How To Lie?

[Guest Emily H]

You are in your male role. (or, for female crossdressers, your female role).

Somebody jokes. "Yeah, we ought to see YOU in a dress, that would be great!"

Complete joke.

How do you respond?

Today, one of my teachers who is used to teaching all male classes (engineering/digital electronics) said that us men would stop being so destructive if we put on dresses and high heels. Of course, she said that in the most joking manner ever, nothing mean, just a funny little joke.

Of course, being the only girl in all of her classes, I found it hard to object, but of course i had to, but putting a comedic spin on it all of course.

So....how do you react to moments like that?

~Emily

[Guest ChloëC]

Emily,

This is one of the questions I've thought long and hard about, because there have been several times where I could have done the 'drag' thing for costume parties. I personally have been concerned that 1, I'll take it too seriously and get into it too much and have to live down lots of semi-serious and/or lewd jokes for months to come. 2, related to 1 is that I would never consider doing a caricature of a women if I was to dress in public, even in costume (like the 'actors' on RuPaul's show)

We have a friend who is about 6'5" and he came once as Bride of Frankenstein. It worked well, but mostly only because of his size, and people's understanding of the character.

So, to answer your question, I'd go along with the 'joke', saying something like, yeah, right, and turn it back on them, suggesting, hey, I know, we could come as cheerleaders, I think you'd be great. And I probably have done so, because that kind of line usually ends it in a hurry.

Hugs

Chloë

[Guest sarah f]

You should have asked if you get extra credit if you do.

Love,

Sarah F

[Guest Elizabeth K]

An awkward situation! We sometimes just have to half-chuckle and let it go.

I am a woman heart and soul, but I have to present male at work. How do I respond to a coworker that comes over and nudges me, saying,"come look at this!" Then shows me a nude woman on some website. I usually say "just be careful the boss is around!" I want to say "STOP LOOKING AT SITES THAT EXPLOIT WOMEN!"

Of a beautiful woman passes -nudge nudge - 'wouldn't you like to get it on with that one?" {actually I would but not as that person expects - grin!}

And if the coworkesr say (this happened yesterday) - (woman secretary) 'I keep my nails short', (male coworker at the computer) 'I prefer that too!' I am sitting at my desk with long beautiful 'sorta womanly' nails. All I could think to say was - I keep mine long 'cause I am a nail biter!

AWKWARD!

Watta ya do? "SPIN" - find a quick answer that won't compromise you, out you, or really be a huge lie!

That's why we transgender are so smart! We have to be quick and smart with everything we do! GRIN

Lizzy

[Guest Donna Jean]

Lizzy is so right!

We Transsexual have to learn to be quick on our feet (or brains!)

What do you do when you get to work and forget to take off your earrings? Oh My!

Or you don't get all of that eye liner off and a co-worker or school mate says something?

I personally abhor "Girley" pictures but, I work in a macho field and I'm exposed to it..

We all have to learn to get around it somehow until we're out (us MTF) at witch time I hope that it stops...

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Sally]

I tend to go along, Dee Jay says that I am just about one more comment from being outed at work.

I have gone so far as to actually flirt with a coworker after he had made a comment objectifying women, I batted my eyes and said, "is that all I have to do to get a free dinner - wear a short skirt?"

I am noted for always joking so everyone just laughs and moves on then I don't have to hear any more of those comments for a while.

If they show me one of 'those' pictures where the girl is naked except for a scarf or a pair of spike heels I comment on the shoes and they don't bother again - I am not nearly as worried about what others think as I used to be.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest sarah f]

Dee Jay, I think one of my defense mechanisms about the bad pictures is that I usually just say wow or something like that to just pass it off. They don't suspect a thing.

Love,

Sarah F