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Guest i is Sam :-)

So International Nobody Loves Me Day is drawing near

the perfect time to think about all the past relationships I destroyed.

Seriously, I don't mean the entire thread to just be self pity, my friend pointed out that this time next year I could have guys showering me in gifts to show their affection.

But yeah, this year I'll be alone. I hope those of you fortunate enough to have someone, will be showing them just how much you appreciate them.

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Contrary to what you may think, Sam, we do love and appreciate you. :)

MaryEllen

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Guest sarah f

We all love you Sam. Will you be my Valentine.

I am just wondering how mine will go this year. I will try to act like nothing has changed but can't help to think what my wife will think this year. I could hope for flowers instead of the normal guy gift. :lol: I don't think that would happen though. I could still hope though.

Love,

Sarah F

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Dear Sam,

I thought it was my personal International Nobody Loves Me Day!

Well I guess I can share it with you this year but don't plan on making it a habit.

You and I are more alike than you might ever imagine, we both seem to be able to blow up a relationship in no time at all.

So next year when men are showering you with gifts, flowers, candy and jewelry would you mind sending some my way (especially the jewelry - I have allergies and I am watching my weight) :lol:

In case you haven't noticed, I love you and know that someday when you are at peace with yourself you will stop destroying relationships and actually have one.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest i is Sam :-)

Thanks DJ, thou it's not quite the same unless you wanna spend the evening on the sofa with my head in your lap, hogging all the popcorn while we watch DVDs of battlestar galactica.

Sarah I think in your situation I'd wanna do something really romantic to make sure that she wasn't worried that I was gonna stop loving her and run off with a man. I'd avoid doing anything overtly either masculine or feminine, and I'd probably avoid something like a weekend away or maybe even going out, cos the day might prompt certain feelings and possibly a fight.

But I'd probably have a hot bath waiting for her, rose petals on the water, chilled glass of champaign, box of chocolates, then while she's in the bath I'd finish cooking a romatic dinner served with the rest of the champaign. and after dinner lead her into the bedroom which would be filled with lit candles, some scented, and I'd give her a massage (be sure to warm the oil in your hands first).

Yeah... can you believe I'm single lol

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Guest Donna Jean
Thanks DJ, thou it's not quite the same unless you wanna spend the evening on the sofa with my head in your lap, hogging all the popcorn while we watch DVDs of battlestar galactica.

Yeah... can you believe I'm single lol

GOOD! Then it's a deal...

On my next trip through the UK....I'll bring the popcorn....you warm up the DVD's........OK?

Huggs!

Donna Jean

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Guest Melanieshaman

We DO all care about you... don't be sad, just look at it as an opportunity to focus on what's truly important..YOU!

I can sympathize to a point, growing up i was not always with someone this time of year, but i am lucky enough to have a wonderful wife now (we are celebrating our 8 year anniversary tomorrow!)

Cheer up, we care, we really do... enjoy the day, and focus on yourself, the other will come in time.

Melanie

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Guest ChloëC

Ah, I was just reminded of something I did years ago.

It was my second year in Junior College (yeah, pitiful, I know), and I was dating another student, but I was friends with a lot of other young women, too, many that I knew weren't seeing anyone seriously. So the night before Valentines Day, I slipped one of those penny Valentines (you know, the ones we were to buy and give out in like 2nd grade) into each of their lockers (this JC was the upstairs of an old highschool and we all had those old fashioned lockers), in an envelope with their name on it, but not my name.

I just felt that while I couldn't solve all the problems of the world, at least I could make a few moments a little brighter for some. I never told, and I remember some of them the next day wondering - with smiles - who might have done it.

Sometimes brightening a moment for another, can bring a little sun into our own lives. Pay it forward may have been a sappy movie, but the idea is always valid.

Just a thought.

Hugs and ♥

Chloë

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I feel like I could say all sorts of things, but they are all ironic. Like this one. "Don't worry, we can be lonely together!" I've only had someone on Valentine's for one year in my entire life, it's not so bad when you're numb to it. *frown*

Thanks DJ, thou it's not quite the same unless you wanna spend the evening on the sofa with my head in your lap, hogging all the popcorn while we watch DVDs of battlestar galactica.

LOL, that actually sounds like a great evening to me too.

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Guest Danielle J

Okay, the day is not important, It will be My wife's and mine 28th year together. But then it may also be our last, She has been supportive

of my cross dressing, but a Total transformation is freaking her out.

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Guest praisedbeherhooves
So International Nobody Loves Me Day is drawing near

the perfect time to think about all the past relationships I destroyed.

Seriously, I don't mean the entire thread to just be self pity, my friend pointed out that this time next year I could have guys showering me in gifts to show their affection.

But yeah, this year I'll be alone. I hope those of you fortunate enough to have someone, will be showing them just how much you appreciate them.

I feel you hun. :-/ For some reason I always get broken up with before St. Valentine's Day. Yeah, so I'll probably be spending the day in my room shielding myself from any possible reminder of St. Valentine's Day by not talking to anyone, not watching TV (which I generally don't anyway) and not going online. I've got a lot of books, cross word puzzles, sedokus, and plot ideas for stories so I think I can keep myself busy all day. If I get desperate I'll clean my room. *sigh* I hate that day!

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Guest julia_d

One of my previous had her birthday on 14th Feb.. that takes me back a bit.. It's not a day I take any notice of actually.. same as most of the others.

People who put such store by the "approved special days" are IMHO a bit sad.. it's far better to celebrate things which are personal.. if you feel a need to do something nice for a loved one then why don't you just do it?.. no "special" day is needed to tell somebody you love and care for them... It should be understood that you love every day..

Sam.. self reliance and strength takes time to grow. I have lived on my own.. totally alone now.. for 6 years. I don't need anybody and it's hard sometimes to realise soon I will be off to live with somebody full time again.. and I'm a little uncertain how I will take the loss of my total independence.

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Valentines day has always just been another day to me. I mean when I was with someone I'd buy them something, but the past 10 years that I've been single, It's just another day. I'd love someone to spoil for that day.

I'm also not big on New Years day either. I don't drink and I hate being around people that are drunk. Usually I end up working anyway, so it all works out. The only day in the year that holds any sentimental value to me is Thanksgiving.

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

Alrighty.... I was in your position a few years ago: thinking about the relationships I destroyed and thinking noone would ever love me and I'm going to be known as crazy cat lady and die alone. But then I had a change of heart. Valentines Day is all about love and romance and blah blah. Well for me, love stinks! So I made myself a promise to listen to nothing but that song all day on Feb. 14th. Some people thought I was crazy. Some people thought it was great. In the end, I had a fun day at work being the anti-love person. (this was a few years ago)

..and every year since I have repeated this tradition. (even when I was in a relationship. can't break a traidition!)

Now Valentines Day is my personal "Love Stinks!" day. It's awesome.

So, here are some links to the song:

First, the original by J. Geils Band

J. Geils Band - Love Stinks

Next a fantastic cover by Joan Jett

and lastly if you're into techno-metal, here's a metal cover!

Bile - Love Stinks

:D :D :D

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker
And theres a great version in the film "The Wedding Singer" .. recommended anyway as a great bit of comedy.. check it out.

LOL, yeah I like that one too. ;)

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