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Guest Donna Jean
Anyone else ever have an experience posting at craigslist on the Trans forum? Just curious.

~JD

No, Hon.....never posted, but, I used to go there a lot and read....

I finally left....mean and nasty....of course it's not moderated and people really get to

going after each other....

Lots of admirers and chasers come in, too...

Were you thinking of posting there?

If you do, it helps to have a thick skin.....

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Guest JD_Divine

Actually Ive been posting there for 10 days and Ive been really sick since then. I mean, high stress, throwing up, horrible stomach pains... feels like my stomach is filled with battery acid. I joined there when I didn't know where else to turn as Ive had years of experience at Craigs... I know about the trolls and the creepers and what-not but had hoped to find some real solice there... Unfortunately it appears one of the posters has at least 10 handles and I fear its the one person thats been kind to me... found out they had alterior motives and Im just sick from the deciet...

~JD

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Actually Ive been posting there for 10 days and Ive been really sick since then. I mean, high stress, throwing up, horrible stomach pains... feels like my stomach is filled with battery acid. I joined there when I didn't know where else to turn as Ive had years of experience at Craigs... I know about the trolls and the creepers and what-not but had hoped to find some real solice there... Unfortunately it appears one of the posters has at least 10 handles and I fear its the one person thats been kind to me... found out they had alterior motives and Im just sick from the deciet...

~JD

That's why that won't happen here...only one person per IP address allowed! Geez, Hon...I'm so sorry that had such a bad time there when all you were looking for was some comfort.

Maybe you can stick around here and find something that you can deal with....

I know that we're G-PG rated, but, the people are good and we try REALLY hard....

Huggs...

Donna Jean

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Never posted there, but HAVE lurked. It didn't seem like a good thing to stay there for long... Especially because of all the trafficking of underaged girls D: (Not allowed, but still happens.)

I've found it can be a pretty dangerous place. You are more likely to find someone caring on here, than Craigslist. Like DJ said, we are PG rated but at least there are no scary creepers on here... :c

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Guest JD_Divine

I had hoped to find other Chicagoans that go to the local support groups I am going to be attending so I can get a feel for what Im going to soon be experiencing and so that I wouldn't feel so alone there... There was one other from Chicago at CL and apparently shes here on Laura's Playground as well... and that person has actually turned out to be a creep to say the least. Had a bunch of handles and a bunch of stories and even publicly outed some members as well as called up their employers and families and destroyed their reputations and lives in the process. And now shes claiming I disrespected her when I didn't take her desire to "take me under her wing" ... Im so tired of the drama. All I want is to transition without being alone and scared of how I know so many in my life will abandon me... I guess I gotta learn to accept it though.

~JD

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Guest ChloëC

I'm not sure what the hoopla of Craig's List is all about. I mentioned earlier that my car was totaled just before the holidays, and I glanced at CL once after getting on Cars.com and CL was pathetic in its ability to narrow selections (I found the car I'm driving on Cars). I'm also always looking for a better job and SimplyHired does a much better job then CL or Monster of getting a narrow appropriate selection (my spouse just got her BS after going back to school and I steered her to SimplyHired and she is into a second interview phase). Sounds like CL is more of a Facebook/twitter unmonitored place which somehow just does not sound appealing.

Chloë

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Guest Roberta1

I've used CL while looking for certain hard goods, such as autos, and parts, but I would never look for sex related postings, because it would be like Russian Roulette. Scary what is out there, and no monitoring either. I guess there are some services that are good for some things, but there are no services that are good for all things. If this sounds completely confusing, then, I guess we are on the same wave length. (Garbage in, garbage out) If you want safety, and to stay out of harms way, then stick with Laura's.

Sincerely

Roberta

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Guest JD_Divine

Oh jeez, just to clarify, I did NOT post in a section looking for hook-ups! It was SUPPOSED to be a Transgender support forum and it turned out to be just a bunch of hormonal bittys bickering and trolling. I decided earlier tonight to no longer post there.

But then again Im also ... well... nevermind. Not important.

~JD

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The Internet can be a wild place similar to the old (lawless) Wild West. One site may have rules and safeguards for their members while others do not. Craig's list has a specific job and support is not one of them. If you want support go to a place designed for that purpose. There are many fine Transgender support sites who do try to protect their users. Believe it or not there are people out there looking to take advantage of human misery Just looking for people who are depressed to take advantage of them. There have been several incidents of people trying to get those like this to commit suicide and there have been deaths from this. Some people's motives are not pure and in some cases be almost criminal.

Be careful where you post your stories or your secrets. Even here we ask people to keep their personal identity details to themselves. This is for their safety. The Internet can be an awesome place but it can also be dangerous for the vulnerable. Please be careful out there.

Laura

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Guest ~Brenda~

One of the primary reasons I prefer Laura's over any other place is the very fact that this place is moderated and is safe. I do not feel comfortable anywhere else.

Brenda

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Guest Donna Jean

I hadn't been there in a long time, but, because of this thread I went back to have a look....

OMG!

How awful it is......

Well, I know to avoid it any more..and I certainly hope that others do to....

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest Donna Jean
DeeJay... I had hoped you wouldn't have had to see that... its a den of demons.

~JD

Oh, it's alright, Hon..............

I'm a big girl....

But, your description is fitting!

I'm so glad that we have this haven.......

LOVE

Donna Jean

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