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Guest Keane

Back when I used pads and tampons my mom knew my cycle almost exactly, and it was really embarrassing. Now I use the DivaCup and other than cramping for a day or two before, it's like I don't even get my period, which is cool, and my mom doesn't ask about it anymore. Whenever I get cramps now, I can just say I have a headache and she doesn't even suspect ^_^

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

Yeah, at least that wouldn't stain. =( I get so paranoid about staining my sheets I wrap a towel around my waist before I go to bed. Not to mention all the accidents I've had that have gotten it showing through my pants... that's the worst... I was so lucky several times that I had been wearing a sweater that I could tie around my waist.

I used to stain my sheets a lot. Now I don't but I do stain my underwear :( It's annoying. I still wear underwear from the girl section (well because pads fit them better then men's underwear for obvious reasons). I am so paranoid at night when I go to bed that I have to lay on my stomach. Which is hard to do because A) it hurts and B) I sleep on a love seat <_<

Putting hydrogen peroxide on the clothes or sheets before you wash them will take the blood right out and not leave a stain.

I didn't know that!! I am going to keep that tip in my head for next time :)

I have never heard of Bob or Tom.

But ive heard of Aunt Flo.

or my favorite "gettin shot" LOL

my way of dealing with it:

cursing.

lots and lots of cursing..

Aw *hugs*

I don't use either pads of tampons. I'm so ashamed and Dysphoric I've hidden it completely from my family. I've found a solution using toilet paper. Sometimes paper towels. It's not the most efficient, but it works enough. The hard part was finding the right way to do it. The 1st thing I tried involved Duct tape. I still can't do much as far as leaving my apartment during that week. It's ruined my life.

:(

Awesome!! I'll keep you in mind tomorrow. :)

I didn't go. I will go tomorrow and have it done. But it's so cool!! The prescription came with the um stuff that shots are injected with :P But I don't know how to do it so I am going to go in. Maybe they can teach me how to do it myself so that way I don't have to walk there just to be in there for a few minutes :lol:

I used toilet paper for a about a year before my mom discovered I had actually started having my period. I... am glad I don't do that anymore. I just had to use so much for what it did, and no matter how I arranged it I'd usually managed to mess up my underwear, which is how my mom eventually found out, as I hid the pairs of underwear under my mattress. =( I still won't go buy tampons though, even after almost a year away from home going college and many years of "Tom." I keep making my mom buy them for me...

And I thought I was the only adult that still made the parental units buy the 'supplies', pre-T that is. I had to tell my parents because mine was so relentlessly heavy that even with a tampon and a pad, I'd have stains on the back of my pants every time. I had cramps so bad that I'd feel like I'd rather have had the flu. Bedridden for eight days, rolling in pain, going through six sets of sheets... good grief I'm glad I don't have that anymore.

-BC

I hate buying them. I try and make other people do it for me. I don't like to buy them and I don't pass 100% so it makes it worse for me :(

I hate it too :(

I think that we all hate it :(

*hugs*

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Guest My_Genesis

I used toilet paper for a about a year before my mom discovered I had actually started having my period. I... am glad I don't do that anymore. I just had to use so much for what it did, and no matter how I arranged it I'd usually managed to mess up my underwear, which is how my mom eventually found out, as I hid the pairs of underwear under my mattress. =( I still won't go buy tampons though, even after almost a year away from home going college and many years of "Tom." I keep making my mom buy them for me...

And I thought I was the only adult that still made the parental units buy the 'supplies', pre-T that is. I had to tell my parents because mine was so relentlessly heavy that even with a tampon and a pad, I'd have stains on the back of my pants every time. I had cramps so bad that I'd feel like I'd rather have had the flu. Bedridden for eight days, rolling in pain, going through six sets of sheets... good grief I'm glad I don't have that anymore.

-BC

I've only had to buy my own once. That one time was awful.... I actually turned all red and started shaking. It made me so self-conscious... so humiliating. I kept thinking "I wish I had to buy condoms instead." LOL

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Guest ScifiComicDUDE

I don't use either pads of tampons. I'm so ashamed and Dysphoric I've hidden it completely from my family. I've found a solution using toilet paper. Sometimes paper towels. It's not the most efficient, but it works enough. The hard part was finding the right way to do it. The 1st thing I tried involved Duct tape. I still can't do much as far as leaving my apartment during that week. It's ruined my life.

Mrawesome....i hope u are still not doing this...pads are so much easier to deal with..u dont have to worry about leakages all the time... yeah its embarrasing but its worth it...

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

I've only had to buy my own once. That one time was awful.... I actually turned all red and started shaking. It made me so self-conscious... so humiliating. I kept thinking "I wish I had to buy condoms instead." LOL

That would be better, eh?

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Guest Rafferdy

Man, I can't imagine using toilet paper! Tampons for me. I was considering trying diva cups, but I haven't actually gotten my period for 4 months...starting to wonder if I should see a doctor or something. 3 is the longest it's ever been before. (Obviously, I am not on hormones atm.)

I've never heard anyone call it "Tom" before but I think I like it.

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Guest My_Genesis

Man, I can't imagine using toilet paper! Tampons for me. I was considering trying diva cups, but I haven't actually gotten my period for 4 months...starting to wonder if I should see a doctor or something. 3 is the longest it's ever been before. (Obviously, I am not on hormones atm.)

