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Guest Hoslers_wife

Is anyone else tired of fighting to be free? I am a 7th generation American so why is my family the number 1 target of so many Americans hate? I'm exausted. I don't know where my fight went. Most days I will be the first to stand up for the under dog but lately I feel like I'm being attacked from all sides and I really feel like giving up. We fought Sooooo hard to get ref.71 (Washingtons gay marriage law) and thank god it passed but we were screamed at, cursed at, Nick was even spit on and yeah we won but I don't know if I have anything per to fight with. Maybe that's their plan. Run us into the ground until we just give up. Does anyone else feel like this sometimes? I know how bad this sounds and I'm sorry.:-(

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Guest ~Brenda~

Chelsey hon,

I am sorry to hear that you are down right now :(

You may feel that you are hated right now, but hon many gay couples live in peace.

I hope that you and Nick find that peace :)

Love

Brenda

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Guest Cris

I do know what you mean by being exhausted. I am feeling that way about ENDA lately, that all the talk and emailing has been for naught. With the push from the religous sector scaring our poor lawmakers back into their corners with mistruths and propaganda. The God I know taught love. Makes me really sad that we as human beings cant live and accept one anothers differences.

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Hi,

Well, just think if you were a pro-choice advocate - They've been on the defensive for 20+ years.

I get so sick of an attempted theocracy in this country - tired of a minority thinking they have the inside track to what's right and moral.

So, yeah I understand how you feel - can't they accept it and move on? It seems that the conservative movement has become all the more vocal since they were so soundly defeated in 2008. We will have to rally the troops and fight the battle again...

Love, Kat

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Guest Evan_J
Is anyone else tired of fighting to be free? I am a 7th generation American so why is my family the number 1 target of so many Americans hate? I'm exausted. I don't know where my fight went. Most days I will be the first to stand up for the under dog but lately I feel like I'm being attacked from all sides and I really feel like giving up. We fought Sooooo hard to get ref.71 (Washingtons gay marriage law) and thank god it passed but we were screamed at, cursed at, Nick was even spit on and yeah we won but I don't know if I have anything per to fight with. Maybe that's their plan. Run us into the ground until we just give up. Does anyone else feel like this sometimes? I know how bad this sounds and I'm sorry.:-(

Its good that you had enough insight to express it. No its not just you. We all get exhausted. Activists get exhausted. Social workers get exhausted. Folks who deal with developmentally disabled kids get exhausted. All people who fight for something or try to do something that helps someone else get exhausted. Thats not a mark of weakness. Its a mark of humanness.

Everybody does need "a break". A time of "refreshment". Not to misunderstand that as stopping and not starting again ever lol. But you do need to go and rebuild every so often. How long it takes? Variable. There are people coming off break tho as you go. New soldiers get drawn in.

The really good part? Their side gets tired too ;)

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Guest Alex Blitzen

I feel that way a lot too. Then someone comes along and renews my strength :) Recently I felt like not fighting anymore, but I can't give up. I've got too much to fight for.

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We are the only people fighting for human rights - everyone else is fighting for human rights for their own specific definition of human - which sadly we do not fit.

It is very tiring to fight hatred, bigotry and ignorance but that is the big three that we must defeat - I did not mention the Bible thumping group specifically because they fall directly under ignorant - how anyone can read the New Testament, which is what all of Christianity is based on (and let's admit it - the Bible thumpers claim to be Christians in spite of going against everything that Christ ever said or did).

It seems that the supply of idiots and bigots is endless but it actually is getting smaller as each generation becomes a little more tolerant each one finds a gay or transgendered in the family and begins to tone it down.

Remember, children have to be taught to hate.

Love ya,

Sally

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Most of the hate spreaders and the homophobes will align themselves

to one church or another . Did ya hear the idiot in Rome goin on again

re Gay Folk ????made me think ,,,,,what the heck is that fool on about ??

Child abuse your holiness ?????, wake up and smell the coffee dude !!!!

luv, peace , acceptance , to all people of the Earth,,,,viv :)

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Guest NatashaJade
"First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win."

-- Mahatma Gandhi

We're going to win.

luv

Gin

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Guest Patsy

God preserve us from the righteous, & self styled moral arbiters!!

And yes, we have these religious pressure groups down here, also....in the Senate, unfortunately.

And, lucky, lucky me, I have my very own homophobic, genderphobic bigot under my own roof, in my 92 year old father.

Rarely a day goes by in which he fails to find an opportunity to remind me what a disaster I am.

I agree with Gin, we will ultimately win, individually & collectively, so keep the faith....and SHOP!

Always works wonders for me :lol:

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Guest chngnwnd

The religious right needs to spend more time actually reading the Bible rather than skimming through it.

It's exhausting to deal with people like that, but what choice do we have?

If we don't demand our rights, we will have none...

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Guest Hoslers_wife

After an amazing weekend with my love I realized I just needed a breather. We got out of town and reconnected. I'm back on top of the world again and I say bring it on!!!! You wanna tell me my hubby is some how less of a man or less human than you well, ill see you out back. Maybe that's all it is sometimes, just too much and you have to pull back and re-evaluate. Thank you all for your support and advise.

Love,

Chelsey Hosler

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