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im so confused right now, ive came out about being transgender to my mom and my friend. but no one at my school, i just recently came out about being bi , and girls are all shocked and one girl acts like she likes me and her friends asked do i like her, and now every ones all who u like my friend says they ask so they can judge is it true. i got my report card and i crossed out my girl name and put my boy name on it befor i gave it to my mom next day my sister ended up seeing it and was like huh who the heck is that, i said me shes like why u change name i said i was just goofing off she said um ok but why a boys name, i just said ;cause i can; and she droped it im not sure what to tell her, my mom told me to let her handle it because she knows my sister dont believe in gay or trnsgender people nor does my dad, when i start high school i want to go as a boy, but when my bday comes i want to be out complety. idk what to do.

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Guest sarah f

Welcome to Laura's Zac. I am glad you found the site and looking for answers to your questions. There will be others around your age that you can hopefully relate to and become contacts with here.

As far as school goes and coming out, that is totally up to you and how comfortable you are with the peer pressure that will be coming. There will be some that accept you and some that will tease and try to bully you. That just comes with the territory of being a trans. I wish you all the luck at school and at home.

Keep on posting your questions and we will try to help.

Love,

Sarah F

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Guest Donna Jean

Good morning, Zac....

Welcome to the playground!

I'll get you a hot slice of breakfast pizza and a cold drink to help you wake up!

Honey....coming out is hard for all of us. We have to prepare for the worst and hope for the best...

I hope that yours goes smoothly...

Now, if you would, please take a look at the forum rules..there's a link at the top of most pages!

And we moderate this site to keep it safe for everyone!

Now..kick off your shoes and relax a while....OK

It's so very nice to have you!

HUGGS

Donna Jean

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Guest Elizabeth K

To answer your question? Take it in small steps. Don't try to do everything at once. You have time to get settled in to yourself - what you are - and it doesn't have to be all at once!

Lizzy

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Hello and welcome to the forums.

You have gotten the best advice possible - transitioning is not a race it is a journey and they are best started slowly so that you can continue without having to keep stopping to catch your breath.

Enjoy your time in transition, that may seem strange advice but it is the bridge between the old and the new you - look around there are many wonders just like the views from ma bridge near a waterfall.

Welcome to the family.

Love ya,

Sally

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ty for welcomeing me, and the advice. you all are pretty much saying same thing like ya agree and stuff and thats what i;ll do lol it funny how most of the people who replyed are mods :P

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