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Guest Donna Marta

As I said before I am a married crossdreser and she can not accept me for what I am. She has known almost 20 years and still doesn't see who I am. My love for her has grown over the years so I not looking for a way out. Today she has gone out with some of her girl friends from work. So today I can be Donna. But I have no one to share me with. Oh, how I wish I could be my wifes girl friend and share that side of me with her. I know it is never going to happen. So today it is going to be me and Donna. She is so much different then me, thats why I am her. I really do think my wife would like her to if only if she got to know her.

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I'm sure your wife would enjoy getting to know Donna if she would only let herself. Unfortunately, some/most wives cannot accept the fact that her husband is not all that she thought he was. It's not her fault. It's the way she's been conditioned by society.

So just kick back and enjoy the day. :)

MaryEllen

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Guest Donna Jean

Donna....

I have to agree with Mary Ellen....

Society can set peoples ideas and minds on a track that can't be moved sometimes...

I happen to be MTF and transitioning and I can't change clothes at the end of the day and revert for my wife...she has to take what I am in total....

You may want to have a sit down talk with her and see if she is open to it in any way at all...

Otherwise, enjoy yourself, Honey....

HUGGGGGS!

Donna Jean

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Guest ~Brenda~

Donna :)

Your wife may not completely accept you, but she doesn't reject you either. That is good.

I am sorry that you cannot crossdress when you want, but I am glad that you can at least sometimes.

Enjoy and cherish your time today.

Love you

Brenda

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Hi Donna

Only you can decide how far you can take your situation at this time and I haven't had the blessing and burden of dealing wit a spouse through this so I just want to say.....

Have all the enjoyment and joy you can in every moment available to you!

I hope Dona had a splendid day and has many,many more to share with us.

JJ

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Guest Hoslers_wife

This makes me sad. She is your partner. Team-mate. Other half. However you want to spin it this just doesn't seem fair. I'm sorry your spending the day alone. I hope you guys can work things out in the future but for today, have fun! And take pictures! Half the fun of being pretty is taking pretty pictures :-)

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As I said before I am a married crossdreser and she can not accept me for what I am. She has known almost 20 years and still doesn't see who I am. My love for her has grown over the years so I not looking for a way out. Today she has gone out with some of her girl friends from work. So today I can be Donna. But I have no one to share me with. Oh, how I wish I could be my wifes girl friend and share that side of me with her. I know it is never going to happen. So today it is going to be me and Donna. She is so much different then me, thats why I am her. I really do think my wife would like her to if only if she got to know her.

I understand how you feel. Once I accepted my true self I really need my "girl time". I didn't get the courage to tell my wife my feelings yet but I have been dropping hints. Like she said she wanted to get her toenails done for spring I would say "yeah, me to". I always joke around so she thinks nothing of it. Then I get irritated because I feel she is ignoring my feelings. I know I should just sit down and tell her about my feminine self but I guess I'm just testing the waters to see how she will take it. But my feminine self is growing to the point I can't ignore her anymore. I am physically depressed over this. I guess for now I will have to be like you and just enjoy myself alone. I just don't know how long I can keep her "bottled" up inside.

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