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Guest Zolrek

First off yes...I know I'm a goody-two shoes nerd-a-sorous rex.

Anyway, there's a old lady on a breathing machine that lives next door to me. She can barely walk to her door and unlock it. She has house maids come and help her clean and cook but that's it...and I've never once seen her family members come and help her. We met a few times before I started helping her out in her home. The first few time's we met was well she was trying to get in the door with her wheelchair. I jumped in, helped her unlock the door and held it open for her. She also dropped a few things and I picked them up for her. One day we hear a knock at our door(and we live in a apartment so that was rather odd, we would usually get a ring) and it was the little old lady I helped a few times. She asked me to clean her deck so I did so and she paid me two dollars; it wasn't about the money as I know is not much, it was just about being kind to the people who have a hard time taking care of themselves. I feel a duty to step in if needed. After I helped I gave her my phone number in case she never needed me. Since then I've been helping her with little things. She calls me her "son" and says "love you" like a mother would now.

She's been getting me to check her 649 when I go to the store. The older lady who was there knew I was helping the little old lady next door. That lady retired and now a new one took over the gambling stall. She said she wouldn't risk selling/checking 649's for me because its her new job and I look younger then my ID says. I can't count how many times I've been turned down even with my ID. I really hate it. I've been legal for drinking and gambling for 2 years and a few weeks in Canada...1 year and few weeks in the USA. :angry: How can one fend for themselves if its a 50-50 chance your own ID gets shot down? It's not like I drink or gamble, but my family likes to go to bars for chips and fries, or wants me to buy tickets with/for them pretty often and it fails. I tried to buy smokes for my step sister and got shot down...it's just frustrating sometime, you know?

Sorry, needed to rant among people who could understand...

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Guest kelise

Yes I.....I hate when.............I get turned down for..........for looking too.............too young, heh heh. ..... ........... happens all the time! :unsure:

oh, heckWhy? WHY can't that happen to me again? Whyyyyyyyyyyyy?????? :banghead:

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Guest Zolrek

Yes I.....I hate when.............I get turned down for..........for looking too.............too young, heh heh. ..... ........... happens all the time! :unsure:

oh, heckWhy? WHY can't that happen to me again? Whyyyyyyyyyyyy?????? :banghead:

:blink:

Ummm..go ahead and take my youthful looks. At lest I wont be embarrassed anymore by my ID being turned down all the time.

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I still get carded for my bros cig... even when I don't shave. Then again, maybe they are supposed to do that.

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  • Forum Moderator

I can relate. I once went to judge a speech contest at a junior high and was mistaken for a contestant. I was over 20.

And I was carded in every bar I went to well into my 30s. Last time I was nearly 40!!

But I looked in my 20s when I was in my 40s and 30s in my 50s.

Then sun and health caught up wit me. But those few years it bothered me were so worth it for those decades all my friends were jealous of me and I could get away with wearing anything I chose

Grin

JJ

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

I still look like I am like 12 <_< I'm 19.

I went into a Gamestop and they asked my mum if the Mature game I was buying was alright...

I pulled my ID out right away to PROVE that I was 19 just because I didn't want that guy thinking that I was NOT old enough to get it on my own...

I know your frustrations. But in a way it's a good thing because you'll young when you're older :P

It confuses me that they would turn down your ID if it's legit... :huh:

(you're also in Canada but still...)

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Guest nelo

Carry around your birth certificate? O_o

I look young too. I'm 19, and I know when I'm 21 I'll need to be carded plenty (already am when I buy lotto tickets)... but I can't see being turned down despite my ID...

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Guest Zolrek

I'm not the type to enjoy going out much so when I do then getting embarrassed is the last thing I want. As for my ID getting turned down - I assume they think it's fake but they don't say that to my face. Most of them just say "we can't take the risk, sorry."

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

I'm not the type to enjoy going out much so when I do then getting embarrassed is the last thing I want. As for my ID getting turned down - I assume they think it's fake but they don't say that to my face. Most of them just say "we can't take the risk, sorry."

Isn't there a way to tell that it's NOT a fake? I know that IDs here you can tell if they are fake if you look closely enough.

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Guest Zolrek

Isn't there a way to tell that it's NOT a fake? I know that IDs here you can tell if they are fake if you look closely enough.

Yeah, it's clearly not fake but they don't take the time to try to disprove it as fake. I never push the subject with them because I am not aggressive in public - over the phone or computer is another thing. If I wanted to push the subject then I guess I could ask them what they mean by not taking a risk etc and try to get the manager...but then I'd have to make a scene each time this happens. Which is another thing I dislike - I don't like attention out in public.

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

Yeah, it's clearly not fake but they don't take the time to try to disprove it as fake. I never push the subject with them because I am not aggressive in public - over the phone or computer is another thing. If I wanted to push the subject then I guess I could ask them what they mean by not taking a risk etc and try to get the manager...but then I'd have to make a scene each time this happens. Which is another thing I dislike - I don't like attention out in public either.

