Confused

[Guest ccharles]

I swear i am developing a crazy double personality. The male personality and the female personality. I have even got half and half on all the masculine/feminine tests i have taken. I am terribly confused now. I wish i could just deal with getting through puberty.

[MaryEllen]

Hello Charles,

Welcome to Laura's Playground. I hear you when you say you're confused. Have you considered talking with a gender therapist to resolve some of your confusion? Most of the time when you try to figure it out for yourself, you just create more confusion

Feel free to ask questions. Many of our members have the same confusions and could give you advice on how to handle it. Good luck.

MaryEllen

[Guest sarah f]

Welcome to Laura's Charles. You found the right site if you have questions. We will try to help the best we can but sometimes a therapist is the key to discovering yourself. Keep on posting and we will try to answer the best we can.

Love,

Sarah F

[Guest Donna Jean]

Hello, Charles!

Welcome to the Playground, Hon.

Oh my goodness...confusion....confusion...confusion...

We have so many people hear dealing with confusion on so many levels...

I think that maybe some of those could be of help to you, so be sure to ask some questions...OK?

Now, I'm gonna get you a mug of coco and a plate of Sally's cookies to help you relax...

And I'll ask you to take a minute to read the forum rules...you'll find a link at the top of most pages!

We moderate this site to keep it safe, too!

So, why don't you sit back and just relax...

You can post and join in ...get and give answers and I'm sure that will be of help to you!

Nice to have you, Hon!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Guest ChloëC]

Hi ccharles,

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

I see by your identification that you put cross-dresser. And, well, yes, I think that if you are not considering transitioning that for some and maybe you, there will be that confusion. People cross-dress for various reasons, many just because for whatever reason they enjoy wearing certain clothes. Others like myself, feel we're a little bit further along, beyond just wearing clothes, maybe even imagining a different life, or possibly seeing how close we can come to passing, but have decided at this time to not explore the possibility of transitioning. But, there is still that feeling that a part of me is one, and another part of me is another (which is why I put down transgender which to me is a little more involved than cross-dresser).

Of course, my memories are still of one person, and I have never had any 'conflict' between the two, because I don't personally believe it is two personalities. It's just one that needs to express itself different ways depending on how I feel, and what I want. Some here have described the feeling we get as being in a 'pink fog'. There is confusion, but there is also at times a great feeling of relaxation when dressed or presenting as the opposite gender.

But, that's me. If your feelings persist and you stay confused and are not sure what you want, then as the others have suggested, you probably should see a gender therapist and work out what your feelings are, and how you want to deal with them.

Anyway, we're glad you found us and hopefully some of your questions may be answered.

Hugs

Chloë