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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

How do you guys deal with Tom? This is a question for pre-T guys :mellow: Or how did you guys on T deal with it before you got T?

I don't get how anyone can go through this...

When my doctor calls I am telling her that I want Depo and that I want her to call Wal-Mart and call the prescription in because I can't do this... I am sick of having to deal with this... I got a 2 month free card after 5 months of hell and now it's back and I am going berserk... I took tylenol... AFTER I said that I was never taking any pain pills again <_< It hurts so bad! :( GAH!!! <_<

Sorry had to vent...

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Tom is "that time of the month." I think I remember girls in middle school calling it Tom... or maybe Bob...

And I don't think "Tylenol" is much of a pain pill. I've taken stuff much stronger than that... like the pills I was given for my wisdom tooth surgery, they were very helpful, both from the dry socket I got AND Tom.

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Tom is "that time of the month." I think I remember girls in middle school calling it Tom... or maybe Bob...

LOl! That's one of the things I love about this site - always something new to learn.

But, uh...Bob? :unsure:

Not sure I want to know where that came from. :lol:

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

who's tom? lol

I have to ask, too.....

Donna Jean

Tom is "that time of the month." I think I remember girls in middle school calling it Tom... or maybe Bob...

And I don't think "Tylenol" is much of a pain pill. I've taken stuff much stronger than that... like the pills I was given for my wisdom tooth surgery, they were very helpful, both from the dry socket I got AND Tom.

What nelo said! I call it Bob too... You are the first person since middle school for me to hear it called Bob :lol:

Yea it has yet to do anything and I can't take anything else :(

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

LOl! That's one of the things I love about this site - always something new to learn.

But, uh...Bob? :unsure:

Not sure I want to know where that came from. :lol:

Carolyn Marie

Neither do I remember the girls talking about it in the girls locker room.

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Guest My_Genesis

lol i didn't realize what it meant til I said the full thing and then was like "ooooh, TOM" lol Geo was makin fun of me :P

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Guest lvmyftm

One....Geo glad to see you figured out a way to get on here without your computer

Two...I thought Bob stood for Battery Operated Boyfriend....Never heard Aunt Flo referred to as Bob or Tom before, but I do agree whatever you want to call it is a winch!

You you take Aleve or Advil for the pain? If your pain is really that bad that OTC's don't help then as much as you don't want to seeing your doc might be a good thing as there should be a reason for pain that bad.

I was actually just pondering this topic today. Wondering if you guys used pads or tampons. Seems like both would create dysphoric issues for you guys.

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One....Geo glad to see you figured out a way to get on here without your computer

Two...I thought Bob stood for Battery Operated Boyfriend....Never heard Aunt Flo referred to as Bob or Tom before, but I do agree whatever you want to call it is a winch!

You you take Aleve or Advil for the pain? If your pain is really that bad that OTC's don't help then as much as you don't want to seeing your doc might be a good thing as there should be a reason for pain that bad.

I was actually just pondering this topic today. Wondering if you guys used pads or tampons. Seems like both would create dysphoric issues for you guys.

Yep they both do :angry: I've kinda numbed myself form it, like, I became so dysphoric that I just don't care anymore, if that makes sense.

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Have you tried the extra strength Tylenol? Advil never did ANYTHING for me, but I've also been out of the stronger painkillers the past two months, so I tried extra strength Tylenol, two pills. It... actually worked okay. Which I didn't expect. Maybe it's because it's one of the few times in my life I've ever taken Tylenol (at least when it wasn't part of another pain pill) so maybe I'm not immune, or because it's just a different type of pain reliever than advil. Also, Aleve did NOTHING for me either. And I've never tried regular Tylenol that I can remember. So, Advil- nothing, Advil-nothing, Extra-strength Tylenol-okay.

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

lol i didn't realize what it meant til I said the full thing and then was like "ooooh, TOM" lol Geo was makin fun of me :P

Yes I was making fun of him because he should have been able to figure it out :P:lol:

One....Geo glad to see you figured out a way to get on here without your computer

Two...I thought Bob stood for Battery Operated Boyfriend....Never heard Aunt Flo referred to as Bob or Tom before, but I do agree whatever you want to call it is a winch!

You you take Aleve or Advil for the pain? If your pain is really that bad that OTC's don't help then as much as you don't want to seeing your doc might be a good thing as there should be a reason for pain that bad.

I was actually just pondering this topic today. Wondering if you guys used pads or tampons. Seems like both would create dysphoric issues for you guys.

I am glad that I did too :D

LOL! Yeah never heard it called that either :P

I have to tell her about it. She has yet to call me back.

They both do. I used both... And well they are both issues for me.. :(

Have you tried the extra strength Tylenol? Advil never did ANYTHING for me, but I've also been out of the stronger painkillers the past two months, so I tried extra strength Tylenol, two pills. It... actually worked okay. Which I didn't expect. Maybe it's because it's one of the few times in my life I've ever taken Tylenol (at least when it wasn't part of another pain pill) so maybe I'm not immune, or because it's just a different type of pain reliever than advil. Also, Aleve did NOTHING for me either. And I've never tried regular Tylenol that I can remember. So, Advil- nothing, Advil-nothing, Extra-strength Tylenol-okay.

I took Tylenol 8 hour at standard dosage but 2 pills. It did nothing. 2 hours later it's going away on it's own slowly...

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I took Tylenol 8 hour at standard dosage but 2 pills. It did nothing. 2 hours later it's going away on it's own slowly...

