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Sally

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Well the day that I have waited for ever so long was today, I knew what it had in store for me and I was so eager to arrive at my therapists office that I left early - about an hour and a half early!

I sat in her outer office listing to peaceful music and enjoying the friendly surroundings and then the door opened and she said, "Hey, Sally - how long have you been her, Girl?"

I told her and she replied, "Someone must be excited."

We went in and she offered me a drink - I decided to splurge and have a root beer.

We talked just like always until almost the end of the session and then she got up and went to her computer and opened a file, an SRS letter, she inserted my file number for her reference and then my name in all of the appropriate places - Sally Michelle Jackson or Ms Jackson depending on the need.

She had asked me if I was going to have my name change before the SRS and I decided that I would like that better.

With my letter in my purse I headed to a nearby restaurant to have a celebratory meal - the greater (a rather short man) called me Sir but I didn't let that bother me today, my waitress was very pleasant and efficient, the server who brought my food was very polite and the cashier and I had a nice chat while she was ringing me up, as I was opening the door the greeter came up and said that he hoped that he would see me here again - so he redeemed himself a bit (much better than coming apart and begging forgiveness - this was subtle but polite - I can live with that)

It may not have been perfect but all in all it was only one Sir away!

I wish I could have been profound here but I just cannot seem to reach that level but I am crying a lot of happy tears!

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest sarah f

I am so happy for you Sally. :D You really deserve this day. I can only imagine how you feel inside right now. You have to be on cloud nine. Maybe we can go have a celebatory lunch for you next week. We can even hold up your tea and water for me and have a toast to you for getting your most important letter you can have.

CONGRATS

Love,

Sarah F

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  • Root Admin

And so, it has come to pass. Congratulations, hon. Now don't make us come over there to pry you off the ceiling. :P

Love ya, girlfriend.

MaryEllen :)

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All right Sally!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, way to go girl, you have your letters, that is so cool, i am a bit envious cause i have a bunch of hoops to jump thru but hopefully by this fall i will have my letters too.

Paula

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Guest BeckyTG

Top of the World Sally,

CONGRATULATIONS Sister! I'm so very happy for you. The day you've dreamed about has finally come.

A big hug for you,

Hhhhhuuuuuuggggg!

I love you,

Becky

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Guest Donna Jean

Sally......

Sweetheart, I'm not gonna say anything funny or silly this time..

I knew what was coming today and I spent all afternoon at work preoccupied...wondering at what point you would actually get it in your hand.

I'm pretty choked up for you right now...

This is an awesome milestone....

And, guess which three girlfriends have their surgery letters now?

Biggest warmest huggest HUGGS!

Your GF....

Donna Jean

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Guest Jean Davis

Congratulations Sally. :D

But OMG an hour and a half in the waiting room? I don't think that I could have just sat there waiting that long for something that important, I would have had to do something to take my mind off of it for awhile otherwise it would have driven me insane. ;) Well I guess I would have been in the right place for that to happen though. :lol:

I wish I could have been there to help you celebrate, we would have had soo much fun. I'm soo happy for you. :D

LUV

Jean

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YIPPPEEE!! WOOOOTTT!!

Hey, did someone say the magic code word - SRS?? :lol:

Ah, I thought so. It was you, Sally! GRIN!

Sally, I know how much this means to you, to have that wonderful piece of paper. I am very, very,

happy for you, and I'm smiling ear to ear.

Forget what ME said, you can stay up there on the ceiling until Fred Astaire himself comes up there to

dance you back down. Relish the feeling. Enjoy it. You are that much closer to your goal, girl. I'll

toast my Coke Zero to your diet Rootbeer. "clink" :D

Love

Carolyn Marie

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Guest praisedbeherhooves
Well the day that I have waited for ever so long was today, I knew what it had in store for me and I was so eager to arrive at my therapists office that I left early - about an hour and a half early!

I sat in her outer office listing to peaceful music and enjoying the friendly surroundings and then the door opened and she said, "Hey, Sally - how long have you been her, Girl?"

I told her and she replied, "Someone must be excited."

We went in and she offered me a drink - I decided to splurge and have a root beer.

We talked just like always until almost the end of the session and then she got up and went to her computer and opened a file, an SRS letter, she inserted my file number for her reference and then my name in all of the appropriate places - Sally Michelle Jackson or Ms Jackson depending on the need.

She had asked me if I was going to have my name change before the SRS and I decided that I would like that better.

With my letter in my purse I headed to a nearby restaurant to have a celebratory meal - the greater (a rather short man) called me Sir but I didn't let that bother me today, my waitress was very pleasant and efficient, the server who brought my food was very polite and the cashier and I had a nice chat while she was ringing me up, as I was opening the door the greeter came up and said that he hoped that he would see me here again - so he redeemed himself a bit (much better than coming apart and begging forgiveness - this was subtle but polite - I can live with that)

It may not have been perfect but all in all it was only one Sir away!

I wish I could have been profound here but I just cannot seem to reach that level but I am crying a lot of happy tears!

Love ya,

Sally

:D YAY! I'm so happy for you! Good luck Sally, you deserve all the happiness in the world for all you've done for people on this forum.

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Guest NatashaJade

I'm so very happy for you, dear. I know the kind of unreal cloud that must be around you right now, like everything is out of focus just a little and there you are, in the middle of it and all those things outside just matter a little less right now.

All the best for you as you move forward. You deserve it.

luv

Gin

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Guest Joanna Phipps

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

omg Momma, Im so happy for you. I know it must feel fantastic to have the first letter of approva for that life changing event.

crossing my fingers for friday

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Guest Donna Jean

Ok, Sally.............

You've had a chance to sleep on it....

Did you sleep in your bed or float about the ceiling like an errant balloon?

Still good?

Good!

LOVE

Donna Jean

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Guest Angelgrlsue

Hey big sis!! Woohoooooooooo!!!!! Yeah SALLY!!!! I'm so happy for you hon. You are moving right along and achieving your goals. This is wonderful news and I am proud of you. :-)

Love,

Suzie

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Guest SusanKG

Wonderful Sally. I'm so happy for you! I'd like to repeat Joanna's enthusiasm, but I only have one "A" key on my computer! :rolleyes: Reading between the lines, it sounds as if we may be getting more terrific news from Joanna shortly. Lead on you Super Women, lead on!

SusanKG

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