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So last night, I was Skyping much later than I'd originally planned. Then I went to bed. I tossed, i turned, and I gave up.

I was so worried. The next day was to be my first real session with my GT. I couldn't hope but relive everything that has gone on since I first came to terms with myself. I couldn't help worrying that she'd take one look at me and say I'm just a gay (bi?) cross-dresser. Such a monumental occasion... I couldn't help but worry.

With not a wink of sleep, I went to see my GT for the very first time. Immediately, I was referred to with proper pronouns and my real name--Belle. We talked about all kinds of things and she made me feel very normal. She seemed to think that everything I am going through is typical.

Then came the wizzbanger. I asked her about hormones and she alluded to the possibility of writing a letter before the recommended 3 months. No promises yet, but I am beyond delighted.

After that, I picked up my son from the girl that babysat for me and I hung out with her as myself for the very first time. She acted so cool about it.

I wasn't done having fun, so I went over to my cis-girl bff's mom's house and hung out with her mom and brother. They were all already very accepting of me from the start, if you recall, and they continued to act like nothing changed at all. In fact, my bff's mom kept telling me i looked pretty.

What a great day. Now, I'm going to finally tackle the tremendous and frightening task of writing my extended family my coming out letters. I have strength today :)

HUGGS, KISSES, AND OTHER COOL STUFF

Belle

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Guest Jean Davis

That's wonderful Belle

I'm so happy your day went soo well. :D

And I hope the rest of the people you need to inform will be just as accepting. ;)

LUV

Jean

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Belle-That's just tremendous.

I'm so happy for yu!

It sounds like you are off and running on your journey ! So much affirmation makes a wonderful day to treasure and remember.

Big Hug

Love

JJ

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I am so delighted for you Belle *YAY*

I totally understand the worries you had, I see my GT on Thursday, and been having nightmares the last three nights about it, I get maybe 2 to 2 1/2 hrs of sleep.

So I feel a nervous wreak. Hopefully my turn is as good as yours. ((((((HUGS)))))

Love ya

Ree

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Guest Cris

Hey Belle,

Thats so cool that your meeting with your GT turned out good. Sounds like you have one that understands GID and can help you along the way.

Enjoy the ride.

Cris

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Guest Opal

That is wonderful Belle! Sorry you had to go through the 'worrying part' the night before. Please keep us all updated on your journey and anything else you might wish to share.

Hugs,

Opal

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One good day deserves another, is the way I see it, Belle.

You now have a prize to keep your eyes on. Keep that focus, and good things will continue to happen for you.

I'm rooting for you, Belle. We all are. :D Your G.T. saw the promise in you. All you have to do is keep seeing it for yourself.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Sam_P

I think it's great that your good news has given you the confidence to write those letters! I hope it all continues to go well for you. :D

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Guest sarah f

I am happy that your first GT visit went so well. I hope you are able to start before the 3 months is up but don't worry about it if you have to wait. It will come and you will experience that sweet taste for yourself. Good things come to good people Belle.

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Guest Donna Jean

LOL......

COOL!

You know that 90% of the things that we worry about never happens, anyway....

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Belle hon,

See you worried all night and could not sleep and in the end you worried for nothing, we always seem to make a bigger deal out of things and afterward wondered why we fussed.

Congrats, you are now officially started on your journey and with plenty of supportive people around you.

HUGS!!!

Paula

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Congratulations Belle! I am really happy and excited for you. It shouldn't be long now for the scariest and yet most exciting part of the journey begins.

Love Jenny

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