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Guest Light Perpetual

-Wiggles a little in seat. Ahahanervous.-

I guess I just wanna see how people want to take their aesthetics with their androgyny. Me personally, I don't view myself as having a "gender", per se, but I see myself as both male and female (granted, missing a few bits of myself, but). In this vein, I have a two main bases for my own "ideal" fashion--a blend of "masculine" and "feminine" style, and a neuter style. The former would effectively emphasize aspects of both sexes in the style both in figure and fashion, whereas the latter would aim to be as neutral as possible--like a guessing game. My hairstyles are already kind of unisex, though I'm aiming for a longer style that'll still maintain something fairly neutral. Makeup is minimal as a general rule already, too.

I do draw up outfits, too; I'll post them if anyone's interested.

Curious as to (and excited to see) what other people's styles are like, or what their ideal style would be like.

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I think my ideal style is an invisibility cloak.

I've never seen any androgynous look that doesn't draw attention. So, even though I'm beginning to see myself in that category, I'd rather dress in plain male or female fashion just to avoid unwanted attention.

That having been said, I'm still new to feminine wear, and loving it too much to wear muted clothes yet - Went out last week dressed like I shouldn't have!

Kat.

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Gatecrashing here Hun, sorry, totally female in dress when I am ready.

I love feminine clothing , mature and feminine , todays fashion allows

women to be more ** adventurous ** for longer ,,,,luv,viv :)

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Guest Light Perpetual

<3 It's all case-by-case and individual. I'm also giddy to hear about people's fashion sense in general--never really was into the whole thing until this past year or so, and it's hit me like a storm. Or maybe it's the sugar... I'm also a loud person once the shell cracks, and I want this to show in how I dress. 'Course, the fact that a lot of my fashion inspiration is 80s glam and punk... haha. I'm doomed to be loud, but that's alright by me.

Kat- By whose definition is this "shouldn't have"? -Teasing.- Keep having fun with it! Aside from covering up, that's totally what clothes are around for, if you ask me. -Grins- Even if it isn't loud, if it's muted, or whatever else it might be, having fun and enjoying your clothing is important. <3

Viv- Fashion--especially women's--really allows for so much more, evolving constantly as it does, and it's wonderful! Also, there's no such thing as gatecrashing when talking fashion! That implies there's potentially something wrong with it, and that's certainly not the case. -Grin- I'm as curious as they come, and I like getting to know people; fashion is just one way to learn about a person, and it also is a way to see how other people approach a situation. I love learning things like that. <3

This doesn't have to be concise, either; be as elaborate as you want--what's your favourite part of your style? Favourite outfit? Be as detailed or brief as you want~ ...Huh, I think I actually just giggled. Must be part of that whole 4:41A thing. Also, I'm really sorry if this is coming off as aggressive, I'm just... excitable, I guess is the word?

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Guest Cherri

I'm really the same way. Lately I've been trying to get my body to look like more of a mix (small breast forms and a squeem) so that maybe, just maybe, I'll be able to pull off an androgynous look. My issue I think is nervousness. I want to go shopping for more femme clothes to spice up my wardrobe, but I lock up and end ip not going into the stores at all. :/ I think I just need more courage and a knowledge of what looks good with what. :)

-Cherri

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Viv- Thanks. <3 Glad to be here.

Cherri- Well I'd say (as I mentioned in another thread) we should go shopping, but I'm not sure where in the state you are and I don't want to make things uncomfortable by asking. Internet shopping is a real help when it comes to looking for things and being on the shy side, though, and many sites have measurement charts to help. If you have any friends who can sew, you also have a chance to better tailor things to your preference if you find yourself in between sizes. And if you'd like, I can help look for things with you, whether through PMs or a messenger service. :3

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Guest Cherri

Wow, that would be great!

I actually tried pming you, but it didn't let me for some reason. :/ As for where I am in the state, it's around the DC area, near Springfield. You won't make me uncomfortable, don't worry. :) I have the same handle on AIM and YIM, and that's cherrigraffiti. (I'm mostly on AIM)

I actually just got back from a store where I got enough confidence to actually buy a bra, but it was too small. I did find a really cool hood though. :)

But yeah, the advice I've been given is great and I really appreciate it all. :3

-Cherri

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Guest Light Perpetual

Wow, you're not far from me, then. I'll drop you a line in just a sec; handle's "epicoenus".

And congrats, even if it was small; that's still the first step toward where you wanna go. :3

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Guest nymphblossom

I am pretty binary about my androgyny. It is extremely important to me to present either 100% male or 100% female so I dress accordingly. Bearing in mind that I am close to 50, I wear mostly khakis and polo shirts in guy mode and keep the fun colors for my girl wardrobe. My girl style is not overly feminine. No blue eye shadow or skirts, I like the natural earthy tones and Capris and active length nails with clear polish (buffed to take off the shine). I part my hair on the side and am not letting it get any longer than shoulder length so it is easy to style for either. Laser/electro on my beard took ten years off my looks however I present and no one really notices that I keep the rest of my body shaved. Or the perky little set of breasts I developed from HRT. I would like to be clear that my reason for starting HRT was to relieve my gender dysphoria, NOT physical changes. I see myself as a woman who likes to express herself as a guy and is unwilling to let go of her finininity.

