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Hey guys (and gals), not sure if this had been posted, but it was linked in a recent group update for the local TG/CD group, and I though some might be interested to read this.

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Melanie

Oh and here's something interesting as well :P

Mel.....

Nope! Hadn't seen that yet....She is doing fine. I guess that she fits so many of the things that go with this territory...Loss of job, house, money...etc...

And it seems that at first so many of us feel we have it licked, only to watch things slip away that we thought we had nailed down!

SUX!

Oh, and the second link?

Girlfriend, you didn't let me down.....LOL!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Mel.....

Nope! Hadn't seen that yet....She is doing fine. I guess that she fits so many of the things that go with this territory...Loss of job, house, money...etc...

And it seems that at first so many of us feel we have it licked, only to watch things slip away that we thought we had nailed down!

SUX!

Oh, and the second link?

Girlfriend, you didn't let me down.....LOL!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

So true... Aww how could I let YOU down?

/huggers

Melanie

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Great story, Melanie. Really uplifting and inspirational. There is nothing like reading a success story, and

it made me smile. Thank you for that, and for your blog entry. You are becoming an inspiration too.

Good luck with everything.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Melanieshaman
Great story, Melanie. Really uplifting and inspirational. There is nothing like reading a success story, and

it made me smile. Thank you for that, and for your blog entry. You are becoming an inspiration too.

Good luck with everything.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

aww thanks, I figured only DJ actually read my blog LMAO

Melanie

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Guest TracieV3
Hey guys (and gals), not sure if this had been posted, but it was linked in a recent group update for the local TG/CD group, and I though some might be interested to read this.

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Melanie

Oh and here's something interesting as well :P

The key to acceptance is through civil dialog. Even if the other person is insulting you, don't insult them back.

When a crowd of people, strangers to both parties, is watching such a discussion, whom do you think is they are going to likely side with? The one insulting the other person? Or the person calmly speaking, even in a raised voice?

Calling someone cup cakes fascists other insults will not help. And being "in their face", which is not civil dialog, does not help matters, as well.

Also, I have seen those whom claim to preach 'tolerance and free express', including some transsexuals, go out of their way to show bigotry against christians and conservatives. These hypocrites will do everything in their power, and go out of their way, to censor christian and conservative voices, and destroy the symbols of their culture and religion. These hypocrites only believe in "freedom of speech" when it agrees with their own beliefs.

That is wrong.

And this does not help matters, it makes things worse. It hardens the political lines and nothing gets better, only worse.

Keep in mind, most people don't give a Gosh darned about you one way or another as long as you are not hurting someone else. That is true 'tolerance', not 'acceptance', but 'tolerance'.

Finally, being a realist, if things start to turn violent, having a concealed gun and concealed weapons license is a good idea. The "Pink Pistols" are right on this one. If you can get a gun legally, then DO SO!! DO NOT LISTEN TO THE ANTI-GUN CROWD!! Having a gun will likely save your life one day. Every time I read about a transsexual being murdered, I think, if only she or he had a gun, then that person would still be alive.

Tracie

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Melanie,

I am a bit insulted - you didn't think that I would read your blog?

Or did you just think that I couldn't read?

This is an inspirational story, I hope that when I have completed my transition and write my story that those who have lacked great personal achievements in their lives prior to or possibly even after transitioning - just the average people of the world will find my triumph to be as inspirational because this is something that we can do and indeed must do so acceptance would be a wonderful addition.

Love ya,

Sally

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Sally, Lizzy...I apologize :(

Melanie

ps i hope everything is spelled ok aas my eyes are dialated and i can only barely make pout the letters on my leyboard (sad-cuz they have under lights on each one) LOL

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It is truely inspirational and uplifting. I posting it to my FB-trans page, so far 23 people have read it off there so thank you for posting it.

Love,

Chelsey Hosler

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