Good Things About Being Transgendered

[Guest Girl Emily]

Hello everybody,

Part of cognitive behavioral therapy is stopping negative self talk by replacing it with positive self talk that is true. Donna Jeans last comment on how she loved the positive feeling generated with the "Favorite Body Part" topic and I thought this could be another positive topic. So to start the list here are my ideas:

1. We are smarter than the average cisgendered.

2. We get the unique opportunity to experience puberty as both genders

3. Us M2F can fully enjoy sex without the concern of an unplanned pregnancy think of all those cis women worried about taking a pill every day and that's not 100%.

4. We have an understanding of the opposite sex the cis people will never have.

5. We get to have two first kisses, dance, date, all the sex things

6. Some of us get to be both bride and groom, best man and maid of honor, mom and dad grandpa and grandma.

Huggs,

[Guest viv]

Emily,,,I loved reading that . And I agree with all you say ,

lots of wonderful stuff to look forward to . You made my day

Hun,,,thanks, luv,viv

[Sally]

The cis gendered only live once, we get to live twice.

There is something amazing about discovering who you really are

We get to realize our dreams - most people never do

The number one good thing about being Transgendered for me is actually looking forward to each day to see the changes

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest praisedbeherhooves]

Hello everybody,

Part of cognitive behavioral therapy is stopping negative self talk by replacing it with positive self talk that is true. Donna Jeans last comment on how she loved the positive feeling generated with the "Favorite Body Part" topic and I thought this could be another positive topic. So to start the list here are my ideas:

1. We are smarter than the average cisgendered.

2. We get the unique opportunity to experience puberty as both genders

3. Us M2F can fully enjoy sex without the concern of an unplanned pregnancy think of all those cis women worried about taking a pill every day and that's not 100%.

4. We have an understanding of the opposite sex the cis people will never have.

5. We get to have two first kisses, dance, date, all the sex things

6. Some of us get to be both bride and groom, best man and maid of honor, mom and dad grandpa and grandma.

Huggs,

Not to be contrarian, but I disagree with these. I take issue with the first one. We are not smarter than the average cisgender. Less ignorant perhaps but I doubt there is a correlation between transgenderism and intelligence. My "unique" experience of female puberty is something I really woudl have rather not have as it would have saved me from years of self injury and emotional and physical pain. I have no understanding of the majority of women, though there are exceptions, and the ones I do understand a bit I don't understand very much. Though, I don't understand people as a whole for that matter. For those of us who were lucky enough to start transitioning early, the last two are not really relevant.

On the other hand, here are some of the things I like about being FTM

1. We generally have a better understanding of discrimination against women than most cisgender men.

2. We cannot knock a girl up.

3. Some straight girls and gay guys think certain feminine features are cute.

That's all I can think of for now that applies in general.

[Guest Girl Emily]

Praisedbeherhooves,

A study of Californians self identified as transgendered showed a higher than average educational level. I am equating educational level with intelligence though it may not always be a fair comparison.

You perhaps are correct that some may apply more to the older set and I would like to add the one about undrrstanding. Girls in general reach a maturity of understanding themselves and their relationship to the world at about 25. Boys reach the same understanding at about 28 generally. At 38 I do have an understanding of what it is like to feel all the pressure placed on men to fulfill their gender role. I don't understand their desire to sow their oats as they say, but maybe that is more hormone driven anyways. I don't believe my understanding of women is nearly what it will become.

Huggs,

[Guest Oasis]

Another trait that shines in the transgendered community is endurance.

[Guest Naomi Stardust]

one of the best things about being trans

is Laura's

[Guest Yinyang Mist]

Wonderful ideals! Thanks for sharing the positive side!

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Add

You get to have these weird - farout - bizarro talks with your theapist

You get to borrow your girlfriend/wife/significant other's clothes

You have two or more birthdays

That strange Carol King song "CLOUDS" suddenly makes sense

You have wonderful friends that understand you INSTANTLY

You get to pick your own name

You get to be yourself - FINALLY

You get to make lists... ummm.... NEVERMIND

hee hee

Lizzy

[Guest My_Genesis]

As a ftm, you get exposure to female socialisation that provides insight other guys may not have. We may have grown up around girls more than most guys do. For example, if they have viewed you as "one of them", girls will talk to you about things they may not be comfortable talking about with a guy. So in that sense I understand women better. Even though I really don't understand women But we may be more comfortable around girls, even if we don't totally understand how their minds work lol, we've at least been provided with some insight growing up. I say this b/c my dad told me he was always nervous around girls because he didn't grow up with any girls except his mom. So he didn't really know how to relate to girls. I grew up with a sister and was socialised as a female (at least, to the extent others assumed I was female - there are things I did however such as the toys I played with, that are more like male socialisation)

I'm not gonna say the thing about not being able to get a girl pregnant because I may want to be a father one day, so I hope one day I will be able to do that.

Anyway.

I think being trans has made me a stronger person. I like to think I am a strong and courageous individual.

