Clueless In Mpls

[Guest Michele H]

I once was told I wouldn't know when a girl was hitting on me if she took her cloths off and said "Do Me. Well I'm not THAT bad but close, I guess. I was at snap fitness last night and got on the tread mill next to a man about my age (60's). The TV was playing an old movie and as I was starting my work out, he leaned over and said really enjoys the older movies. I smiled, nodded my head and started my routine. Once in the grove and paying attention to the TV, I thought I recognized the movie and asked if it was National Velvet" we chatted a bit as we both did our thing.

I am recognized as a woman almost all the time, in fact I would have to work at it to pass as a guy these days- but even so, I couldn't have been that attractive wearing old sweat pants and T-shirt and no makeup. My hair was pulled back into a pony tail, is grey and is on the thin side, Also, the boob faiy seems to have passed me by. Can't see thaty I would be that attractive - So ladies and guys - was he flirting with me?

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Hi Michele,

I think that this person was trying to send a message that he was trying to get to know you better. Flirting? No, not at this point. Maybe pre-flirting. If you were responsive to his initial attempts at contact, then the the flirting would begin

Maybe you will see him again in the gym

Love

Brenda

[Guest sarah f]

Like Brenda said maybe pre-flirting. I think he was just trying to start a conversation just to make the work out more interesting. If you see him again and he comes over to you than he is interested. Good Luck if that is what you are looking for.

Love,

Sarah F

[Guest Michele H]

Thanks for the advice - I really do feel like a pre teen at times. I'm a lesbian so not interested in him but my counselor says I need to learn social skills outside of work.

[Guest Elizabeth K]

I'd say "interested."

Women attract attention - its something that takes some experience handling. I am new to it also!

Lizzy

[Guest nymphblossom]

Michele H wrote:

I once was told I wouldn't know when a girl was hitting on me if she took her cloths off and said "Do Me."

Michele, your post brought a big smile to my face. When I was in my teens/early 20's, I was often told the exact same thing by my friends. I have always been considered attractive as a guy but was so shy and afraid of rejection, I was totally unable to see when a girl was interested in me.

It took alot of personal growth and studying my male peers, but I finally came out of my shell when I was in my mid 20's. I can tell you with 100% confidence, men don't talk to women just to talk. They rarely even do that with another man. If he struck up a conversation with you, he found you attractive.

Blossom

[Sally]

Don't ask me - I once had a girl and her roommate do just about what you described and I missed it! They had invited me up to their room in the all girl, freshmen dorm at my college - early 70s - because I had driven them back from a long trip to play a concert - I was lying on one bed and the girl in question curled up on the next while her roommate stopped doing her homework and turned to listen intently while the first girl read from her book on "Sexual Horoscopes".

Mine had something to do with a shower and a threesome but it was time for curfew so I left - Brilliant!

If I had stayed I would have known so much earlier that it would not have cured my transsexuality.

Love ya,

Sally