New To The Forum, Girlfriend Or Crossdress?

[Guest Caiti]

Ok first I am 17 and I have been CD'ing on and off since i was about 13 but I have never put on make-up or anything like that. For me its strictly been clothes. But as I am growing up I am finding more and more that I feel less guilty about dressing and that I enjoy being in the clothes longer and longer. I am a closet dresser by the way not sure if thats important. This is the first time I have ever gone to a website or even looked into th real world of crossdressing outside my room so I am a little nervous Anyway my main confusion is whether or not I should could with my dressing or just let it fade and stay with my girlfriend. I love her and ive been with her for over a year now. See the problem is that she is very accepting so she wouldn't leave me but I know it the relationship would ease its way into just being best friends again like we were before but on a whole new level of course. So any advice comments or even jokes to kinda calm my nerves would be appreciated thanks for listening bye!

[Guest Jean Davis]

Hey Caiti

Welcome to the family, so nice to see you.

Well, I se this is your very first post to our forums, so I decided to move your topic to the introductions forum so that you will have more people come to greet you.

As for your question, I do believe that you should be true to yourself before you decide to get serious with anyone or at the very least explain to the person you would like to get close to what you are going through.

I know that this is not exactly what you would like to hear but if you care for your girlfriend isn't it the least that you owe her. To hide the truth from her will only lead to troubles down the road. Because what most of us try to hide usually surfaces in different ways because we aren't being true to ourselves.

I have come to see that through all my efforts to hide who I am that it usually surfaced in different ways that held me back from growing as an individual and sometimes hurt the ones that I cared for.

LUV

Jean

[Guest Donna Jean]

Hello, Caiti....

Welcome to the Playground!

Oh my...that's some really good advice from Jean..

It's true, Hon....Better to be true to yourself and save problems on down the line..It may not be the thing that you'd really like to do, but, it's best in the long run...

I wish you lots of luck!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Guest Caiti]

Thank you for the warm welcome

I know i should be true to myself but I don't know who my true self is. I dont know if I should look more into dressing. I'm really afraid that if I go that route but then find I dont like it, it may already be too late. Gah its all so confusing! haha

[Guest Alex Blitzen]

Welcome to Laura's

[Guest Jean Davis]

Read honey, read.

Also feel free to ask questions and post replies.

And if you can't find your answers here then you can contact a gender therapist.

Don't worry honey, you have time. If your girlfriend cares for you she will wait for you, but you do have to explain to her.

LUV

Jean

[Guest Caiti]

I would hope I can find the info I need I mean this site is HUGE and full of it but for right now I think I need to sleep!

Again thank you everyone for the warm welcome and I hope I can continue to progress on this site and I hope it will eventually merge with the rest fo my life!

Good night everyone!

[Guest Princess Alexa]

Heyy hun,

i read ur post and ima closet dresser too! Look, my opinion is, you have ta live within yourself before you can live outward. If cross dressing really is apart of who you are, and you deny yourself that right to dress, then your girlfriend wont be going out with you, she will be going out with a static image of what you think she wants. There's my thought of it ^^ hope it helps!

[Guest ChloëC]

Caiti,

I've been pretty much a cd all my life (from age 4 to now, almost 63). And for the most part, it has never gone away. Even when I wanted it too. It's just something that's part of me, and from reading here and other places, a part of practically every cd'ers life. But it does ebb and flow, I can go for several weeks and not have much desire and then, whoop! I've got to do it.

I still dress privately (but I have ventured out on several occasions, but never near anyone), tho my spouse does know and we have tried to incorporate it into our private times. It wasn't quite the same. But having her know and accept it to a degree means I feel a lot better about doing it and about myself. And if I could, I would dress a lot more, but I can deal with the time available.

This is not to say it is or would be be the same for you, but from everything I've read, I'm fairly standard.

As others have suggested, seeing a gender therapist is a good idea if you've got serious questions and concerns. Even then, it's still for you to decide what you want to do. And if you have any questions, please ask. There are a number of cd'ers here that are quite happy to share.

Hugs

Chloë

[Guest miss kindheart]

Hi Caiti,

<<hug>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules.

We have Cross Dressers meetings -Tues 8pm est, and you are welcome to attend.

We all look forward to seeing you.

vanna