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Guest 91curiouskitten

Alright! List your gender abits!!! Examples!

Thumbs in your pants with fingers hanging out, or thumbs in belt loop- MALE

Hands behind your back- Not sure, it seems nuetral

Legs spread while waiting- MALE

Arms crossed- BOTH

Hands on your hip- FEMALE

Hand to your chest- FEMALE

List the habit, what gender it is most commonly associated with!

This is to help all MtF learn how to behave more femeinein with habits they should try to get into and break out of, and vice versa for FtM!

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Guest Sam_P

Alright! List your gender abits!!! Examples!

Thumbs in your pants with fingers hanging out, or thumbs in belt loop- MALE

Hands behind your back- Not sure, it seems nuetral

Legs spread while waiting- MALE

Arms crossed- BOTH

Hands on your hip- FEMALE

Hand to your chest- FEMALE

List the habit, what gender it is most commonly associated with!

This is to help all MtF learn how to behave more femeinein with habits they should try to get into and break out of, and vice versa for FtM!

First off I understand that a lot of people want to keep a check on their feminine/masculine habits for passing etc. Good luck to y'all! :)

However for me personally if I have any feminine habits... they're me! I wouldn't want to go around learning/subtracting things for the sake of becoming 'more male' somehow. I's a me! Try not to get too worried about your habits anyone. *offers hugs to be shared around*

I hope none of that sounded like I was saying it's a bad thing to do.. I just don't want anyone to worry that they have to do this!

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Guest Donna Jean

Naw, Sam....

My stuff seems to be coming on naturally...

Hands around or on my face when talking to people...

Short steps...

I carry books like you used to see girls do in school...on my hip..

Bats eyes....I found that it works on some people...

More extensive use of hands while talking...

Donna Jean

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Guest Steven22

If someone cut my hands off I couldnt talk anymore T.T

Thats morbidly funny, but I share the sentiment.

I use a lot of hand gestures and facial expressions when I talk, I sit with my arms folded in my lap or have my fingers interlocked and around the knee that is on top (I always cross my legs), I have been told this so my view on this might be a little off, I fix my hair like a girl does, now thats just fine in my book but its one of those things that just kinda fell into place, I never thought anything of it and I never considered what I was doing.

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Guest Sam_P

If someone cut my hands off I couldnt talk anymore T.T

Well I certainly wouldn't be able to talk to anyone online at any rate. :P

I've been meaning to invest some time in setting up voice-recognition for my computer. If there's going to be a spate of hand-chopping I might have to get onto this! :lol:

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Guest sarah f

I also sit with my legs crossed and my hands over my knee.

I also carry my kids on my hip. Have I mentioned I love the fact that I have some hips now.

I drive with my hand twirling my hair most of the time.

I am constantly sweeping my hair behind my ears.

I will think of more later.

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Guest Hildagard

Constantly fixing hair in every window I pass :< (Yes Magistrate, I plead guilty to self Grooming!)

Keep my hands high when walking or talking, usually around the chest to chin area.

Play with my hair when bored

I close my eyes when touching my face

I've got a wiggle in my walk <3 (Badoomba doomba doom.)

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This one just started for me, but its carrying essential items in a nice shoulder bag (purse) instead of in pockets. The shoulder bag holds a lot more, and it helps me to feel more feminine carrying it!

Huggs!

Opal

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I do talk with my hands so I share the sentiment if they went bye bye I would be at a loss of words literally. I dunno what I do that is feminine. Maybe it's all forced but it helps me get in the habit. Thanks all will be stealin yer ideas. :3

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Guest someone else

@ OP

Stop it. You are trying too hard.

Simply let loose. Um... I didn't know I was trying too hard. I wasn't really trying. I have been told though that hands on the hips and playing with your hair are just cries for attention. I dunno. My wife pointed it out to me. Quit playing with your hair, buy hair spray. Hands on the hips says, "Look at me!" That is all I have for now. I'm still learning the unspoken rules of girl world.

About hands in the pockets for guys. One thumb in one pocket if you are leaning against something. Normally the pocket opposite to the wall/pole. Bend the knee on the thumb side and try to look disinterested in everything. B)

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Guest Elizabeth K

Ummm... I agree its sorta the other way around. Once you allow yourself to be what you are, you naturally start to act appropriately for that gender. Maybe the HRT (or T) also rewires your behaviour a little. But I feel and see me doing things I once marveled at in women, thinking "how can I ever learn all that?" Most behavour is from a reason, and transitioning is more about letting yourself be, than imitating others.

That use of the hands to talk? We do much more than that - if at a table, lean forward! Suddenly communicating is extremely important and it takes whatever you have to keep what you say perfectly clear, with the clear intent you want, and - well - your hands are pretty now, sometimes manicured and with a bit of color, you want to show them off. And conversation is a song, and communication is a dance - body language is as readable as what you say, even more so. Women can tell when someone is lying or exagerating, just by how that person postures and presents. So what is the big deal? It becomes so obvious! We talk with everything now. It's how it needs to be done!

Men could read us better if they would just take the time to watch us and not just check out our chest and our legs.

Also, sitting close and leaning toward the plate? We women, when we accidtly drop a morsal of food, it tends to hit our breastline - so we lean forward to guard against that because we never want to touch ourselves in public like that, wipping off food - how humiliating.

And standing? Why NOT be artistic and graceful? We now have the attention of men. Give them a show... and other women? Women communicate between women without a word. Suddenly a person says - you look tired. What she means is your posture shows you are exhausted. Or in a line in the restroom waiting a turn, women know when to let someone go ahead because of - you know, something of an emergency is going on.

And when walking and you KNOW you look good! Strut your stuff, honey! That expensive outfit and those deliscious shoes need to be NOTICED. All day getting your hair colored and highlighted? Flip it, twirl it, experience it's weaight and it's new feel of the cut - you paid for it! And you suffered and shaved your legs - show them off!

But simple things - pushing the hair back? DANG - getting out of your mouth - clearing a veiw to see - making it reshape like it was cut to do...

Not doing hard work and charming your guy to carry things and open doors? It's your birthright od course, payback for all the restrictions put on womwn - BUT its also so you don't damage your pretty hands. I mean it is so easy to ruin an hour's worth of careful grooming - and you really DO have a problem with carrying too much - it is amazing how quickly your upper body strength went away after the HRT. It takes four trips to the trunk of the car to bring in the groceries - while a guy does it in one trip!

And crossing your legs, making a controlled entry and a controlled exit from the car? A woman has to do that. We wear skirts and dresses (soooo much more comfortable) but they well 'flash panties' if not handled correctly. And even in shorts, pants or jeans, we have to remain the proper lady, because it is how we have to act - so if in a dress or skirt, and it has to be second nature.

So it goes on and on... everything a woman does is for a reason - that is unless she feels like doing something just a bit unconventional to keep from being so predicatable! GRIN

Lizzy - living the life and feeling I now belong on this earth!

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