I think being trans has made me a better person. It gives you a better appreciation for life, and a lot of guys take being guys for granted, "abuse their privileges" so to speak by making mistakes such as taking advantage of women or being insensitive towards women. As ftm's we have a sense of humility and don't take being male for granted. We don't abuse our "male privilege."

Being trans makes you really dig into yourself to discover who you really are.

[Guest Katrina Reann]

We are more open minded and understanding than most.

We tend to reach out to the hurting, outcast, and depressed people to help them work through things. Because we have been there.

For ftm's who are married we understand women's clothing sizes and can buy things for our wives. And we understand just how much work goes into making a woman look pretty.

We know what it feels like to have a strong wind blow our skirt up over our head or have it tucked into to our pantyhose.

The look on the sales people's faces when they realize you are trans is priceless as well as those who take a triple take to figure out if you are m or f.

We usually have a good sense of humor and are able to laugh at ourselves when we walk out of the house with make up on, nails painted, earrings in, or still wearing our silicone breast (for those not on HRT) while in male mode.

We are the best of both worlds whether we are mtf or ftm.

[Guest Donna Jean]

A new begining......................

Donna Jean

[Guest Elizabeth K]

A new begining......................

Donna Jean

At my age, all my friends are slowing down, retiring, buying burial plots!

I am buying training bras!

Woooowzers!

hee hee

Lizzy

[Guest My_Genesis]

At my age, all my friends are slowing down, retiring, buying burial plots!

I am buying training bras!

Woooowzers!

hee hee

Lizzy

newfound appreciation for life and an enjoyment of being alive. I haven't gotten too far into transition yet but i've heard others say this and I can already see it is starting to happen to me just thinking about what is to come.

[Guest Kieri]

newfound appreciation for life and an enjoyment of being alive.

This is such a big one that I'm going to repeat it. Prior to beginning transition, I didn't care about anything. If someone told me that I was going to die tomorrow I wouldn't bat an eye. Now though? I'm getting hopes and dreams, I want to do things and better myself, I like the person I see in the mirror, and I make other people happy just by being myself. I couldn't ask for anything more. It's just wonderful

[Sally]

We get an actual second chance - a chance to live our lives as we had always meant to - most people get trapped into a rut and are afraid to break out - the fear of changing careers pales by comparison to changing genders.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Girl Emily]

A childlike playfulness again.

[Guest praisedbeherhooves]

Hello everybody,

Part of cognitive behavioral therapy is stopping negative self talk by replacing it with positive self talk that is true. Donna Jeans last comment on how she loved the positive feeling generated with the "Favorite Body Part" topic and I thought this could be another positive topic. So to start the list here are my ideas:

1. We are smarter than the average cisgendered.

2. We get the unique opportunity to experience puberty as both genders

3. Us M2F can fully enjoy sex without the concern of an unplanned pregnancy think of all those cis women worried about taking a pill every day and that's not 100%.

4. We have an understanding of the opposite sex the cis people will never have.

5. We get to have two first kisses, dance, date, all the sex things

6. Some of us get to be both bride and groom, best man and maid of honor, mom and dad grandpa and grandma.

Huggs,

New one!

If you are pre-testosterone or early testosterone FTM you probably look younger than your age. In the Boston metropolitan area, a child under eleven accompanied by an adult can ride the subway for free. However, in practice, any child under eleven will ride the subway for free if you are giving the ticket to the conductor, as opposed to the machine. Since the stop closest to me has me give the ticket to the conductor, I save about half my money. For example, I went to hang out with Mika (KaosMikazuki on here) today in Boston. If the conductor knew I was 16 I would have paid two dollars to get there and two dollars back, but since I look like I'm a little kid I got to get there for free and pay to dollars back.

[Guest]

Being trans makes you really dig into yourself to discover who you really are.

Quote from the movie, 5th Element: "That what don't kill you makes you stronger."

Many people go through life without monumental challenges and therefore haven't had the opportunity to grow from them.

Kat

[Guest My_Genesis]

Quote from the movie, 5th Element: "That what don't kill you makes you stronger."

Many people go through life without monumental challenges and therefore haven't had the opportunity to grow from them.

Kat

"That which doesn't kill you makes you stronger" - one of my personal mantras.

And I completely agree, about people going through life with no monumental challenges. This is something that gives us an opportunity to grow as a person.

[Guest NatashaJade]

We get to take the road less traveled...(and for us MtF folk, we get to do it cuter clothes).

luv

Gin

[Guest ricka]

I am definitely happy and contented being a transgendered woman and far happier than I ever was trying to be a male. I love having a female body/female features, I love looking younger as a woman, experiencing my sexuality as a hetero woman and being able to be in a relationship with a man as a woman and feeling physically attractive to a man as a woman. I am at peace with myself and with God as a woman and am grateful to God for creating my as I am.

I love my womanly nature of being caring, accepting, compassionate and nurturing.

Hugs, Ricka