Ah, that sucks. The only other thing I can recommend are distractions. I find spending time on the computer or playing video games help. Sometimes even physical activity, if it's not TOO bad, like only at 50% pain level (like when I was taking Tylenol). Because sometimes I can almost ignore it sort of... or at least it's better than rolling around on the floor, which for some reason is always the first thing I want to do if I have cramps. It's very odd.

That 8 hour is 650mg Acetaminophen, the extra strength is 500mg. So I guess you're already doing the best you can with that.

Um... I also heard drinking less caffeine helps... but I can never make myself NOT drink caffeine.

Also... heating pads. I used to use my mom's all the time. The kind that smells like lavender and you but it in the microwave to heat it up. But I don't own one of my own, so I have used one in a year-ish.

And in answer to the other question, I use that cotton attached to the string to stop the bleeding. Think of it like... first aid... got to stop your injury from bleeding all over the place... yeah? Even if it keeps reopening every month. :banghead:

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Guest MemoryAlpha

ARGH it seems we all suffer together.

I do busy work for a week and preoccupy my mind.

And why does it have to be blood?

Why can't it be.... water?

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And why does it have to be blood?

Why can't it be.... water?

Yeah, at least that wouldn't stain. =( I get so paranoid about staining my sheets I wrap a towel around my waist before I go to bed. Not to mention all the accidents I've had that have gotten it showing through my pants... that's the worst... I was so lucky several times that I had been wearing a sweater that I could tie around my waist.

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

Ah, that sucks. The only other thing I can recommend are distractions. I find spending time on the computer or playing video games help. Sometimes even physical activity, if it's not TOO bad, like only at 50% pain level (like when I was taking Tylenol). Because sometimes I can almost ignore it sort of... or at least it's better than rolling around on the floor, which for some reason is always the first thing I want to do if I have cramps. It's very odd.

That 8 hour is 650mg Acetaminophen, the extra strength is 500mg. So I guess you're already doing the best you can with that.

Um... I also heard drinking less caffeine helps... but I can never make myself NOT drink caffeine.

Also... heating pads. I used to use my mom's all the time. The kind that smells like lavender and you but it in the microwave to heat it up. But I don't own one of my own, so I have used one in a year-ish.

And in answer to the other question, I use that cotton attached to the string to stop the bleeding. Think of it like... first aid... got to stop your injury from bleeding all over the place... yeah? Even if it keeps reopening every month. :banghead:

I don't ever have any caffeine... So I guess I am good there... I need a heating pad I love those things. :)

ARGH it seems we all suffer together.

I do busy work for a week and preoccupy my mind.

And why does it have to be blood?

Why can't it be.... water?

That would be nice :(

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

I called my doctor and I am going to go on Depo tomorrow. My mum and her bf will pick up the prescription and then I'll call the doctor's office and go in. :) YAY! <_<

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Guest lvmyftm

Yeah, at least that wouldn't stain. =( I get so paranoid about staining my sheets I wrap a towel around my waist before I go to bed. Not to mention all the accidents I've had that have gotten it showing through my pants... that's the worst... I was so lucky several times that I had been wearing a sweater that I could tie around my waist.

Putting hydrogen peroxide on the clothes or sheets before you wash them will take the blood right out and not leave a stain.

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Guest Cowboy

I have never heard of Bob or Tom.

But ive heard of Aunt Flo.

or my favorite "gettin shot" LOL

my way of dealing with it:

cursing.

lots and lots of cursing..

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Guest MrAwesome

I don't use either pads of tampons. I'm so ashamed and Dysphoric I've hidden it completely from my family. I've found a solution using toilet paper. Sometimes paper towels. It's not the most efficient, but it works enough. The hard part was finding the right way to do it. The 1st thing I tried involved Duct tape. I still can't do much as far as leaving my apartment during that week. It's ruined my life.

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Guest My_Genesis

I called my doctor and I am going to go on Depo tomorrow. My mum and her bf will pick up the prescription and then I'll call the doctor's office and go in. :) YAY! <_<

Awesome!! I'll keep you in mind tomorrow. :)

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Guest nelo

I don't use either pads of tampons. I'm so ashamed and Dysphoric I've hidden it completely from my family. I've found a solution using toilet paper. Sometimes paper towels. It's not the most efficient, but it works enough. The hard part was finding the right way to do it. The 1st thing I tried involved Duct tape. I still can't do much as far as leaving my apartment during that week. It's ruined my life.

I used toilet paper for a about a year before my mom discovered I had actually started having my period. I... am glad I don't do that anymore. I just had to use so much for what it did, and no matter how I arranged it I'd usually managed to mess up my underwear, which is how my mom eventually found out, as I hid the pairs of underwear under my mattress. =( I still won't go buy tampons though, even after almost a year away from home going college and many years of "Tom." I keep making my mom buy them for me...

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Guest harvester52

And I thought I was the only adult that still made the parental units buy the 'supplies', pre-T that is. I had to tell my parents because mine was so relentlessly heavy that even with a tampon and a pad, I'd have stains on the back of my pants every time. I had cramps so bad that I'd feel like I'd rather have had the flu. Bedridden for eight days, rolling in pain, going through six sets of sheets... good grief I'm glad I don't have that anymore.

-BC

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Guest vertigo

There was a time when I didn't have to deal with this. My periods stopped either because of an eating disorder I had, or because I started having epileptic seizures. All the doctors were rude and were screaming at me for some reason... You can probably tell that I never went back there. THOSE PEOPLE ARE CRAZY. <_<

But those 6 months without leaving stains all over the place were... Pretty nice.

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