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I Know What I Am And What I Want, I Don't Know What To Call It


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Well, I have a fashion sense that is generally that of an effeminate gay man minus the fashionable part (by that I mean I don't follow trends or care about brands but simply dress in a slightly effeminate but clearly male manner) because I want to be considered a male, but when I go to a gay event or a gay group, I dress flamboyantly androgynous to masculine because I know I can still pass fairly well like that and when surrounded by drag queens, candy kids and fashionxcore kids, no one could say with a straight face that I'm not really a guy since I wear eyeliner. When I'm online I generally look purely androgynous, or even androgynous to feminine, but do not disclose what my genetic gender is, unless I'm on a transgender site or talking to a fellow trans person. I do not really care what gender my behavior is but it generally falls towards masculine or androgynous. However, unusual as it might sound, I prefer to look like a pretty guy. I'd actually be somewhat unhappy with my appearance if I looked extremely male. Ideally, I would have been born as a male with Klinefelter's Syndrome. The risk of breast growth would be the biggest downside but insurance would pay for the breast removal and I think that most of the time it doesn't happen. The main things I want is a voice that is passably adult male (my current voice sounds like a 13 year old gay boy whose voice is in the middle of breaking), a flat chest, little body hair, no period and to look pretty but male or androgynous. I consider myself non-binary, but I don't know what the specific would be. Does this make me gender queer or just an unusual FTM?

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Does this make me gender queer or just an unusual FTM?

It makes you whatever you feel yourself to be. There's so much gray area when it comes to gender. I feel the same as you about a lot of things. I wouldn't call myself effeminate, really, but I definitely like being androgynous. Like you, I want a deeper voice, a flat chest, no periods, and not much body hair, though I've resigned myself to the fact that I'm going to get some potentially undesired effects when I go on T. I identify as both genderqueer and FTM - a genderqueer man, basically. Like, if I had been assigned male at birth, I probably still would identify as somewhat genderqueer, but would be much more comfortable with my body and my gender than I am now. I went back and forth between the two labels for a long time, though, thinking I had to pick just one, that they were somehow mutually exclusive. That I couldn't be genderqueer and a man. But that's totally not true. You are whoever you are - whether you're genderqueer or FTM or both or neither.

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However, unusual as it might sound, I prefer to look like a pretty guy. I'd actually be somewhat unhappy with my appearance if I looked extremely male.

If it's unusual, then I am too. ;) I feel the same way... I would like to be male, but look somewhat girly still... just without breasts/hips and other female 'problems'. I'd like to look youthful and boyish. This is what really baffles my dad... he thinks it's 'messed up' to want to be a boy just so that I can be 'more' girly than I am now. He just can't understand that I want to be a pretty 'BOY' not a pretty 'GIRL'! <_< I'd feel more secure about my gender and then I could wear make-up. Actually, I think if I got on T... I'd eventually get my body hair removed. :P

Right now since I'm physically a 'girl', I don't care about being 'hairy' since it makes me less attractive as one, as odd as that sounds. My dad always acts like I'd be disgusting and slobby as a guy, but when I correct him and say I'd be neater and so on... he then says I'm confused or trying to 'get in touch with my feminine side'... ughh... :banghead: And it gives him the impression that I always want to be the opposite of what I am. I actually 'want' to be miserable! That's what he thinks... yeah, who actually 'wants' to be miserable?

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well then. that's basically my question, i suppose, as well. i feel pretty much the same way.

i don't feel like a straight girl, i feel like a gay man. and slightly more effeminate than a man man would be, you know.

i don't really know what to call myself in that regard. i usually just use genderqueer. i just don't know for certain yet.

i Do know, however, that the main things that Need to go is the chest and period. it just doesn't seem right to be on me when i feel like something else. and the 13 yo gay boy voice, haha yeahhhh i can relate. it's a bummer. i'm kind of in a quandary about it all

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