I've never heard anyone call it "Tom" before but I think I like it.

So I looked up diva cups on wikipedia cuz I didn't know what they were... and walked away with "problem solved!" after reading "Soft, disposable menstrual cups may be worn during sex, though they are not contraceptive devices." LOL :rolleyes:

*gets mind out of gutter*

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

Man, I can't imagine using toilet paper! Tampons for me. I was considering trying diva cups, but I haven't actually gotten my period for 4 months...starting to wonder if I should see a doctor or something. 3 is the longest it's ever been before. (Obviously, I am not on hormones atm.)

I've never heard anyone call it "Tom" before but I think I like it.

Tom= Time of month :P

Um... I think that I have seen a diva cup but *goes and looks it up to check...* *comes back...* Yup seen one of those before :lol: Um yea eww :unsure:

So I looked up diva cups on wikipedia cuz I didn't know what they were... and walked away with "problem solved!" after reading "Soft, disposable menstrual cups may be worn during sex, though they are not contraceptive devices." LOL :rolleyes:

*gets mind out of gutter*

Um... Yea uh R.J no need to have your mind there :P

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Guest Carden

I've only had to buy my own once. That one time was awful.... I actually turned all red and started shaking. It made me so self-conscious... so humiliating. I kept thinking "I wish I had to buy condoms instead." LOL

I once when I had to run out and buy pads, I also picked up a couple boxs of condoms, a volley ball, bubbles (the blowy kind) and a crap tonne of candy. XD The cash lady was like 70 and gave me the most confused look. I don't think she noticed the pads because she had to ring in like 20 ring pops. :P

Strategy, man. Strategy.

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

I once when I had to run out and buy pads, I also picked up a couple boxs of condoms, a volley ball, bubbles (the blowy kind) and a crap tonne of candy. XD The cash lady was like 70 and gave me the most confused look. I don't think she noticed the pads because she had to ring in like 20 ring pops. :P

Strategy, man. Strategy.

Nice. I'll have to remember that next time I ever have to do that :lol:

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Guest My_Genesis

I once when I had to run out and buy pads, I also picked up a couple boxs of condoms, a volley ball, bubbles (the blowy kind) and a crap tonne of candy. XD The cash lady was like 70 and gave me the most confused look. I don't think she noticed the pads because she had to ring in like 20 ring pops. :P

Strategy, man. Strategy.

There is a video on YouTube by College Humor about a guy buying condoms and he's gotta find "decoys" to buy. :P sounds just like that. but I would much rather buy condoms with no decoys at all than feminine hygiene products with decoys!! lol.

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

There is a video on YouTube by College Humor about a guy buying condoms and he's gotta find "decoys" to buy. :P sounds just like that. but I would much rather buy condoms with no decoys at all than feminine hygiene products with decoys!! lol.

Is that the one you had me watch? :unsure:

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Guest My_Genesis

Is that the one you had me watch? :unsure:

yeah, I think there's a girl version too... not sure whether I saw that one or not...I think I did but can't remember... all I remember is they were equally funny :P

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

yeah, I think there's a girl version too... not sure whether I saw that one or not. but they were equally funny :P

:lol: Show me sometime xD I like watching videos. :D

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Guest My_Genesis

:lol: Show me sometime xD I like watching videos. :D

:P I edited that post cuz it made no sense... lol... have fun

see... even the girl would rather buy condoms... lol.

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

:P I edited that post cuz it made no sense... lol... have fun

see... even the girl would rather buy condoms... lol.

What did I say that made no sense? :huh:

And yea that was purdy funny :D

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Guest lvmyftm

:P I edited that post cuz it made no sense... lol... have fun

see... even the girl would rather buy condoms... lol.

lol. I use the decoy thing as well when buying either items. If buying condoms I ALWAYS go some place with a u-scan so I don't have to deal with a checker B). Pads and tampons are never bought alone even if that is the only thing I need from the store. At least for me it is alot more embrassing to go buy those products while I am actually on my period and not much of a big deal to me if I am not. Stupid really, not like anyone but me knows if I am or not.

Those cup thing do NOT work well! The one time I tried it it leaked like crazy. Maybe I didn't have it in right, but it wasn't comfy, leaked, and I found it rather gross at the time that you have to stick a finger way up in there to get the thing in and out.

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

lol. I use the decoy thing as well when buying either items. If buying condoms I ALWAYS go some place with a u-scan so I don't have to deal with a checker B). Pads and tampons are never bought alone even if that is the only thing I need from the store. At least for me it is alot more embrassing to go buy those products while I am actually on my period and not much of a big deal to me if I am not. Stupid really, not like anyone but me knows if I am or not.

Those cup thing do NOT work well! The one time I tried it it leaked like crazy. Maybe I didn't have it in right, but it wasn't comfy, leaked, and I found it rather gross at the time that you have to stick a finger way up in there to get the thing in and out.

One of my two foster mum's uses one... I don't understand how ANYONE can use them >.<

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Guest lvmyftm

One of my two foster mum's uses one... I don't understand how ANYONE can use them >.<

Probably the same ppl who use washable pads. :blink: lol Saving the planet one less tampon at a time

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

Probably the same ppl who use washable pads. :blink: lol Saving the planet one less tampon at a time

Ya that's why she uses them :lol: but I mean how can she deal with it? :lol:

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