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Ok after trying so hard lately to find a job, me and my mom both. She finds a great one and it has excellent pay and lots of benefits. This is also wonderful news but it gets better. I mentioned the group therapy offered by Felisha Porter and said it was 30 bucks a session. She said that's alot cheaper than I thought and I said yea and she has private sessions for 90 bucks. Also cheaper than what she thought, I mean I have been trying to get a job for so long and I still am, I even tried looking at her bank to see if they were hiring. They seem to have excellent policies about trans, I won't mention names of the bank because I am afraid it will be linked back to her somehow so let's just say it's a bank lol.

I being the dumb dumb I am and I feel bad doing this I asked her if it was ok until I get a job can she front it for me. She said yes, 2 times a month is waaaaaaaaaaay better than what I have had. No times a month. =) I'm so ecstatic! I can't wait til she gets paid and I can set up an appointment. I feel like a bum for doing this but I said until I get a job and I will still be filling out apps like mad like I've been doing, I'll be the house maid. She laughed and laughed harder when I said if you wanna find me a maid dress I'll wear that too!

Just sooooooo happy, I mean this means I can get somewhere now, she has been so supportive as of late. I mean it's like she is even connecting with me on a dare I say it? Mother daughter relationship, she's offered to let me borrow her girly hair magz for reference and even let me borrow some of her makeup! Omg this is like a dream come true, I said I will be paying her back in full when I get a job and then some. I didn't say the last part but I will be. Yes I really do feel bad about going this route but I mean it isn't like I'm just sitting around all day lol. Been excersising and dieting, cleaning up, trying to meditate to clear my head, applying to every place I can for every position I am qualified for lol. I thank Jessie05 for the meditation idea. Been helping me so much with my depression.

Gah I can't believe I did that but still...I'm conflicted, I feel like a moocher for this but I feel so relieved at the same time.

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Guest Alex Blitzen

That's awesome that your mom is so supportive :D I'm happy for you and it sounds like things are really going your way :) Congratulations!

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Fantastic news, Ashley. Congrats!

A little support and understanding goes a long way, doesn't it?

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Oh! that reminds me, um, does anyone have any experience with Felisha? This lady, http://feleshiaporter.com/index.html I just wanna have all my bases covered ya know? Oh well, I'm just jumping for joy atm. =D Thanks for all the feedback btw! So excited!

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Oh another update. Ok I was talking to my mom, and she wants me to go chat with a regular therapist first, I agreed because, i mean hell shes paying for my other stuff, might as well try this, if I tell them what I am feeling about how I need to make myself female to match my mind, will they just say its depression or some other thing? It's something I kind of fear, because I told her I would permit her to be with me on a couple of sessions so she can see. I just don't want them to call it something else cause they aren't a trained Gender therapist. I don't mind her wanting me to be absolutely sure.

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Oh! that reminds me, um, does anyone have any experience with Felisha? This lady, http://feleshiaporter.com/index.html I just wanna have all my bases covered ya know? Oh well, I'm just jumping for joy atm. =D Thanks for all the feedback btw! So excited!

Congrats Ashley!!!

I am very happy that your on your way.

It's nice to see someone that has some family support like that.

Love and (((((HUGS)))))

Ree

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Guest Donna Jean

Ashley, Honey.....

I'm glad that you've been able to take thiis huge step....This is one of the biggest that you will take!

Now, the therapist that you mention ....

She is the therapist for a number of girls on this site...Sally being one of them...why don't you give her a PM?

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest sarah f

Ashley let me first say congrats for you and your mom. As far as Feleshia goes, I know personally that she is wonderful. I have been going to see her since January. She has a cozy little office and makes you feel very comfortable. I would definately recommend her to anyone that is in the DFW area. I hope you can start seeing her soon. She has alot of contacts in this area for the trans community so don't be afraid to ask her. By the way if you want to PM me I can get you info on a gender friends group in the area.

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Hey girl,

I sent you a PM with more information but let's just say that you could not make a better choice in therapists.

I am so glad that your mother is becoming so supportive, that has got to be wonderful.

We have been living just a few miles apart but I have been so busy that I never have taken the opportunity to meet with you - I am so sorry, Felishia and Sarah will help you find groups in the area and you will do just fine.

Love ya,

Sally

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Ashley, and everyone else here in the DFW Area,

I am in the DFW area and looking for recommendations and support groups. My therapist recommended Rita Cotterly, but her number is not working. Fort Worth/Arlington/Mansfield is my neck of the woods, and North Dallas is not very feasible with my schedule to make it up to Feleshia Porter. Any Suggestions would be great!

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Guest Emily Ray

Ashley,

Honey I was so in need of such an uplifting story tonight. I am soooosooo excited for you. My mom is super supportive and it really means a lot to have that support. I was very empowered by that fact alone and I finally started to be myself.

Huggs

Emily

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Ashley, and everyone else here in the DFW Area,

I am in the DFW area and looking for recommendations and support groups. My therapist recommended Rita Cotterly, but her number is not working. Fort Worth/Arlington/Mansfield is my neck of the woods, and North Dallas is not very feasible with my schedule to make it up to Feleshia Porter. Any Suggestions would be great!

If you get to 5 posts you can pm me and I will give you a site for a local group in the DFW area. They know a lot of good therapists and doctors to see. I look forward to your pm.

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If you get to 5 posts you can pm me and I will give you a site for a local group in the DFW area. They know a lot of good therapists and doctors to see. I look forward to your pm.

Sarah F, thanks! You can also tweet me any info, same name their as here. Is hoping for something west/south of Dallas likely. Everything looks to be in North Dallas.

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