Grr! People like that drive me nuts! Someone that is working in costumer service should take the time to do just that. You go there for a reason and well they should take the time instead of being like "nope sorry" <_<

It's okay. Just be who you are. If you don't like to put up a """fuss""" then don't. I can do it for you :P (not really... I would just walk away too...).

I'm the same way so I get it. :)

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Guest chngnwnd

You will appreciate being viewed as young when you get older...

I got carded to get my ears pierced and my teenage son was with me!!!

Did I get mad? Absolutely not...I am thirty-nine and someone thought I looked younger than 18...

I did a little dance in my head then just smiled and laughed as I showed her my ID...

hugs

Bobbie

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Guest Sam_P

I'm 21 and on occasion I still get ID'd buying 15-certificate films. :( Definitely have to get ID out for anything 18-rated. But yeah, I'm biding my time until it becomes useful looking younger than I am - got to look on the positive side of things. :P

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Guest StrandedOutThere

People give me funny looks over my ID but I've never been turned down. I think people in the US don't care if it is fake. It's like they did their job just by asking and checking. At most, I've seen a cashier hold it up so they can see the security mark (which is near impossible to fake) and that ends it. People occasionally comment on how I don't look 32, to which I reply that I've age well. The fact I've got some gray hair probably helps.

Still... it's pretty annoying. I'd rather not have to talk about my age all the stinking time. Frustrating.

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Guest Zolrek

People give me funny looks over my ID but I've never been turned down. I think people in the US don't care if it is fake. It's like they did their job just by asking and checking. At most, I've seen a cashier hold it up so they can see the security mark (which is near impossible to fake) and that ends it. People occasionally comment on how I don't look 32, to which I reply that I've age well. The fact I've got some gray hair probably helps.

Still... it's pretty annoying. I'd rather not have to talk about my age all the stinking time. Frustrating.

Exactly!

:angry:

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Guest MrAwesome

My mother gets a real big kick out of it -

I went to a base ball game last month, and they had a thing for kids 14 and under to run the bases. I'm 16. I was talking to this lady, and she asked if I was going to do it and my mom comes up "Hahahahaha! How old do you think he looks?" and she was guessing 12-14... Same thing happens when I go to walmart and get my hair done. And I had Christmas pictures done at the end of 09, this has been my 1st year living full time as a boy so I kinda wanted to get my 1st official picture done as 'Lewis' :) So anyway I go there and the lady thought I was 12...

It drives me nuts. But then, hopefully I'll catch up to other boys my age soon after I go on T...

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Guest Zolrek

My mother gets a real big kick out of it -

I went to a base ball game last month, and they had a thing for kids 14 and under to run the bases. I'm 16. I was talking to this lady, and she asked if I was going to do it and my mom comes up "Hahahahaha! How old do you think he looks?" and she was guessing 12-14... Same thing happens when I go to walmart and get my hair done. And I had Christmas pictures done at the end of 09, this has been my 1st year living full time as a boy so I kinda wanted to get my 1st official picture done as 'Lewis' :) So anyway I go there and the lady thought I was 12...

It drives me nuts. But then, hopefully I'll catch up to other boys my age soon after I go on T...

Hehe. I'm happy your mom gets a kick out of it at lest. That's funny...Hey, you're 16 now. I wish you good luck getting on T.

I'm 22 now, and people think I'm 15-16. I wish they at lest thought I was 19 so I didn't have such a hard time with my ID.

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Guest MemoryAlpha

I actually don't have much of a problem with age, which is weird because I'm not on T at all.

I suppose I am to tall to be 12 or 13, and some people just....look.... older than others.

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Guest StrandedOutThere

Hehe. I'm happy your mom gets a kick out of it at lest. That's funny...Hey, you're 16 now. I wish you good luck getting on T.

I'm 22 now, and people think I'm 15-16. I wish they at lest thought I was 19 so I didn't have such a hard time with my ID.

At least you're tall. Eventually that'll start working out for you!

Not only am I kinda baby-faced, I'm short. :(

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Guest Jean Davis

I know that I shouldn't probably say this but Ohhh Well. ;)

Don't worry about it, you'll GROW out of it eventually. :P:D:lol::lol::lol:

Sorry. ;)

LUV

Jean

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Guest Zolrek

At least you're tall. Eventually that'll start working out for you!

Not only am I kinda baby-faced, I'm short. :(

I think you look pretty close to your age, though. Don't you have lots of facial hair too? I'm jealous.

don't worry about it, you'll GROW out of it eventually.
:D
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Guest ~Brenda~

Kyle,

Before you even know it... you will not be seen as young. When that day happens (and it will come sooner than you think), you will look on this day and smile :)

Love

Brenda

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Guest Sam_P

I suppose I am to tall to be 12 or 13, and some people just....look.... older than others.

Yeah I've noticed that if you're tall people automatically take you as older. Obviously there are other factors but I have a tall cousin and he's always been read as older than me when in truth he's 4 years younger. Me, I'm a shorty. :P

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Guest sarah f

I am 34 and got ID'd to buy fireworks. That was a suprise to me but I will take it. Once you get to a certain age than you realize looking young is good.

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