Blossom

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Guest Pica Pica

I'm fairly round and curvy for a malish body type, tend to wear a lot of bright colours, especially blues, purples and greens. I usually wear female tops with male trousers and doc martin boots (black with pink laces or purple with black laces) and my patented camel coloured wool coat thing, or the leather one with metal clips... I really want a three cornered hat, a proper looking one though, not a costumey one.

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Guest Nostros

Hi!: )

The clothes I wear consist of 80% female and a bit of male, so lets say I wear a beautiful female blouse with pretty flower patterns - which by itself would qualify as 100% feminine - but then I put on a vest and it hides the cleavage but leaves the beautiful sleeves! This is my main clothing "style" - and the girls actually praise me and compliment me that they love how I look!: DD (although the guys give weird stares, but they think it's just a style)

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:)

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Guest Sotha

I think that mixing aspects of both masculine and feminine styles together would be better than trying to be as neutral as possible.

Say masculine=black and feminine=white

the mix would be a zebra print

and the neutral would be a dull gray blob of sludge. :P

I'd rather be a zebra myself.

Wow I sound so biased. :)

Of course, I'm going to go with totally feminine styles myself, but that's only me.

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-Wiggles a little in seat. Ahahanervous.-

I guess I just wanna see how people want to take their aesthetics with their androgyny. Me personally, I don't view myself as having a "gender", per se, but I see myself as both male and female (granted, missing a few bits of myself, but). In this vein, I have a two main bases for my own "ideal" fashion--a blend of "masculine" and "feminine" style, and a neuter style. The former would effectively emphasize aspects of both sexes in the style both in figure and fashion, whereas the latter would aim to be as neutral as possible--like a guessing game. My hairstyles are already kind of unisex, though I'm aiming for a longer style that'll still maintain something fairly neutral. Makeup is minimal as a general rule already, too.

I do draw up outfits, too; I'll post them if anyone's interested.

Curious as to (and excited to see) what other people's styles are like, or what their ideal style would be like.

,

I prefer to look like a very feminine looking male, though most days I just don't bother and wear jeans and a t-shirt. I always make my body look as male as possible by binding my chest, disguising my hips and using clothing tricks to make my shoulders wider. My hair normally looks like a shaggy guy's hair but when I feel like it I'll put in hair extensions. When I feel like it, I use makeup to make my face a mixture of feminine and masculine characteristics. For example, I'll try to make my eyes larger and prettier but I try to bring my jaw forward. For clothing, I mix the genders too. For example, last time I dressed up I wore a black vest over a purple women's blouse, black suit pants, a fedora, and a tie for my outfit; several hair extensions in neon colors for my hair; and navy eyeliner, bronzer and concealer for my makeup. However, most days, I just wear what I'm wearing today: a t-shirt, a binder, a vest and blue jeans with no makeup and my hair unstyled other than brushing.

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Guest Carden

I tend to wear band shirts that are a little too big or are for guys. You can clearly see my chest (it is kinda big and I hate binding) but it makes me look less curvy.

As for down there I wear anything from pants to short shorts. I love my legs, so I am always showing them off. XD I also bounce between baggy boy shorts and mini skirts with nets or stockings.

I always have my Doc Martins (One with green laces the other with black/white mixed laces). Love them. Though, if I am going to go clubbing or something I put on my bight green converse. Just cause.

Accessory wise, I normally wear those 80's jelly bracelets, suspenders, chains, and some of my mom's old belts (used to be a hardcore skin, so she gave them to me).

Plus, my hair is bright blue right now. Soon will be black for prom. Then it is going to be green for summer. I think I like attention. :P

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Guest Pica Pica

I always wear Doc Martins, one black pair with rainbow laces and a purple pair with pink laces

- I have a few coats but the best is this one

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Guest praisedbeherhooves
I tend to wear band shirts that are a little too big or are for guys. You can clearly see my chest (it is kinda big and I hate binding) but it makes me look less curvy.

As for down there I wear anything from pants to short shorts. I love my legs, so I am always showing them off. XD I also bounce between baggy boy shorts and mini skirts with nets or stockings.

I always have my Doc Martins (One with green laces the other with black/white mixed laces). Love them. Though, if I am going to go clubbing or something I put on my bight green converse. Just cause.

Accessory wise, I normally wear those 80's jelly bracelets, suspenders, chains, and some of my mom's old belts (used to be a hardcore skin, so she gave them to me).

