I Was So Very Wrong.

[Milly]

So I talked to my mom for a good 30 minutes today after she got home from a 4 hour job interview. Pretty nuts but anyway. Here I thought she was resistant to all of this trans business but as it turns out she is being incredibly supportive. Even saying I will be a angry white woman if I can't get rid of the anger I have right now. So we get to talking about her interview and it somehow went back on the subject of trans when she mentioned them saying how diverse they were in the workplace and it carried on until I just upfront asked her. "So when I get my job will you be able to help me with the therapy bills, hrt and learning how to be a woman in general" She said she would but I need to get rid of my attitude lol. So the conversation went on and I said well I still can't get painting my nails right and she was like well it's not easy, even I mess up sometimes. I asked how to get my right hand done and she said it's all about even strokes and I will get it right sometimes.

This made me so happy. Like happier than I have been in a very long time. I bet she will start calling me Ashley soon! Maybe, i have faith she will. For the first time in forever i have faith. It's a good day today!

[Guest Elizabeth K]

So I talked to my mom for a good 30 minutes today after she got home from a 4 hour job interview. Pretty nuts but anyway. Here I thought she was resistant to all of this trans business but as it turns out she is being incredibly supportive. Even saying I will be a angry white woman if I can't get rid of the anger I have right now. So we get to talking about her interview and it somehow went back on the subject of trans when she mentioned them saying how diverse they were in the workplace and it carried on until I just upfront asked her. "So when I get my job will you be able to help me with the therapy bills, hrt and learning how to be a woman in general" She said she would but I need to get rid of my attitude lol. So the conversation went on and I said well I still can't get painting my nails right and she was like well it's not easy, even I mess up sometimes. I asked how to get my right hand done and she said it's all about even strokes and I will get it right sometimes.

This made me so happy. Like happier than I have been in a very long time. I bet she will start calling me Ashley soon! Maybe, i have faith she will. For the first time in forever i have faith. It's a good day today!

SO GOOD

I think the lesson here is for everyone to note - baby steps, and patience!

Lizzy

[Guest Zolrek]

As far as anger goes, testosterone can add to aggressive behavior. Estrogen adds to mood swings but its not the same type of anger when it happens. So, keep that in mind and maybe remind your mother that hormones effect moods as well as your own will. If she expects your anger to just go away magically she wont be very happy with the results especially when(if) you start hormones. Things take time and there are limits to what you can do and ways in order to channel those feelings into places that are more appropriate. Do you see what I'm getting at here?

Its good she seems to have shown she's much more accepting then you first thought. Remember though there may be some "setbacks" where her mood and attitude changes towards it then suddenly go back to being supportive again. She may have ups and down but at some point the water will calm and I'm sure she'll be able to settle on one or the other. Now that shes shown some support though, it may point towards a better outcome. Things will take a very, very long time.

[Guest Donna Jean]

SO GOOD

I think the lesson here is for everyone to note - baby steps, and patience!

Lizzy

Absolutely true, Lizzy.....

When you're coming out to parents, it's best not to get in their face and whine and shout...

A little baby step goes a long way....

Donna Jean

[Guest Emily Ray]

Ashley,

That is so wonderful! Do you need help pulling yourself down from the celing. Congratulations.

Huggs,

[Milly]

Yes I'm ecstatic, never been this happy over something so small! It just feels so foreign to me, happiness. It's been so long since I have felt this good. I don't think her mood will change on this, we just talked about the online therapist and she said she would prefer I did a actual office type therapist. I think she's finally coming around to the whole daughter thing =)

[Guest Emily Ray]

I can tell! Words just aren't made to express what your feeling. But, I understand and feel the same way still a few weeks after coming out to my mom and all. Enjoy it dear. It has been to long in coming, but now it is here.

Huggs,

Emily

[Guest Micha]

So I talked to my mom for a good 30 minutes today after she got home from a 4 hour job interview. Pretty nuts but anyway. Here I thought she was resistant to all of this trans business but as it turns out she is being incredibly supportive. Even saying I will be a angry white woman if I can't get rid of the anger I have right now. So we get to talking about her interview and it somehow went back on the subject of trans when she mentioned them saying how diverse they were in the workplace and it carried on until I just upfront asked her. "So when I get my job will you be able to help me with the therapy bills, hrt and learning how to be a woman in general" She said she would but I need to get rid of my attitude lol. So the conversation went on and I said well I still can't get painting my nails right and she was like well it's not easy, even I mess up sometimes. I asked how to get my right hand done and she said it's all about even strokes and I will get it right sometimes.

This made me so happy. Like happier than I have been in a very long time. I bet she will start calling me Ashley soon! Maybe, i have faith she will. For the first time in forever i have faith. It's a good day today!

Hey, maybe this faith and happiness is the first step in dealing with your anger, yeah? That is so cool for you!