I Told Mom.....why Did I Tell Mom?

[Guest KellyGirl]

Well....I've been having feelings for a relatively short time, I mean I've had feelings. but they only became strong over the last three months. I'm 18 so I'm not beyond the age for teen angst and hormone whatevers, and I'm probably due to change my meds....It just doesn't feel chemical though.,...I don't think it is.... I told mom. and as expected she didn't quite believe me, she said I was confused and probably just going through from things. in the end we decided that it's all up in the air becuase I'm not all that confident...I probably did the wrong thing. but she was so desperate to help me and we were alone together for hours.....*sighs*

[Guest savagedm]

Kelly this is only a question you can answer for yourself. It's hard to explain how you know whether or not you are TS, TG, CD or whatever... you just kinda know for yourself. The problem is, we often do not know that we know. It is one of those subconscious feelings that we have to discover for ourselves. Give it time hun, if you really are TS then it will not ever fully go away (and putting it off is probably not the best of choices for most of us, it was not for me anyways. My "relapse" into TSness once I was out of the house and not beholden to a girlfriend or parent or anything nearly knocked me over LOL)

I think you did the right thing in telling your mother. In my experience, the longer you go without telling someone crucial to your life about this, the more hurt they are when you tell them. Ask her to take you to a licensed gender therapist, if you are in SoCal, I know that UCLA has some great ones (I'm at present about to be seeing one when I move back home there this summer). Again, this is only a question you can answer for yourself, but a gender therapist might be able to guide you down your path of self discover towards what you truly are. I would not advise finding one that just wants to throw you on hormones at the gate though. Find one that is willing to accept any kind of outcome, whether it be a "phase", true gender issues, or something else entirely. These are the ones that will give you the best treatment that YOU deserve, not what the insurance companies tell them.

Good luck hun! Don't worry, if you are TS it really is not all that bad

~Brooke

[Guest Keiichi-kun]

Kelly I think you did a good thing by telling your mom. Parents deserve to know why their kids are acting differently. Right now she may not believe it and that's how my mom was too. Most parents go into denial and hope it's just a phase. If you truly believe you are TS you just have to convince your mom this isn't a phase. For right now don't try to stress about this too much and Kelly is right in that you should find a proffesional who knows about gender issues. For the longest time I was just seeing a counselor but once I managed to convince my mom I was TS she finally sent me to a psychiatrist

Good luck with everything *hugs*

[Guest Mr. Fox]

While you are trying to figure yourself out, you might want to use antiandrogens so that your biological clock doesn't tick away yoiur potential for passability. Not related to your mom, but oh well.

Adrian

[Guest KellyGirl]

While you are trying to figure yourself out, you might want to use antiandrogens so that your biological clock doesn't tick away yoiur potential for passability. Not related to your mom, but oh well.

Adrian

Gosh darned it! >.<

Keiichi-kun, well um.....thanks...well I'm not acting all that differently I've never acted out...thats why mom finds it so hard to believe...I think...she brought up SRS (she still called it a "sex change....") I didn't have answers to her questions. love.... I think I am...I feel...so weird somtimes. I mean I feel this stuff but I don't know what to do about it...

[Guest KellyGirl]

Thanks...you know...I feel confident some days...some days not so much....somedays I want to me the real me...some days I find it easier to hide from everyone....including myself.

[Jayme]

Hi KellyGirl,

I can completely understand how you feel. After Hiding this side of me for 17 years I recently came lot to my mother and let's just say it was not a picknic. She has recently done something that makes me qwestion the decision of telling her. I wish I could just wave a wand or do anything else to make it easier for all of us to be who we really are, but there is not quick cure. It seems that we need patience and severly thick skin to survive today.

On the emotional Rollercoaster it almost seems normal to hae good days then have a bad spell after a time. I have no clue what causes it, I can only offer some advice: When it gets bad DON'T give up. Threre is ALWAYS someone to talk to who can offer emotional support. All you have to do is ask to talk, we will be Glad to chat with you.

Have a wonderful time here at Laura's!

Jayme Ann

[Guest KellyGirl]

Well thanks for the support. we're still fine with each other of course I haven't seen her since Sunday (when I told her) we left on a fairly decent note even if she was in denial.

[Guest rosey]

yea i would tell my mom but it would blind side her and that could go bad

i wish i had wand 2 :/

o well

rosey