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Hi all! I've been lurking for a bit and finally decided to speak up! It's difficult to even take this step; acknowledging something that I haven't been horribly truthful about with myself for years. So I might as well step in carefully.

A little about myself:

I'm 22 years old. From the Great White North. I'm a hoser through and through. But I'm thinking I'm a little different. I will consider myself a crossdresser at the moment, but I am trying to figure out who I am, what my motivations and needs are and where I want to go in my life. After some searching, who knows where I'll end up. After focusing on my career and the technical aspects of my life for so long, this whole personal thing is a little difficult.

The whole "self discovery" part is going to be difficult and slow. As with many of you have experienced, coming out will be quite difficult (if I chose to) due to my family's views, my academic department's general outlook on people and heck, the whole professional culture I am a part of. I'm in a technical field but I have had many many years of art training and background. I used to be quite active in the media and hold my own shows as a teenager. I was somewhat sought after and well known for some time, until I decided to paint for me only and focus my efforts on my academics rather than painting on such a high profile. Unfortunately, I'm not as gifted with fashion as I am with painting...

You all sound like fantastic people. I hope I can settle in! Don't hate me if I disappear for a while too! (I'm tres busy these days!)

kylah ><

PS: hugs to the first person who correctly recognizes the reference in my topic description and post :)

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Hi kylah,

<<hug>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

I wonder where the great white north is? :unsure:

I'm from Alaska. :P

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules. :)

We have Cross Dressers meetings -Tues 8pm est, and you are welcome to attend.

We all look forward to seeing you.

:wub: vanna

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PS: hugs to the first person who correctly recognizes the reference in my topic description and post :)

Hello Kylah.

Do you mean, "Its a beauty way to go, Take off to the Great White North." from Bob and Doug McKenzie - Second city Television - Rick Moranis and Bob Thomas?

Never heard of them!

Welcome to the family, I was going to offer you a cup of hot cocoa and a plate of fresh baked cookies but you might prefer a pound of back bacon and a beer.

Do feel at home here we are very friendly and like to have fun while we offer support and love to each other.

Welcome home!

Love ya,

Sally

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I'm from Alaska. tongue.gif

Well... I'm a little (quite a bit) south of there I guess. haha. You win!

Bob and Doug McKenzie

As promised.. >HUG<

I do like beer and bacon, but believe me.. I certainly act a *little* more feminine than those two hosers. Even when I'm out and about during the day as a guy! And definitely when I dress up in fem when I get home from work ;) I just wish there was a little more fem way to eat some bacon and have some brew. So I'll pass on the cookies (besides, I just ate a bunch of Timbits today! Too much sweet for one day!).

Thanks for the warm welcomes!

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Guest Donna Jean

Kylah......

Welcome to tge Playground, Honey.....

Oh my, just finishing up some back baccon for breakfast....here ..have a hunk!

It's so nice to have you here with us...You seem like a lot of fun!

Get yourself all settled in and join in ..there are a load of wonderful folks here and lots to read and learn!

So, don't be shy! POST POST POST!

Huggs!

Donna Jean

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Guest Chandra

Welcome Kylah,

From yooper Chandra from da UP eh,

If you have been lurking here you already know what a super bunch we have here.

At 22 you have plenty of time to discover your self and no better place to do it at.

The combined knowledge and support here is staggering, use it to help find where you are at.

See Ya, Love Chandra

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Welcome to Laura's Kylah-----Sally makes wonderful cookies but I could make u up a batch of Nanaimo bars. Just a hint about how best to fit in at Laura's---"Be Yourself!" That's what makes you a perfect fit in your new family here. So you are an artist with some notoriety working toward a career to be able to have a day job, LOL. You know there are a number of beautiful women here who are also "tech weanies"!

Hugs---Ricka

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Hiya there! How are things up north in terms of public acceptance of CD?

Oh yay! You're an artist, too? I draw, myself. I mean, I don't draw myself--I draw other things. Well i draw myself sometimes, but you ge the idea.

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Hiya there! How are things up north in terms of public acceptance of CD?

Oh yay! You're an artist, too? I draw, myself. I mean, I don't draw myself--I draw other things. Well i draw myself sometimes, but you ge the idea.

It depends. I grew up in a single purpose town with a population smaller than that of my current apartment building. It could have been idylic; a 'happy days' type existance with endless forest and hills for a backyard. If not for the whole gender thing.

The city I live in now; claims one of the biggest and best attended 'Pride" parades in the world. The as yet uncrowned but likely new mayor of the city is a former Provincial health minister and openly married to another man.

depending on where you go IN the city there's plenty of acceptance. Oh and gay & Lesbian marriage (and DIVORCE) have been legal in Canada for... well I think nearly ten years. (I could be off on that number )

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Hiya there! How are things up north in terms of public acceptance of CD?

Oh yay! You're an artist, too? I draw, myself. I mean, I don't draw myself--I draw other things. Well i draw myself sometimes, but you ge the idea.

Hi! Sorry for the late reply... Things have been extremely busy between work, school, extra curricular projects and well.. I'm sure you get the picture!

I agree with what Joy said. I haven't come out to anyone so I can't provide you with any first hand accounts, but I do know that in general it varies. Again, similar to Joy, I grew up in a smaller town (although not THAT small) but the attitude there isn't overly tolerant of anything that they would consider abnormal. However, the city I grew up in is large enough that the people I know that came out as being gay or bisexual weren't totally shunned. I think their supportive families and friends really helped them, despite other people in the city / neighbours, etc disagreeing with who they are (and who really cares if someone else agrees anyways!).

Since then I've moved to a larger city that has a bit of a reputation for it's gay / lesbian / CD / transgender communities. I moved here for my studies and career, but the attitude in the city is nice sometimes. But it's still not that easy if you aren't in the right areas. And there always is the concern of acceptance from your friends and family. Right now, I'm surrounded by my peers, many of which are not tolerant. So I don't feel overly comfortable sometimes (thus hasn't come out). And there are so many different people of different backgrounds that there are sure to be as many (or more) intolerant people than there are supportive. So like, it just depends on who you surround yourself with.

So I think where I am living now will be great, once I can manage to surround myself with people of like and open minds. There are many great shops, and apparently a great community. And at the very least I have the girls (and guys) on this forum! (thanks again <hugs>)

Oh .. and what do you draw mostly? I trained for about 13 years and stuck with oil paints and natural scenes / animals / portraits mostly (nothing abstract). But I just melt when I get my hands on a nice soft pastel!

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So I think where I am living now will be great, once I can manage to surround myself with people of like and open minds. There are many great shops, and apparently a great community. And at the very least I have the girls (and guys) on this forum! (thanks again <hugs>)

Oh .. and what do you draw mostly? I trained for about 13 years and stuck with oil paints and natural scenes / animals / portraits mostly (nothing abstract). But I just melt when I get my hands on a nice soft pastel!

Wow! Seriously--the more I hear about Canada, the more I think it would be a cool place to live.

Okay, your 13 years of training makes me ashamed to have opened my mouth. I'm mostly self-taught with a couple of years of instruction back in college. I mostly work with regular old pencil and paper, varying between simple still lifes and things that can't be linked to here. -.-;

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