Janice

[Guest JANICE]

HI ,AM LIVING IN HAWAII I AM TRANSGENDER AM COMMING OUT IM 57 NOW LOOKING FOR SUPPORT AND HELP .HAVE TOLD MY WIFE ABOUT MY TRUE THOUGHTS SHE WAS NOT HAPPY.

[MaryEllen]

Hello Janice,

Welcome to Laura's Playground. It's a sad fact that most wives do not take this kind of news well. If we can help you with advice and/or support. don't be afraid to ask.

MaryEllen

[Guest JANICE]

THANKS MARY ELLEN,She has ocd always scratcing ,she told her therapist about me ,he said to her i was a keeper,i am going to see him this friday.How do i tell her i am not going to change .I told her i have been like this since i was 5 yers old and used to dress in my sisters clothes all the time ,but untill the last week i have never revealed my true self .Now my wife knows i wear a bra and panties plus a nighty at night we do not have sex have not had sex with her in 5 years .i am not sure what to do as i want to dress up as a woman all the time .help Janice

[MaryEllen]

Hello Janice,

One thing I would advise is to sit down with your wife and fully explain your feelings to her. If she doesn't fully know or understand whats going on then this could be a very fearful time for her. Explain to her that you are the same person that you have always been and that your feelings toward her are not going to change. Tell her about the part of you that you have kept secret from her and hopefully, she will understand and comprehend where you're coming from. Having said that, be prepared that she will react badly to this revelation. Counseling with a gender therapist would benefit both of you greatly. Because you identify as transsexual, this is something you will have to do anyway if you intend to transition. If you do intend to transition, you'll need a letter of approval from a therapist to present to your doctor for hormones to be prescribed. This is the only safe and legal way to go about it. Stay away from quack products that promise total feminization. They don't work and are very dangerous to take. Thrombosis, stroke, heart attack, liver disease can result from taking these products. Play it safe. Go the legal route. The desire to present yourself in feminine attire is a natural feeling and this is something you'll have to work out with your wife. Compromise is the name of the game. I'm sure there must be a a common ground that you can both agree on. Good luck.

MaryEllen

[Guest Just_Call_Me_Nick]

Hello Janice,

One thing I would advise is to sit down with your wife and fully explain your feelings to her.

MaryEllen

I agree to this...talk...talk...and more talk...is the best way...and know you have friends here for support...

Nick~

[Guest roni]

Good morning! I have not told my wife, but I think she suspects it. I enjoy shopping with the girls for more than she does.

I applaud your courage. I am not sure what/when I will go public. This is a great site for encouragement and support. I am a little younger than you, but I do understand. A friend in the east...

[Guest o0tg0o]

Hi fellow Hawaii person.

I would suggest you to get a gender therapist...in Hawaii, there's a great one...here's her info from the front page:

Connie Brinton-Diamond, Ph.D.

1350 South King (Suite 325)

Honolulu, Hawaii 96814

Mobile : (808) 341-4346

Home Phone & Answering Machine : (808) 732-4357

She is a gender and sex therapist so she can definitely help you in some ways. I definitely would recommend you her

[Guest Valerie]

Hello;

I am also new to this place. Been here in Hawaii since 1992, finished out my time in the Navy here befroe I retired.

I would also highly recommend Connie Brighton-Diamond. She is a fatastic person.

[Guest Janis]

HI ,AM LIVING IN HAWAII I AM TRANSGENDER AM COMMING OUT IM 57 NOW LOOKING FOR SUPPORT AND HELP .HAVE TOLD MY WIFE ABOUT MY TRUE THOUGHTS SHE WAS NOT HAPPY.

Hi Janice,

I am sorry to hear that your spouse was not supportive. Welcome to the board, I hope you are able to find the support you need here.

Janis

[Paula ult]

Hi Janice and welcome,

I am 57 now but started my transition at 56, i would give your wife some time to digest the news, after all you lived with it for 57 years and it is brand new to her, i agree talk about it then let her digest what you said, she will come to you when she is ready to talk about it, could be a day, week, month or maybe never, whatever, do not force the issue, and by all means keep her in the loop of everything that is going on, many that transition keep things to themselves and their wives feel left out.

Paula

[Guest sarah f]

Welcome to Laura's Janice. Glad you found the site and I can see you have already been posting. Keep on posting and I look forward to reading more from you.

Love,

Sarah F

[MaryEllen]

Ummmmm In case nobody noticed, Janice posted this back in April of 2008. She hasn't signed in since the 24th April 2008 - 12:10 PM so I doubt that she will see the most recent replies.

MaryEllen

[Guest Janis]

Ummmmm In case nobody noticed, Janice posted this back in April of 2008. She hasn't signed in since the 24th April 2008 - 12:10 PM so I doubt that she will see the most recent replies.

MaryEllen

ooops sometimes I am not the most observant