Good Support From Friends.

[Guest Rebecca Quentin]

Hi, please excuse any typos as I'm tapping out this post on my iPhone.

I enjoy cross-dressing but have come to understand that I'm a transvestite rather than crossdresser. I see my being dressed both as a strong desire, but also a deep psychological need. I get very depressed if I don't dress regularly and "need" to feel female.

I have excellent support from my friends but I'm also aware that some of them mis-understand my cross-dressing, thinking of more as a drag-thing whereas I know it's as much about me feeling genuinly female in my mind when dressed, as it is about my wanting to look realistically female (hence most certainly not the drag look!).

I feel depressed however that I don't a female friend who understands how much I need this, and that it's noy just a now-and-then whim. I would love to have the active support of a female friend who would be prepared to help me regularly dress, do my make-up etc, but most importantly someone I can be female with in my home or theirs, all of the time we hang out together, rather than male persona.

I find it hard to put into words what exactly it is I seek, but I know I want to xdress in all my spare time and not just for some occasional events.

[Carolyn Marie]

Hello again, Rebecca.

I'm not sure what distinction you draw between transvestite and crossdresser. As I understand it, they

are the same, although transvestite is considered by many to be an outdated and somewhat

derogatory term.

In any event, many towns and most larger cities have CD support groups that meet regularly and

assist members with support, opportunities to go out to safe places, and provide help with dressing,

shopping, make-up and the like. Tri-Ess is one such organization. You can Google them and see if they

have a branch near you. Or just Google LGBT organizations in your area.

Good luck.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Donna Jean]

Rebecca....

I see that you're in Scotland and I have no idea what resources are available to you..

But, Carolyn is right on the money.....Tri-Ess is an outstanding organization.

And, don't forget...Google is your friend...one might be surprised what you can turn up there!

Good Luck, Hon....

Donna Jean

[Carolyn Marie]

Rebecca....

I see that you're in Scotland

Donna Jean

My bad. Serves me right not to look at the location of the member.

Anyway, like Donna Jean said, Google might be your best bet, or perhaps we have another member

from Scotland who will respond.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest LottieZero]

Hiya Rebecca,

I'm not sure whereabouts in Scotland you are, but I'm pretty sure there are support groups in all of our cities (except Inverness, I think). I haven't really been to my local one yet (in Aberdeen) but then again, I am a bit socially withdrawn

Here are some links to a few:

* Edinburgh Trans Women: http://www.edinburghtranswomen.org.uk/

* Crosslynx (West Coast): http://www.crosslynx.org.uk/

* North East Trans Support: http://www.nestsupport.co.uk

* there's also one in Dundee, I think, but I don't know the link for it

Also, you might want to have a look at this place: Scottish Transgender Alliance I think they'll offer support if you ask for it.

Best of luck!

Charlotte x

[Guest Donna Jean]

Geez Pete!

DANG!

Would ya look at that!

Lottie zooms in here and whips out several good sites in Scotland...what's the odds of that!

Way cool....

Ok....OK....OK....

Lets say that I'm a T-Girl in Borneo.....

Any good places to go?

Hee Hee....

Donna Jean

[Guest LottieZero]

Hehe, it wasn't all my doing... I may have had a wee bit of encouragement from someone

[Carolyn Marie]

Hehe, it wasn't all my doing... I may have had a wee bit of encouragement from someone

Thanks a million, Lottie. We're pals now!

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Rebecca Quentin]

As it turns out Lottie, I live in the same city as you. Thanks all for the advice, I think I should definitely look into support groups locally.

[Guest Rebecca Quentin]

Its my big night out tonight. I'm changing at my friend's clothes shop beforehand, because she lives very close indeed to the club venue. Even though its a 2 minute walk from the shop to the club, I'm still very nervous about it. Its daylight until nearly 11pm just now and there's a rough(ish) bar right across from the shop. But, I'll be with friends who will protect me/look out for me as they are aware this is a really huge step for me. Even though I've been to the club last year as Rebecca, I dressed in the venue itself and it was all about alternative types being there. This time, its those 2 minutes from shop to club and back to the shop later around 2am that I'm nervous about. At least it should still be dark when walking back to the shop dressed, and my friends will be with me the whole time. Thank goodness for friends.

[Guest LottieZero]

Its my big night out tonight. I'm changing at my friend's clothes shop beforehand, because she lives very close indeed to the club venue. Even though its a 2 minute walk from the shop to the club, I'm still very nervous about it. Its daylight until nearly 11pm just now and there's a rough(ish) bar right across from the shop. But, I'll be with friends who will protect me/look out for me as they are aware this is a really huge step for me. Even though I've been to the club last year as Rebecca, I dressed in the venue itself and it was all about alternative types being there. This time, its those 2 minutes from shop to club and back to the shop later around 2am that I'm nervous about. At least it should still be dark when walking back to the shop dressed, and my friends will be with me the whole time. Thank goodness for friends.

Hmm, I'm intrigued now! What club was it you went to? So long as it's not the Priory (bleurghh!!) I think you'll have a good night. Good luck anyways.

[Guest Rebecca Quentin]

Lol, it certainly wasn't anywhere on Belmont Street! It was the "obedience school" club/fetish night in the club basement of Korova. I've no interest in the fetish scene, but it was a friendly, safe, non-judgemental place for the night and it was excellent!