.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Donna Jean

Good morning, Alex...

It's nice to meet you.

Hon, you'ver come to the right place for someone to listen to you and understand. We all help each othere here and you'll be suprised at just how smart our members are!

I see that Sally has made you comfy...you get all settled in and be sure to read all that you cand here...

And....POST...POST....POST!

Welcome to the Playground!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hey Alex,

Welcome!!! No you did not write too much :) In fact, I would love you to continue to post here.

You did the right thing to join Laura's and of course we all understand you :)

Welcome hon,

HUGS

Brenda

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Guest Robin Winter
Thank you for the Warm Welcome ! =)

I feel really lucky to have found this forum

We all do sweetie, this site is an absolute haven.

Welcome to a safe place ^_^

*Hugs*

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Welcome to the Playground, Alex.

I see that you've met my wonderful sisters. While they haven't shown up yet, take my word for it that we have some

fantastic guys here too. They're probably out hunting game or playing football or something. :P

I hope that you've noticed we have a teen forum as well as an FtM Forum, so be sure and check those out. We also

have a great Chat Room too. Its too fast for my old fingers, but you'll enjoy it I'm sure.

Have fun. I look forward to reading your posts.

Carolyn Marie

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Guest praisedbeherhooves

Welcome to Laura's Playground Alex! ^.^ Sally's right, we are like a family here. This is a very close knit community and people take care of each other. Say, are you me from three years ago? xD Nah, can't be, you're in Belgium and you're a year too old to be me from two years ago. Totally feel you on the bathrooms, and I certainly know how it is to be thought crazy because of my being transgender. Don't worry, things get much easier. Especially since you live in a relatively tolerant country though you still will get rudeness. People will accuse you of a lot of stupid stuff like being a lesbian in denial, wanting to pervert children, going through a stage, being crazy, hating women and all sorts of other absurdities. Later on though most of the people who love you will accept you. It takes time though. Hang in there man, things will work out. You know, this is just a tad bit eerie. Seriously man, you even look a lotlike I did when I was 13, except my hair had orange streaks and you look identical to me at 14. Maybe you're my long lost Belgian brother.

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Guest praisedbeherhooves

Ps.

Having looked at your profile I can say with certainty you are my long lost Belgian brother. We have too much in common for this to be a coincidence.

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Hi Alex,

<<curtsey>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules. :)

We have FTM meetings -Mon & Fri 8pm est, and you are welcome to attend.

We all look forward to seeing you.

:wub: vanna

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Guest Chandra

Hello Alex,

Welcome to the most caring, supportive group around.

As you have seen, if you open your self to others you will gain insight with will result with you feeling a little better huh.

And this is just the start, stay with your new family and we will never let you down.

Best Wishes Alex Se Ya Love Chandra

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