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I turned 19 today, and I feel like its another year I've accomplished absolutely nothing,I'm still trying to find the right therapist and I still worry about about what people are going to say about me once I've transitioned I feel like time is running out and I'll never look passable.I'm just feeling really low.

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Guest Hoslers_wife

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!

Honey there is no time like the present. If you feel like you have been wasting time, write a list of what you would like to accomplish and break it down into day to day goals that will help you finish. I hope your day starts turning around!

Happy birthday!

Love,

Chelsey Hosler

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Guest Donna Jean

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, TORI !!!

Hey, Honey....Chelsey is right! There's a ton of things that you can do....

Start working on your voice...

Start growing out your hair..

Do your nails...

Shave your legs....

Wear an ankle bracelet under your sock to help you feel more feminine!

Cheer up, Baby....I know everyone hates to hear this...but, you're 19....

You're at a perfect time to start!

LOVE

Donna Jean

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Tori, you're going to be all right, hon. You most certainly do have time, HRT and (if necessary) FFS, and facial hair removal all work wonders, especially

for the young like yourself. So stop worrying and start planning, OK?

Dee Jay and Chelsey have some great suggestions. Buy some clothing or shoes occasionally, even if you have to wear them at home for right now.

Watch YouTube and learn how to do makeup. Lots of good stuff to start you down the right path.

Oh, yeah, and by the way,

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest tori319

Thanks I do feel better. I might not need ffs the only masculine thing on my face is my brow bone and it isn't really that prominent .Thanks for the encouragement and wisdom.

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

Happy birthday!!!!

I hope that things look up for you!!!

I sent you a PM a few minutes ago. :)

*hugs*

LeeAsher

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Guest JustShelly
I turned 19 today, and I feel like its another year I've accomplished absolutely nothing,I'm still trying to find the right therapist and I still worry about about what people are going to say about me once I've transitioned I feel like time is running out and I'll never look passable.I'm just feeling really low.

HAPPY BIRHTDAY

Well if it makes you feel any better, myself and I'm sure others have the same type feelings. I just discussed these exact issues with my therapist today.The difference between you and me, is time really is running out for me! lol

Once you find a therapist things will get better . Doesn't mean these thoughts will go away, but at least you be able to talk with someone about them.

You are so young, you shouldn't worry about everything at once, take it a step at a time.

Take Care

Shelly

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Guest Patsy

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, TORI GIRL!!!

How marvelous to be nineteen, with a whole new you to shape & create!

It's all going to be fine, hon, truly.....along side Chelsey's list of things to do, add a

little list of things you've already achieved in your journey. It won't be as blank as you think.

I mean, there's already a biggy in there, isn't there?

As for the brow, I'm sure its nowhere near as bad as you've made it seem...we do tend to over emphasize

our "defects", real or imagined.

As for what "People will think", best leave that one on the back-burner for the appropriate time....just go about

todays business, and tomorrow will be that little bit easier.

I came out to my family three years ago, age 60, & I remember my daughter, enthusiastically about the business of tearing

the soul out of me, saying I would look like "Keith Richards in drag!" :lol:

A slanderous exaggeration, I might add!

Just do what needs to be done, hon, a step at a time, and it'll all be just fine! :)

Luv & a big birthday hug,

Patsy

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Guest Girl Emily

Tori,

Happy Birthday dear. You are going to be a beautiful woman someday. This is hard to do and I know that, don't worry about what other people will say about you. I came out to my whole family this week at a month and a half shy of thirty-nine. I had spent my life trying to be somebody I wasn't to please them. It turns out I didn't fool anyone but myself. I wasted a lot of time that you don't have to waste. You are on the right track and things can go quickly once they get going. I was expecting to go full-time after a year, maybe a year and a half, but my GT thinks I'll be ready in by the time school starts next fall at just eight months. your going to be OK hun.

Huggs,

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Happy Birthday Tori,

Age 19 is such a great time to be thinking about transitioning, especially because your bones haven't completely fused together yet, so your body can change to some degree. I haven't seen your picture, but the younger you transition, the better the physical results. You have an opportunity to do what a lot of us here never had. I'm 50 and when I was 19, transsexuality was rarely talked about so most of us had no idea that we could transition.

It's up to you though. But I'm betting you have nothing to worry about when it comes to physically passing.

Love Susan

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