New Way Of Looking At What We Are

[Guest Elizabeth K]

If you don't cry - you aren't transsexual.

Wait wait wait!

Dee Jay, Sally and I came up with this during one of those rare times when all three of us were down at the same time. We are each and everyone of us crying some part of the day, or the week, or the month. WHY WHY WHY? Isn't anyone happy happy happy here on Laura's? If so - not for long...

[TMen cry too - they just don't talk about it.] So...

We cry for the way someone treated us - good, bad or indifferent

We cry for a situation or something that is happening to us - for or against us [or happening to someone else!]

We cry for ourselves - our lost life, our terrible stuggles - our successes, our little rewards, our big achievements

And sometime? We just cry - no real reason - we just do.

So laughingly we added to the phrase, "transsexuals are such melancholy creatures" this amendment: "If you don't cry - you aren't transsexual!"

Then we felt a little better...

Lizzy

[Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James]

[TMen cry too - they just don't talk about it.]

I am going to admit it!! I cry!! A lot >.<

[Carolyn Marie]

Elizabeth, hon:

Your post made me cry.

Thanks a lot!

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Donna Jean]

If you don't cry - you aren't transsexual.

Wait wait wait!

We cry for the way someone treated us - good, bad or indifferent

We cry for a situation or something that is happening to us - for or against us [or happening to someone else!]

We cry for ourselves - our lost life, our terrible stuggles - our successes, our little rewards, our big achievements

And sometime? We just cry - no real reason - we just do.

Lizzy, Sweetheart....

Those are the ONLY reasons that I cry.....

Outside of those, I NEVER cry.........

snif'....sniff'....

Sorry...(see above)

Donna Jean

[JenniferB]

That is so touching Lizzy because it is so true. <snif>

Love Susan

[Guest ChalenAustin]

I'm already more emotional than usual!

Oh, sweet Jesus!

[Guest Carden]

So true.

But we get by.

Card.

[Guest GwenMichelle]

'wipes tear off eye'

I cry myself to sleep almost every night!

GwenMichelle

xoxo

[Guest Micha]

I want to cry!

Think I cried myself empty as a child.

[Guest Bailey]

If not for the anti-depresents I'm taking I would be crying uncontrollably right now. Even with my meds I still find myself sheding many tears over my current and past situations. I love the post by the way. Thank you for writing it.

With Love,

Aislinn

[Guest NatashaJade]

Gawd...this place is like a Beth Henley play sometimes.

Every time I think I've got this crying thing under control, I see something or read something or hear something or think of something or that dang Sarah McLaughlin Save the Pets commercial comes on and I lose it all over again.

We should try to add it officially as one of the many side effects of transitioning.

luv

Gin

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Well, since I cry everyday at the drop of the hat, for any or no reason.. what does that make me?

Heck, this evening I started crying watching the Dawn soap ad washing the oil off the animals.

What really got me was the cute duckling at the end of the ad that quacked a clean smile.

Then the waterworks went into full gear.

Brenda

[Guest Bailey]

I thought I was the only one to cry at the Sara commercial. Those animals look so sad.

[Guest ~Brenda~]

I thought I was the only one to cry at the Sara commercial. Those animals look so sad.

Oh, don't get me started with the Sarah Maglauclin ads for abused and abandoned animals. I completely breakdown when I see those ads

...sniff....

Brenda

[Sally]

I only cry once a day.........

I start when I wake up...........

I continue through lunch.........

Then through dinner..............

And I cry myself to sleep...........

I assume that I stop at some point during the night.............

But then again, I wake up with a damp pillow.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest ricka]

Well to be honest I don't cry much out of sadness, but I do find the thing that easily moves me to tears are the tender, loving, heartfelt interactions with people and this is not infrequent. Yesterday was one of those occasions. I attended the graduation for one of my co-workers. She was receiving her masters degree. She grew up mostly in foster homes had her first baby at 15, and she was the first in her family to even get a high school diploma. My company had hired her right after she got her bachelor's degree and in the past two years she has just blossomed. She is Native American and just prior to her graduating yesterday I did ceremony with two other women elders for her and we gave her a beautiful Pendleton blanket which she carried draped across her arm when she received her diploma. We all teared up during the ceremony and then to watch her walk up on the platform to receive her degree.

hugs, Ricka

[JJ]

One of the wonderful things about this site-and there are so many!-is that you get to see the heroic, uplifting side of human nature to offset all the stuff that bombards us elsewhere.

I think perhaps we cry so much because we have been forced to be in touch with our feelings. Among all the other things. Or because we have reached a point we can no longer deny them

Just a couple of days ago I remembered being a child standing in my yard-all dressed up in jeans and my beloved fringed buckskin jacket -just staring into space with tears streaming down my face because I had just started puberty and had "The Talk' and realized I was forever lost to myself and trapped being something I couldn't really understand. I remember finally putting my chin up and walking back into the house and never letting myself cry about it again but I felt like I died that day. I always said my childhood ended when Mother remarried but it didn't -it was actually months earlier when I knew I would never be a physical boy - was trapped for life. So painful I even put the memory aside. Remembering that I cried again at last for my loss, for the long years of trying to be what I never could and they were healing tears. All those denied tears have to come out but they are now tears of love for the me that was so long denied. And that makes all the difference.

As for TMen-I've always admired a man who was strong enough to cry!

Love

JJ

[Guest Alison]

Without crying then I know its something I dont really want. Crying keeps me going, it gets me thinking about my goals and what I MUST do to get there.

I remember reading this,

A woman wears her tears like jewelry.

Have a great day everyone.

With Love,

Alison

Hugs!

[Milly]

I cry anytime I read about animal abuse or other general sadness. I also tend to tear up more and more recently over the little crap like not finding a job still. Then I feel rage, then I feel depressed.

[Guest RachaelAnn]

Not true. I haven't shed a tear since my father died 10 years ago. And I have lost an uncle and 2 grandparents.

Rachael