Dreams

[Guest ccharles]

for the past week i have been having dreams of telling my parents of my crossdressing and or getting caught doin it. Should i tell my parents that i crossdress. I just want to stop having these dreams

[Carolyn Marie]

Charles, I don't know your situation, but I suggest not letting your dreams dictate your actions.

Dreams probably are an indication of what is on your mind during your waking hours, so that makes perfect sense. But dreams are a natural

way for your mind to deal with stress, and relieve stress. Simply doing whatever you do in your dreams won't necessarily stop you from having

them.

Think about all of the ramifications of coming out to your parents, pro and con. Consider whether this is the right time, or how necessary it is.

If you come to the conclusion that it is the right time, and the pros outweigh the cons, then do what you think is best. But don't do it just to try

to stop having a particular dream. You could end up living a nightmare if things go wrong.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest]

Hello Charles,

Don't let your dreams influence your conscious thoughts, too much. Your dreams indicate an anxiety about being caught dressed - you're not alone there. But think it out consciously about how your parents will react and what the consequences may be either way. Only you know your parents well enough to decide what they need to know. Give it some thought... Best wishes, however you decide.

Love, Kat

[Sally]

Dreams are Dreams - a reflection of our conscious mind but sometimes distorted so they should not be used as an absolute guide to life.

Think it through and decide based on your thought processes not your dreams.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Charles hon,

As the others have said, don't act upon dreams alone. I think what you are experiencing is the guilt and shame many of us feel initially when we start to crossdress and explore our awakening gender. When I was your age, I felt terribly guilty when ever I crossdressed. As a matter fo fact, that guilty feeling went on well into my adulthood until I relaxed and accepted who I was.

To me, it sound like you feel guilty and want to confess to your parents (which is pefectly OK). I thnk that for starters, try to move past the guilt (I know it is easier said than done).

HUGS

Brenda

[Guest Jean Davis]

Hi Charles

I see that you have gotten some real good advice from everyone her thus far. The only thing that I can add is if you feel that the time is comming near that you may want to tell your parents, perhaps you would bring up the subject from a neutral point of veiw and see what their reactions will be. Perhaps read a book or watch a movie with them and bring up the subject for discussion with out saying anything about yourself. In doing this you will have a better understanding on how they feel about the subject and when you decide it is time to tell them you will be able to alter how you introduce yourself. Plus dropping little hints along the way will help to prepare them for the news when the time comes.

Hope this helps.

LUV

Jean

[Guest Emily H]

I wouldn't make a life changing decision based on dreams, but I would listen to them. Do you, in your waking mind, all dreams aside, think that the end result of telling your parents would be a good idea?

I used to have dreams that after I told my parents, I got to wear dresses and pantyhose around the house whenever I wanted. Eventually all I had was female clothes, and they became just my clothes, not female clothes- That, was very different than the reality.

But, do listen to your dreams. Maybe its something you should try and think about more, but don't just jump in and do it. Maybe you could try testing the waters first, making a comment about a crossdresser or someone like that to your parents, and see what their reaction is.

~Emily

[Guest ccharles]

I had given some thought and brought up crossdressing in a conversation. I did tell my parents. Actually i told my father because my mother was away. i haven't told my mother though but i'm sure she'd understand.