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Guest Michelle/nuckles

seems when i write on here I get nothing

Either i dont know how to write what i want to communicate or im not part of the cliche here

Because i see diatribes written here and i be lucky to get a paragraph. :angry:

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Hello Michelle,

I'm sorry to hear that you are leaving. I wish you would reconsider your decision.

MaryEllen

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Guest Michelle/nuckles
Hello Michelle,

I'm sorry to hear that you are leaving. I wish you would reconsider your decision.

MaryEllen

yes seem there are some folks here that can write silly stuff and get a diatribe answer back from others

but a serious or informative question is ask I get squat.

now about chat

I have found this also on the chat area seems ther are those that control the conversations

I am guessing this is geared for the teen age and college fol ks

But right now im angry. naw that not the word lets say hurt

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Guest Mr. Fox

I don't know the case for others, but I rarely saw posts made by you. You obviously made them, but I somehow missed out. Sorry.

Adrian

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Guest Michelle M

I'm going to insert my opinion and try to help with this because I care.

Please don't take offense to anything I'm saying. I'm just noting my honest observations.

I don't think this lashing out style of a post is going to get replies. People are afraid to reply. It pushes them away.

As for previous posts, I have not seen many posts by you. Some people probably think you are an inactive member that has been busy with life.

About your Native American post.. just because nobody replies to something doesn't mean they haven't read it. It just means they don't have an answer. If I read a post, and it doesn't make sense to me, or I don't have an answer, I'm not going to make a post saying, "I don't know." I simply won't reply. Native Americans are very rare. A transgendered Native American is even more rare. A transgendered Native American that happens to be using Laura's Playground from March 18th to March 21st is probably nonexistant.

There have been some posts I've seen with 0 replies, and I wanted to answer them, but I couldn't because I didn't understand what they were trying to say. A good example was Bethany's post about modality. I had never heard that word before. I wanted to reply because I care for Bethany, but I just didn't understand the overall question being asked. Another good example is Jendar. She makes tons of posts, some of which get 0 replies. No replies isn't a personal attack, it's just a matter of people not understanding or not knowing the answer.

I partially don't understand what you are trying to say here. I had to look up "diatribe" It sounds like you're saying some people on this board are verbally assaulted, but you can't even get an answer? Another post of yours ended with you asking where are you supposed to get clothes. There was no question mark though, so people probably thought you were musing about it, not asking a general question. I don't think verbal assaults are allowed on this board, it's why posts are moderated before being put up. It is a support site, and nobody wants their feelings hurt here. If a mod thinks what I'm saying is too mean, then this post simply won't be put up.

As for the chat rooms, I can't say. I don't use them.

The eternal flow of people coming and going, losing friends and gaining friends, or not being understood by people; that's just life. It happens. Don't take it personally. I am sorry that you feel you are being mistreated here. This isn't the only place in the world, though. Maybe you can find friends or people that relate to you at a real life support group? Maybe written communication isn't your cup of tea and you relate to people better by speaking in person.

Anyway, if you decide to stay or to go, I wish you luck either way. I did not type this as a personal attack. I hope I somehow helped. I typed all this because I hate to see people get their feelings hurt, and because I care.

(edit: Ps - No problem Mods)

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Guest Zenda

Kia Ora Adrian,

Michelle's right, I'm a post 'junky' always wanting an answer[fix] to the questions I post...However if I don't get a responds...I think "Umm Oh well Sh#t happens!" As Michelle says sometimes [in my case lots] people either don't fully understand what I'm talking about or don't have an answer because they are not quite 'there' yet or they're just are not interested in what I have to say-just as at times I have no interest in what others have to say...

However I do have an interest in 'two spirited' people and the convention you mentioned sounds like it could be quite interesting, but I couldn't respond because I don't know anything about their conventions...

A while back I got somewhat peed off a few of times when I posted a couple of questions , they happened to be ones that I really 'wanted' answers to and replies were aloooooong time coming...However most of my posts are just to try and get others to express how they feel about certain things ..."It's better out than in!" And even if they don't repond/reply, at lease if they've read it they will be 'thinking' about it...

Hang in there Adrian I'm sure the 'universal' wheels are turning and someone will come up with info that will help you...

