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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

I don't do well with rejection. Never have. This is why I prefer to not even bother sometimes...

Why try if you know that you are just going to get rejected...

I'm sick of it. Just sick of it...

I can't deal with it...

It's bad...

The slightest rejection can get to me too....

It's lame...

And all I want to do right now is crawl in a hole and never ever come out of it and just be alone... For ever...

What's the point in trying when the fear of rejection is so high...

*sigh* sorry for the rant...

Just realized that someone that ADDED ME to facebook DELETED ME... Kinda hurtful...

Why are people always deleting me off of facebook any ways... :blink:

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Guest miss kindheart

Try and not let things like that get to you Geo.

It could have just been a mistake of some sort.

<<< hug >>>

:wub: vanna

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

Try and not let things like that get to you Geo.

It could have just been a mistake of some sort.

<<< hug >>>

:wub: vanna

Naw I don't think it was... Just by who it was... Yea no way was this a mistake... :(

It's hard... I have ALWAYS been rejected... There are few times where I am accepted and actually liked by someone...

*hugs*

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Well if it makes ya feel any better. If I had a facebook I would add ya and never let ya go :) *hugs* Dun let it get ya down k?

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Guest miss kindheart

Naw I don't think it was... Just by who it was... Yea no way was this a mistake... :(

It's hard... I have ALWAYS been rejected... There are few times where I am accepted and actually liked by someone...

*hugs*

OK well I am sorry that happened to you.

<< hug >>

:wub: vanna

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

Well if it makes ya feel any better. If I had a facebook I would add ya and never let ya go :) *hugs* Dun let it get ya down k?

Thank you. *hugs*

OK well I am sorry that happened to you.

<< hug >>

:wub: vanna

*hugs* thank you

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Hi Braveheart

Hang in there-there are plenty of people who still do care.

Life is full of bad things and good things. If you concentrate on the good things life seems good and if you concentrate on the bad then your life sucks.

That is the real key to happiness-and believe it or not it's a habit. When you feel bad thoughts start then do something else right away-write -dance-go for a walk -anything. The more you work at it the easier it gets.

Sure sometimes you'll still get down and upset-the thing is don't dwell on it.

Love & Huggs

JJ

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

Hi Braveheart

Hang in there-there are plenty of people who still do care.

Life is full of bad things and good things. If you concentrate on the good things life seems good and if you concentrate on the bad then your life sucks.

That is the real key to happiness-and believe it or not it's a habit. When you feel bad thoughts start then do something else right away-write -dance-go for a walk -anything. The more you work at it the easier it gets.

Sure sometimes you'll still get down and upset-the thing is don't dwell on it.

Love & Huggs

JJ

Not dwelling on it any more. It's not my loss. :D So it's all good now. Trying to look at the positive parts of my life now. People are always going to reject me. I can't help that. So if they are going to then fine. It's not a big deal any more.

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The only way to avoid rejection is to avoid all human contact but that is no way to live, trust me for I have tried and the end result is that you have never given anyone the chance to like you and you will be totally lone.

Then when you try to reach out to people you can make friends but never anything more - it is self imposed isolation that is so hard to reverse.

So continue to reach out and be a friend to others, let them reach out to you, some will remain forever and others will go away - you do not get to decide which ones will stay or leave only the ones that you wish to leave but always remember as you are leaving someone just how bad rejection feels.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James

The only way to avoid rejection is to avoid all human contact but that is no way to live, trust me for I have tried and the end result is that you have never given anyone the chance to like you and you will be totally lone.

Then when you try to reach out to people you can make friends but never anything more - it is self imposed isolation that is so hard to reverse.

So continue to reach out and be a friend to others, let them reach out to you, some will remain forever and others will go away - you do not get to decide which ones will stay or leave only the ones that you wish to leave but always remember as you are leaving someone just how bad rejection feels.

Love ya,

Sally

I don't ever leave any one. I like to be there for people you know? If that makes any sense at all.

I'll always be rejected by someone. And all I can say now is oh well. I need to take it and then leave it. It happens. Oh well. Yes I get greatly hurt but that's okay because it happens...

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