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I know I have mentioned that I have a sister that has liver cancer. I have been told she wants nothing to do with me. I have tried for the past months to be a support for my 80 year old mom. And i worry that she is wearing out. Anyway. in talking to one of my cousins today, she told me I should contact my sister. So, I decided to write her. I sent an e-mail that said...I love you very much....and i know i have never said that before. And i know I am an embarrassement to the family...but if you need me...I am there.....I love you. " It's really hard, dealing with this....being on the outside,,,,wanting to give love....and being denied. My sister and i have never seen eye to eye. But I would give my life for her. And I am hoping she will see that i love her....and allow me in. Mu cousin also mentioned about going home ..being there for my mom. ...but i told her....I am not allowed....I have been told ...not to come home....what would the neighbors think? Hard stuff.

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Hon, that message to your sister is full of love. I do hope with all my heart that she sees the love in it too, and opens that door, even a crack.

I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you. You really have done all you can, and no one can say you haven't tried.

You are a good person. I hope you family can learn to accept you.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Donna Jean

Yes, Honey....very hard stuff...

I've been thinking of coming out to my sister in Fla. soon....

I'll do it this afternoon.....

It's time....

Your post inspired me to do it now...

LOVE & HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Family ?? Now thats the biggie . If theres acceptance your Transition

is so much easier ,,they keep you strong and are a shoulder in hard

times . I hope Hun your family open their arms to you . I do know

all too well how you feel Justme . luv,viv :)

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Guest Justme

Hey Donna Jean, Just writing to say...if you chose to come out to your sister today...I wish you the best. It's not an easy thing. I send you good wishes...good thoughts ...for a great outcome

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Hey Donna Jean, Just writing to say...if you chose to come out to your sister today...I wish you the best. It's not an easy thing. I send you good wishes...good thoughts ...for a great outcome

Me 2 ,,,,,viv :)

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Guest Katrina Reann

Sadly when it comes to GID and transitioning loved ones often push us away for many reasons. One of the biggest reasons is fear of what they do not understand. You can go out and get all the information in the world about GID but the truth is they still won't understand everything we go through, because they are not going through it themselves. And even sadder is the fact that some will not even try to understand or see how their reactions hurts us. All we can do is let them know how we feel about them as you did, JustMe. I know it is hard, hun and no one can ever take the place of your birth family. But remember you do have a family here that does understand and does love and care about you very much. Always hang on to that truth no matter what...Huggsss...Katrina

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