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Word Of Caution With Name Change Papwerwork


Guest Austen

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My petition for name change is done and over with, save for the court date. However, I did learn something from the process I wanted to make sure everyone knew.

Many states have self-serve paperwork available for filing the petition with the court. Part of this packet - at least in Indiana - is a publication requirement. In Indiana, this means publishing a short personal announcement in a paper in the county for three consecutive weeks. No big deal, right?

Wrong. Be _very_ careful when filling out this publication information. The paper you run the ad in must run _exactly_ what is written on the publication paper for it to be valid in the court of law. How much information this shares depends largely on the form you put in.

My mistake was filling out a form that had my complete street address on it. Needless to say, my full name (male and female), address, and court date were _all printed in a metropolitan newspaper_ for three weeks. I thought it wouldn't be a big deal, but then I got an unsolicited love letter from a convict at a local penitentiary who "just happened to see my address in the announcements." Yeah. Scary stuff.

Please, please, please be careful. Read the papers you are filing VERY carefully.

(Lovely man, really: serving time for rape and child moldestation. I'm sure he was a winner. :( )

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Guest sarah f

Thanks for the heads up. That is really scary stuff to see that in the paper and then have some criminal like that send you a love letter. Be careful and think about moving away from your current address with no forwarding address.

Love,

Sarah F

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Guest Donna Jean

OMG, Austen!

That IS scary!

Was the address a requirement for filing the announcement?

I think that if it is, it should be changed...to put someone at risk like that should not be a requirement!

Dang that!

LOVE

Donna Jean

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I went through a lawyer,

Got name and marker,only paperwork I signed

was in his office,he took care of everything else.

Best dang five hundred dollars I Ever Spent I might add.

It was one year ago on the fifth of this month I got my

name change.It set me free to be a woman legally and

go anywhere I felt or feel comfortable going into.And I

have used the ladies room in straight bars,fitting rooms

and restaurants,swam and walked the beach in a string

bikini without fear. It is truly remarkable the effect one

little F on our ID has on one of us.UmmHmm

Hugs,

Angie

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In Cleveland Ohio you have no choice, the court takes care of the add, your name change notice is published in a legal news paper, it is not a local paper your neighbors will read unless they are a lawyer, i found this reassuring. Seems like it is done differently everywhere you go.

Paula

In Cleveland Ohio you have no choice, the court takes care of the add, your name change notice is published in a legal news paper, it is not a local paper your neighbors will read unless they are a lawyer, i found this reassuring. Seems like it is done differently everywhere you go.

Paula

In Cleveland Ohio you have no choice, the court takes care of the add, your name change notice is published in a legal news paper, it is not a local paper your neighbors will read unless they are a lawyer, i found this reassuring. Seems like it is done differently everywhere you go.

Paula

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I went through a lawyer,

Got name and marker,only paperwork I signed

was in his office,he took care of everything else.

Best dang five hundred dollars I Ever Spent I might add.

It was one year ago on the fifth of this month I got my

name change.It set me free to be a woman legally and

go anywhere I felt or feel comfortable going into.And I

have used the ladies room in straight bars,fitting rooms

and restaurants,swam and walked the beach in a string

bikini without fear. It is truly remarkable the effect one

little F on our ID has on one of us.UmmHmm

Hugs,

Angie

Hmm, another reason to move back to TX :D

In MI you have to be post op to change your ID to F (For now at least, might become impossible after Nov depending on if Paul Scott gets elected).

Love and *hugs*

Mae

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