Outed - But No One Would Believe

[Guest Elizabeth K]

I am vacationing in a small Southern town and my wife and I are shopping and resturant visiting - and she likes the casino.

She lets me pretty much dress as myself when out of state - but I don't get famboyant - just jeans and a nice top. And the weather is cold so I am kinda bulked up in a jacket mostly.

BUT we went in a souviner shop - and I was 'ma'amed' by the clerks right off the bat - stayed in voice and all - did my shopping. I am almost 6'2" for those who don't know, but pass pretty well most places.

There was a group of tourists there talking (the South is like that - tourists talk to each other) and I gave an opinion, shock my head. Thw woman says 'she doesn't agree' so I knew I was perceived as I should be. Then all but the one man left - tall fellow, good looking. He talked with me, explained he was in town to help out a friend - the shop owner it turned out. BUT

He suspected that I was more than met they eye. He asked me how long I had been married to my wife She was shopping and talking with me on and off.

Later I thought it through and I think he was probably gay. He was testing me - so I just switched to the married gay guy personalityl. And we talked.

BUT

The clerks picked up on it - that I was married to a woman, more than anything else. I had exposed my chest when trying on T-shirts. The girl clerk later kept looking at my chest - so obviously she knew I was actually a woman.

She refused to accept my married gay guy mode - thought my wife and I were Lesbians. This is not the first time. At our pharmacy one of the clerks SWEARS my wife is married to a woman - points out I have no Adams apple!

So I can't pass anymore it some situations, as a male- it's awkward.

BUT

It's where I am going - it's what I want.

I just thought I'd post this. We DO eventually get where we want to. WE DO get seen as ourselves. It is NOT THE CLOTHING, necessarily- it is our attitude.

Lizzy

[Guest NatashaJade]

Lizzy,

When you get to the point where people have a hard time believing you are not a woman, then it may just be time to stop pretending you are a man.

luv

Gin

[Guest sarah f]

I am happy for you in that you finally realized it is time for you to stop trying to be the man you are no longer part of. You are all woman and that is the way it should be. Now you just have to convince your wife as much.

By the way what did your wife think of the whole thing in the shop?

Love,

Sarah F

[Guest viv]

Hi Lizzy,,,long winded reply hun...Saw one of those Aliens movies a while back.

Two people are sitting in a helicopter in this scene , one ,a woman, she uses a

term which meant "past the point of safe return ",,it was nearer to where they

were going as apposed to where they came from . And thats you Lizzy ,

nearer to where you are going ,,,way too far to go back.You really do look so

good hun,,,,,you encourage so many of us here , thanks , viv

[Guest Donna Jean]

Viv.....

What you are refering to is the "Bingo" point...

In aviation that's the point where you don't have enough fuel to turn back so, you must press on ahead...

Lizzy...that is where you are now...you've passed the bingo point...there's no turning back now for you!

There is nothing else for you to do....

You're a woman now...there are just a few things that need done on your part to be at your destination!

Love you!

Donna Jean

[Guest viv]

Yep, remember now Donna Jean. The phrase or sentence came

to me when I read Lizz"s post ...BINGO!!!! no going back now

hun,,,,viv

[Sally]

Lizzy,

They are referring to the Bingo point but I want you to know that you were past that point long ago, I knew it in September when we first met face to face - I knew that you had no choice no matter what would make you stop - it was too late to be anything besides the wonderful lady that you are.

Love ya,

Sally

[Paula ult]

Lizzy sweety,

I hit that magical spot last May/June, the first was when going to the voting place and a man quite rudely asked if i was a man or a woman, he could not tell, later that day doors were held open for me by several men at two different stores, then in June when practicing for a charity golf match, granted i was wearing woman's shorts, top, golf shoes and visor but no makeup, i was ma'am'd a few times, my good friends husband who i played with and did not know i was transitioning, told me the next day after his wife told him said he had heard me being ma'am'd. I knew at that point full time was only a few months away.

I am sure you have passed that magical point, my guess is most if not all your co-workers and managers have noticed the changes too but choose not to say anything.

It is time to create a time line for going full time, including work, my guess is very few will be surprised, but i know the issues you have had in the past with jobs, so it is your call.

HUGS!!!

Paula

[Carolyn Marie]

That's really a great story Lizzy. Yes, I agree with everyone else...time to pay attention to all the flashing neon signs that say "WOMAN ON BOARD,"

and turn that final corner to full time. You've earned it, you've worked hard for it, you deserve it.

I couldn't be happier for you, hon. Go get 'em, girl!

HUGS

Carolyn Marie