Plus, my hair is bright blue right now. Soon will be black for prom. Then it is going to be green for summer. I think I like attention. :P

Have you tried vests for your shirt? It really helps me disguise my breasts. You sound like you have a more alternative, less hipster-ish style than me so maybe you could try using a kutte vest covered with band patches.

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Guest Roux

I prefer to look like a very feminine looking male, though most days I just don't bother and wear jeans and a t-shirt. I always make my body look as male as possible by binding my chest, disguising my hips and using clothing tricks to make my shoulders wider.

\o/

I waver between wanting to be perceived as a feminine-looking male and a masculine-looking female. To balance that mess out, I tend to aim right down the middle. You know: you'll perceive me differently depending on how you squint. (I don't reach that ideal nearly as often as I'd like. Shame.)

Certain styles of clothes I really cannot bring myself to wear. Take dresses, for example. Or skirts. You'll catch me in a skirt once or twice a year, but it's usually coupled with a rather unhappy expression (and some awkward attempts to walk in heels). Jewelry is the same; wearing it makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable.

. . . That said, I love to collect both high heels and jewelry. Even though they never get worn. Go figure.

I'm comfortable with most of the standard guy styles. My only problem there is that I'm shorter and smaller than your regular-short adult males, so unless I shop in the kids' department, guy clothes kind of devour me. Wearing clothes that are too big is a different kind of discomfort, though. I just need to find myself a very nice tailor.

But either way, I'm big on sleek button-down shirts and dark jeans. A chest-binder (or just a small sports bra, depending) and hip-slimming pants are for the win.

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Guest Larson

I tend to wear male clothing --- either actual men's clothes or women's clothes that look like men's clothes, but actually fit me. But I wear female-ish make up and have long hair. Even though I'd love to be able to pass as completely gender neutral, I just can't get rid of my hair. Then again, my older bio male brother has the exact hair cut/color as me...

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Guest Hydraxide

As I haven't started on any HRT yet and am still deciding how far I want to take it, I haven't yet started to experiment with clothing per se. I've been told that if I changed my clothing to something slightly tighter, wore a bra stuffed with tissues and had a real close shave I could pass for a woman quite easily, at least from a distance. Have a look at the pic of me. I really don't know, I guess it'd be fun to try it and see how many peope I could confuse! :D

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I stand at nearly 6 feet tall though, with slightly broad shoulders. I don't have thick facial hair (and I'm going to get it lasered when I have the money. I have pale skin and almost black hair, so its an ideal combination for laser treatment) which is a plus!

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Guest Chrysee

-Wiggles a little in seat. Ahahanervous.-

I guess I just wanna see how people want to take their aesthetics with their androgyny. Me personally, I don't view myself as having a "gender", per se, but I see myself as both male and female (granted, missing a few bits of myself, but). In this vein, I have a two main bases for my own "ideal" fashion--a blend of "masculine" and "feminine" style, and a neuter style. The former would effectively emphasize aspects of both sexes in the style both in figure and fashion, whereas the latter would aim to be as neutral as possible--like a guessing game. My hairstyles are already kind of unisex, though I'm aiming for a longer style that'll still maintain something fairly neutral. Makeup is minimal as a general rule already, too.

I do draw up outfits, too; I'll post them if anyone's interested.

Curious as to (and excited to see) what other people's styles are like, or what their ideal style would be like.

I've said it before: I'm shooting for the 'breasts & a beard' look. That's me, though at times one or the other gender gets behind the wheel. I've dressed like a male my whole life (though with a great deal of sneaky feminizing. The 60's was great for that. A 'guy' could wear a ponytail, earring, beads, even a peasant blouse (basically) and not be anymore looked down on by the mainstream at the time than any other hippie in town. But the clothes fired up a feel in me. Today, I get that from putting on a skirt. Yes, I favor the feminine, after waiting fifty eight years to let her out, it's her turn to romp!

Hope that helps.

Hugs,

Chrysalis

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,

I prefer to look like a very feminine looking male, though most days I just don't bother and wear jeans and a t-shirt. I always make my body look as male as possible by binding my chest, disguising my hips and using clothing tricks to make my shoulders wider.

Would you mind sharing some of those tricks? Particularly about disguising the hips- that is one I haven't been able to figure out yet.

~GKay

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Guest Gabi-lotr

Maybe a bit off question but what you think about the wikihow article named "How to Look Androgynous"

It's good?

I just want use it as guide for myself!

Thanks the answers!

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Hey. I generally dress sort of feminine male--my hair is black and red, shortish in the black, long in front. I bind and wear regular guy t-shirts and colorful armwarmers. I wear my pants low to disguise my hips, and they're usually skinny-ish jeans or something of the sort. Sometimes I wear eyeliner. I would post a picture, but I'm not sure how.

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