Hey Friends

[Guest Neuro]

So, it looks like I am posting a lot of topics about myself, and not really replying to any of the new threads and such. I feel awful about it!

But, I am worried that if I try to rush a post right now, that it would come out wrong. So I'm really sorry I have been inactive and selfish lately.

There's so many new people here I want to greet, so many 'firsts' I want to congratulate, So many sad stories and rough patches you are going through I want to hold you for, for support :c

This is no excuse, but my life has been getting vaguely busy lately. Not bad busy, mind you. Life is going pretty good. My therapist and I are working out a 'MASTER PLAN' to come out to my parents, explaining to them 3rd times a charm--that who I am is not a phase, it is something very real.

Because of a newfound arrogance, I am being very selfish and not being on the internet much XD; for which I apologize.

I LOVE YOU ALL.

I read every single (well, ALMOST every single) post on here, for serious! I might not be replying, but I hope you know that you and your struggles and triumphs are in my heart, I think about all of you so much. Every day!

*gives hug to readers* >:U <3 lav~!

Good luck, everybody, for I am with you! We are all here, we got your back >

BE FREE!

[Guest viv]

Hi Neuro,

Telling us about how well your doing is infectious hun.

Thanks for letting us all know , we love you , viv

[Guest Katrina_Carter]

Neuro don't feel bad, I am guilty of the same thing. It's not because I am selfish, it's because I simply have nothing to add. I read through the posts, advice, information, ect. are already said and done. I suppose I could simply post to say hi, but that would be fairly pointless.

My point is that just because you create new topics revolving around yourself and do not or rarely do post on other topics is not being selfish. If you have nothing to add to a post, then you have nothing to add. I (and hopefully everyone else) would rather see you posting new topics about yourself than not posting anything at all.

[Guest Jean Davis]

So, it looks like I am posting a lot of topics about myself, and not really replying to any of the new threads and such. I feel awful about it!

But, I am worried that if I try to rush a post right now, that it would come out wrong. So I'm really sorry I have been inactive and selfish lately.

Neuro dear

Please don't worry about not posting to others too much right now, we all get "writers block" at one time or another. There is no problem with that, I'm sure that when the time is right that you will be able to post again. Until then please continue to post your topics. the good times that you post are fun to read and help to lift others spirits. They remind all that there are good times and that events will change in time.

Also don't feel that you only have to post the good times, the bad are equally important. They remind people that they should enjoy the good times when they have them and make them feel better about themselves when they can add that useful piece of advice. Plus when you see all the replys from others, it helps your self esteem to see others come to help.

Remember good or bad times are progress if you learn from the experences.

Neuro don't feel bad, I am guilty of the same thing. It's not because I am selfish, it's because I simply have nothing to add. I read through the posts, advice, information, ect. are already said and done. I suppose I could simply post to say hi, but that would be fairly pointless.

My point is that just because you create new topics revolving around yourself and do not or rarely do post on other topics is not being selfish. If you have nothing to add to a post, then you have nothing to add. I (and hopefully everyone else) would rather see you posting new topics about yourself than not posting anything at all.

Hi Katrina

Though I know how much people like to give useful advice and help, many forget the power of just being there for others. Sometimes it doesn't matter what is said but that something is said. Many of us here lack the moral support of others at home and turn to the internet for support or just someone to listen. Just the simple gesture of sympathizing with someone who is having a hard time or that one word "Hello" in an introduction can make a world of difference to someone that has no one to turn to at home. It lets them know that they are not alone and that someone cares, so please don't let the lack of words keep you from reaching out to others.

LUV

Jean

[Guest yvonne]

Hi Katrina

Though I know how much people like to give useful advice and help, many forget the power of just being there for others. Sometimes it doesn't matter what is said but that something is said. Many of us here lack the moral support of others at home and turn to the internet for support or just someone to listen. Just the simple gesture of sympathizing with someone who is having a hard time or that one word "Hello" in an introduction can make a world of difference to someone that has no one to turn to at home. It lets them know that they are not alone and that someone cares, so please don't let the lack of words keep you from reaching out to others.

LUV

Jean

Dearest Jean,

I'm so glad to see you post this. Some people take a tremendous amount of time, effort or pain to compose a post and, if they get no real response, can get very depressed over it.

Far too many people don't understand the power of: "I'm so sorry to hear that, I hope things get better" or "Wow, I'm so happy for you. You deserve it".

These are simple words, indeed, but they carry tremendous power and should be used often.

Hugs,

Yvonne

[Guest yvonne]

Hey Dude,

Don't give it a thought to how you post. Far too many people spend too much time on the net and neglect their responsibilities irl.

I'm really pulling for you. I've been reading your posts and I'm very sympathetic.

But I gotta tell 'ya, ya gotta be a man about it and don't let others feelings bother you too much. When things get tough regarding my transition, my wife tells me to "Cowgirl up and be tough". So, I'll tell you to "Cowboy up" and work on the plan.

Your plan is important and must fit your situation and the people you deal with. It has to be yours, you can't borrow anyone else's.

Best to you,

Yvonne

[Guest Donna Jean]

What everyone needs to remember is that Laura's is a support site...

And you can't be supported if you don't come on and tell your troubles...

That's what we're all about.

I always say....

One day you are weak and I'll help lift you up...

Next day I'm down and you''ll help me...

That's how this site works.

So, never be afraid to post about what's bothering you...there is always an ear...maybe not a solution, but as least compassion and love....

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Sally]

We all need to relax about the structure and grammar of each post and not worry about the value of the content as far as it's literary worth - it is the feeling and the compassion that come through even the simplest of posts.

Just knowing that someone has read and taken the time to respond to a post means the world to some of our members - some of us are not out to many, not accepted by the ones that do know and live alone so any response is a good thing.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Neuro]

Danke all D: I was mostly worried about what I post in case I say the wrong thing, like sound too optimistic or friendly or something.

But ja, like Yvonne says I need to worry about that less XD but I am an empathetic type and flip out when people are worried. I will be sure to post more!