Activity, Or Lack There Of

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

I don't know if this is true, some may have wondered why I havent been as active here as I used to be. There are many reasons for this and most of them have to do with RL; many of you know that my wife and I are moving back to Canada this year and our preparations are in full swing for that. I have been taking lots of time away from the online world rebuilding my relationship with that long suffering and infinitely patient woman whom I love so much. Our relationship is stronger now than it has been in years and shows no signs of doing anything other than getting stronger and closer by the day.

Yes in many ways I feel like a teenager in love (hormonally I am a teen); although I have done enough living to know that this is real and not some kiddie fling (sorry to all of those in the under 20 set). I have to slow down my online activities to make sure that I can be there for her as she undergoes some exploration of her own, and in many ways I don't need the online life as much as I did. My day to day world is fairly stable and now with the dramatic improvement in my relationship I don't need the escape either.

Does this mean I am going to pull a dissapearing act and just drop off Laura's, not for the time being although some of you have heard me voice the feeling that I might have outgrown the playground. I will be around to help those coming along behind me, to give the benefit of what little wisdom I have to give. I just won't be posting 15 or 20 messages a day, it might get to that in a week but don't worry if I don't post a thing in a week. I will be around reading threads that interest me or that I might help by adding a comment to.

Real life has to take precedence for me, and I have lots going on.

[Guest sarah f]

I will miss reading your posts but I understand all to well that the wife and family comes first. I am trying to get my wife to understand me right now. As long as you are happy than I am happy for you. I look forward to reading the posts that you do make.

Love,

Sarah F

[Sally]

Well JoJo,

That is about the only reason for being away that I can say is really good - I am so happy for you.

Getting your relationship back together after so much turmoil must be an amazing feeling - you do what you need to do to make that stay as good as it is and to become even bette.

Put your energies into your relationship and preparation for your move.

I am so happy for you - life has many twists and turns but sometimes they straighten out into a beautiful, lush valley with wildflowers, tall grass and water falls on the mountains on each side filling the small babbling brooks that feed the trees and make such wonderful banks for you and your wife to sit with your feet in the cool current - it is an ideal place - I see it in my dreams and now you are standing in the entrance to that beautiful place - treasure this moment and everyone that you will spend there from now on.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

Well JoJo,

That is about the only reason for being away that I can say is really good - I am so happy for you.

Getting your relationship back together after so much turmoil must be an amazing feeling - you do what you need to do to make that stay as good as it is and to become even bette.

Put your energies into your relationship and preparation for your move.

I am so happy for you - life has many twists and turns but sometimes they straighten out into a beautiful, lush valley with wildflowers, tall grass and water falls on the mountains on each side filling the small babbling brooks that feed the trees and make such wonderful banks for you and your wife to sit with your feet in the cool current - it is an ideal place - I see it in my dreams and now you are standing in the entrance to that beautiful place - treasure this moment and everyone that you will spend there from now on.

Love ya,

Sally

Dear Sally, you sure know how to bring a girl to tears. In this case strictly good ones, yes like many of us transition has been hell and I am soo glad that my wife has decided to remain with me. Mentally, and spiritually I am done with transition; there is that small matter of that birth defect but soon enough plans will be laid to fix that. Like some here have said, I no longer consider myself transsexual; I am simply another woman going about her business. I think that might be the reason for my conflict about here, but that is for me to deal with in its own good time.

Yay though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death... OMG how like transition that sounds.

[gennee]

I understand, Joanna. Some of us move on but we appreciate the contributions made. We appreciate your comments. Best to you in your move to Canada.

Gennee

[Guest yvonne]

Sweet Big Sister Joanna,

I'm so happy for you. You've made an amazing transition and, to me, are the poster child for "how do you know when transitioning is right for you?" To do what you've done, in the timelines you've done it, clearly shows that you were truly suffering from GID.

I've thought a lot about this site, as well. Of course, right now I need it desperately. I'm looking at it now like a school. New, young, freshly-scrubbed faces show up with fear written all over them. They don't know really what they're getting into, only that they're supposed to be here. They're scared to death and have no idea what to expect.

The older students help them out and they study their lessons. As they progress, they look better and better. As they learn and master things, they in turn help the new faces. Eventually the oldest class graduates and the cycle continues.

I mean, once you've achieved a "normal life", what's the point in hanging out here so much?

You've been a great inspiration to me and I wish you the best. Now, part of my job is to be an inspiration to those who've come after me and so on.

But I'm still only 12 years old.... I don't see the rush, I want to savor every moment.

So, good on you, Joanna. Good on you. You exuded so much pain that it literally brings me to tears to see you so happy and well adjusted.

Just don't ask me to borrow the jack to my car.....

Your loving and admiring 'lil Sis,

Yvonne

[Carolyn Marie]

Great news, Joanna. No, not that you aren't posting as much, you silly woman.

All that other great stuff in your post, like rekindling the relationship with your wife, moving to Canada, settling down into the "routine" of being a woman.

That is all wonderful news, Joanna. I couldn't be happier for you and your wife.

You've had a rough time of it in the last months. A little down time to recharge and take stock and be good to yourself is well deserved. I'm glad for whatever

time you can give us here. It's all good. I'm always glad to see you on the boards.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie