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Guest Elizabeth K

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Guest Elizabeth K

Here it is - Mother's Day! Mom died in 1999 - the mother of one of my adult children died 1976, when my daughter was born. The mother of my other two adult chidren left me 15 years ago. I am now living at my daughter's house temporarily while the paperwork gets done for an apartment.

I sit here all alone. My daughter and her husband are celibrating at his parents house in another city. They didn't ask me to go.

I feel like I was a mother and a father to my chidren, especially my first daughter I raised alone from an infant until I got remarried. I don't think they understand how I feel.

So

Everyone in New Orleans is out with 'Mom" - and I don't want to be the only older woman in the restaurant alone by herself. Nothing really in the fridge... drinking coffee with milk...

Guess I will go eat worms! (Old children's song)

Just another lonely day...

Hows THAT for venting! GRIN

Lizzy

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Guest Donna Jean
Just another lonely day...

Hows THAT for venting! GRIN

Lizzy

Oh yeah?

Well, My sister, who is about 1 1/2 years older than me, and I were given away by our birth mother ....she wanted to party and not be weighted down with kids...

My sister was raised by my aunt and I found out when I was 13 that she wasn't my "Cousin" Judy, but in fact, my sister!

Over the course of the years, I've had 5 moms....Dad got around...

Mom is still alive ....somewhere...

I've never forgiven...

Happy Mother's Day, Lizzy....

I love you!

Donna Jean

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Guest Elizabeth K
Oh yeah?

Well, My sister, who is about 1 1/2 years older than me, and I were given away by our birth mother ....she wanted to party and not be weighted down with kids...

My sister was raised by my aunt and I found out when I was 13 that she wasn't my "Cousin" Judy, but in fact, my sister!

Over the course of the years, I've had 5 moms....Dad got around...

Mom is still alive ....somewhere...

I've never forgiven...

Happy Mother's Day, Lizzy....

I love you!

Donna Jean

TRUMPTED - and I had a queen of hearts playing - third showing (no puns here please).

DANG (pat.pend.)

Sally can be our momma - lets PM her!

Lizzy

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Guest Michele H

Liz - I feel REALLY REALLY BAD now, I sent you a PM and rather dumped on you and you are hurting - I'm sorry, I'm really sorry - I knew there was a reason I needed to sign off Laura's for a while - I'm just making it worse. And Donna Jean - I hurt for you too. Mothers day really sucks. I raised my daughter by my self and now that I am the real me, she has gone back to her bio mother. I wish the three of us could have gone out to eat together.

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Guest Elizabeth K
Liz - I feel REALLY REALLY BAD now, I sent you a PM and rather dumped on you and you are hurting - I'm sorry, I'm really sorry - I knew there was a reason I needed to sign off Laura's for a while - I'm just making it worse. And Donna Jean - I hurt for you too. Mothers day really sucks. I raised my daughter by my self and now that I am the real me, she has gone back to her bio mother. I wish the three of us could have gone out to eat together.

Michele honey - NEVER feel bad for someone who is ranting or venting! TOUGH LOVE dawlin' - that's part of Laura's - see how Dee Jay bumped me out of my "gee, I am so mistreated' mode? She and her sister were 'given away' - dammmn - how is that for a lifetime of emotional distress! Her saying that makes me wonder if there is anything to Mother's Day other than "Hallmarks' big profit. Once it was cards. Then it was cards and flowers. Now it is cards, flowers and a meal - and a present, and a ballon(s) and a visit!

And we father/ mothers get forgoton [hummmmm.... Trans-Mother's Day? would that sell cards?]

NO way! we are too small a market. We need an "Everyone Else's Day"

You cannot go Michele - we need you! You have this beautiful love..." Please just stay a little longer?

AND

LET'S ALL THREE GET TOGETHER - eat and drinkl and talk, talk, talk! And then get the others! And then, together - laugh and cry and vent some more!

And your daughter, she will be back.

Love you

Lizzy

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Guest Donna Jean

Yes, Michele & Lizzy.......

You both have children.....

I have none....Never wanted any....

And this is the first time that I've thought of it this way, but, I wonder if, subconsciously, I was afraid I'd abandon them...family trait?

I'll never know.....

When do we eat?

I need a HUGG!

Donna Jean

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Guest Jean Davis
Liz - I feel REALLY REALLY BAD now, I sent you a PM and rather dumped on you and you are hurting - I'm sorry, I'm really sorry - I knew there was a reason I needed to sign off Laura's for a while - I'm just making it worse. And Donna Jean - I hurt for you too. Mothers day really sucks. I raised my daughter by my self and now that I am the real me, she has gone back to her bio mother. I wish the three of us could have gone out to eat together.

Michele honey

This is not a reason for you to leave, it is benifitual to you and the rest of us when poeple come with their problems. Even though you may feel like you are being hurtful your or anybody elses problems serve to remind us that we are not alone with our pain and that in of itself brings us a sense of unity. They say that misery loves company and that is true, that is where we find the love and understanding that helps us through the tough times. Also by sharing our problems and feelings we find a new perspective on a situation or solution that we may not have found on our own. Indeed bottling up our emotions and problems may seem like the right thing to do but in fact it harms yourself and others more as the negative feelings we have always seem to surface in other ways that are more self destructive than the initial problem.

Hope you decide to stay with us and work through your problems. ;)

LUV

Jean

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Nobody loves me

Everybody hates me

I'm going out and eat worms!

I don't know if I ever heard the song, but my older sisters used to taunt me with it when I was being a brat. I still think of that line alot.

Hi Liz,

Jovial holidays do get cross-wired for too many of us. I'm glad I don't feel alone here!

XXXOOO

Love, Kat

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Guest SusanKG

For the first time, I have taken Mother's Day personally - for what has not been, for what should have been, for what I have opened up myself to wish to have been. I think my nerves are raw from actually beginning transition; before, I would "numb" it over. The day didn't apply to me so I shouldn't feel anything today. Now, the numbness (male indifference?) is going away. I am taking the day personally.

Elizabeth, we cherish this day now, more so I think than many life-long women do. I don't have the life experiences that do make you so very qualified for the recognition not given you this time, but I bet many of us share this special day in the same mood. We have lost our own Mothers, some of us have lost spouses we could honor this day, we don't rate consideration from those remaining.

But we know. We know that this day is for you. Happy Mother's Day, Elizabeth. Happy Mother's Day to every one of us Girls.

Susan Kay

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Guest Michele H

LET'S ALL THREE GET TOGETHER - eat and drinkl and talk, talk, talk! And then get the others! And then, together - laugh and cry and vent some more!

And your daughter, she will be back.

Love you

Lizzy

I could go for some gumbo ( don't know why, not sure I have even had the real thing) - or big juicy scallops - now those I can cook, maybe a batch of wilted dandylion greens with radishes and onions and baccon bits and the hot grease mixed with vinger and sugar that is poured over the greens to wilt them - showing my southern roots, I guess.

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Guest Elizabeth K

Drooling... Michele... saliva down my cheeks

FOOOOD!

Oh hon - your cookin and my eatin - probably go together jus' fine!

And I feel better! I feel loved!

Lizzy

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Guest Donna Jean
LET'S ALL THREE GET TOGETHER - eat and drinkl and talk, talk, talk! And then get the others!

maybe a batch of wilted dandylion greens with radishes and onions and baccon bits and the hot grease mixed with vinger and sugar that is poured over the greens to wilt them - showing my southern roots, I guess.

Oh God! I love those!

YUMMY!

And Poke salad....

I did some growing up in Georgia!

Shows, too!

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest Elizabeth K
Oh God! I love those!

YUMMY!

And Poke salad....

I did some growing up in Georgia!

Shows, too!

Huggs

Donna Jean

DANG

Here in this snooty 'quizine' world of New Orleans - wilted spinich with lightly poached raw oysters (oxymoron of sorts), with parmisan cheese over, and a dribble of virgin olive oil and a touch of basamic vinegar! Can be served with toasted garlic buttered french bread, with fetta cheese crumbled. Don't think they would use dandylion greens unless you renamed them something like 'tender native fresh greens from the neglected garden.' GRIN

Polk salad? Song ruined that here I guess. Long time away from eating them - then in Arkansas in this li'l mom & pop retaurant we found... Carol and I - a million years ago.

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Guest Evan_J

"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."

-- Agatha Christie

Happy mother's day to all of the mothers of the forum.

Both biological ones and chosen

The mother of the site herself

And those who mother in some form in their lives.

For daring and crushing down all that stands in the path of your children

Including their own created barriers

And sometimes

even your own.

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Guest Elizabeth K
"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."

-- Agatha Christie

Happy mother's day to all of the mothers of the forum.

Both biological ones and chosen

The mother of the site herself

And those who mother in some form in their lives.

For daring and crushing down all that stands in the path of your children

Including their own created barriers

And sometimes

even your own.

And you say you never write poety!

wow

Lizzy

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Guest Donna Jean
For daring and crushing down all that stands in the path of your children

Including their own created barriers

And sometimes

even your own.

Oh my goodness....

That is beautiful.....

LOVE

Donna Jean

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Evan, I always thought you had more creative juices than you show us.

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Thanks!

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Carolyn Marie

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Guest ricka

Well Sweeties, I may be the odd girl out but this has been a special day for me. I woke up this morning thinking wouldn't it be nice if someone wished me a happy mother's day. No I don't have any biological children (but I did raise 3 foster sons) but I do know how it feels to be a woman with strong maternal feelings. I know what it is to be nurturing and to love unconditionally, to be comforting and to give of myself as a woman. I know what it is like to hold a young person who is hurting against my breasts and to feel those feelings only a mother knows. Well you know what, I got up this morning and one of my dearest friends sent me an email to wish me a happy mothers day, acknowledging and validating all of those mother feelings that I hold inside of my heart.

Tonight a handsome, sweet young man is coming over who needs a mother's love,who needs to be held and to be told everything will be alright.

So girls my advice is to be the mother you never had to someone.

Hugs, Ricka

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My mother's day visit with my mother was picking her up from the Emergency Room once again.

But she is doing much better so I guess that was good.

I am still waiting for the cards and good wishes from all my adopted children here. :)

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest ~Brenda~

We all have had real tragedies in our lives. We all have had setbacks. We all have had injustices placed upon us.

We all have made mistakes ( I can't seem to get through one day without messing up ).

There is one thing that is truely special and rewarding for me.... we have each other :)

Love

Brenda

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Guest CattalieChan

As has been posted earlier, I concider you, and all the other mods, to be my cyber mother, so happy mothers day, well it's nearly over but, from your cyber daughter!

Amber

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