Metta Jendar

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Guest Sergei

I agree with what the others are saying. I read most of the post on here, whenever I get a chance to, but I probably don't even reply to a quarter of them. It's not because I don't care about what people are saying, it's just because a lot of the time I don't feel I have anything valuable to add to the discussion, and I'm not the sort of guy that likes to post just for the sake of it. I care about everybody here, even if I have never replied to one of there posts. Like Jendar said, I'm sure eventually somebody will come along and have some really good comments to make on your posts. Just be patient and hang in there. Never think that we don't all care about you.

Sergei xx

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Guest Zenda

Kia Ora and sorry Adrian...I guess I didn't see the full stop after "sorry '.' Adrian." I thought you [Adrian-Mr Fox] was saying sorry Adrian ! [me thinking Adrian was Michelle/nuckles 'real' name]...

Metta Jendar

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Guest dolly

to be honest,knuckles, ive never read your posts but dont feel bad, i dont read a lot of posts anyway. its not that i dont wanna read em or anything it just that i havent reached the levl yet where i can compare or understand whats goin on. But dont leave over lack of response. this site can be alot more helpful than just as a forum and the people here come across as they really care.

were community and to be honet, this is the first forum site ive been a part of where i really feel like i belong and i hoe you d too. keep posting and i promise ill read them as best i can ad even reply if i can relate.

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Guest Blake

Well, I’m sorry you feel this way. Feeling isolated or rejected is tough, I know. But I also kinda have to agree with the posts above me, and I do have to say I wish you would reconsider. I haven’t seen many of your posts, but then I don’t browse the forums as often as I could…

But in any case, part of me agrees with Michelle. There are lots of posts on here that don’t get responses, but they still get read. Sometimes people don’t know what to say, other times they may have no opinion on the topic, or they may not know enough about it to feel secure in responding. If you have trouble connecting with people, or if you feel awkward, you could hang around on the ‘General Topics’ board; there are plenty of conversations to get involved in here!

I don’t mean to insult or offend you, but relationships do take time, even online ones. I think you should keep trying, keep posting, keep making your own topics and responding to others here on the boards. Like Jendar said, if you just hang in there, someone is bound to come along with information to help you. But, again, it will probably take time.

I know it’s hard to get involved when you’re new on forums boards. I felt awkward at first, too, and sometimes I still do. It’s just part of being new [oh, tell me that didn’t all just rhyme *blushes*]. But if you keep making posts, and make efforts to get to know people, I’m sure you’ll feel like you fit in very soon.

I’m glad you’ve decided to try again. I mean, if you truly think you want to leave, I would hope you think about it a lot. Do you really wanna lose this place? This is one of the very few places where we can say what we want to say, and ask questions about being transgender, and no body will become angry with us, or abusive towards us. It really is safe here, and that’s rare. We do care about you here, and we do want to reach out and be your friend, and you will find support here.

So yeah, I really hope you decide to stay. Just… be patient. Everything truly does take time, and I hope you find what you’re looking for. :/

Take care,

- Blake

[btw, sorry if anything in this post was, again, to forward, or rude, or whatnot xP I’m still kinda out of it from painkiller xDDDD]

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Guest Sheila
seems when i write on here I get nothing

Either i dont know how to write what i want to communicate or im not part of the cliche here

Because i see diatribes written here and i be lucky to get a paragraph. :angry:

hi michelle, i hope you're still with us on this great site. i'm a newbie myself. i've no experience with forums and never made a post until i came here. there's enough here to keep me busy and imformed without the forums and would be content to immerse myself with the rest of the site. just reading the posts, has left my head spinning with eveything i'm learning. i myself found a community i feel i belong to and that has nothing to do with the forums. i hope you have reconcider and are still here at laura's playground. i have so much respect for native americans, you have so much to be proud of, and always will have my upmost respect. i have seen your name, so i know you're a part of the community and i myself welcome you here with open arms. see, i feel like a part of the community already and i've only been here four or five days. even before i read what laura wrote about writting down your feelings and expressing your opinions, i discovered that, yes it feels good and is a relief to express yourself through the written word. so if no one replys to my post, it doesn't bother me one way or the other, i'm getting therapy just writting my thoughts. please reconcider michelle.

little girl blue,

sheila

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