Opening Up

[Guest virginiaJ]

I would first like to say how much this website has done for me over the past year. I don't post much, but I am always reading and learning from the encouraging stories and topics here at Laura's. So many times I want to ask for advice or just get some encouragement. When I log in I always just look to see whats in the forums before I start typing and always find what I'm looking for even if I'm not sure what I was looking for. This past few months have been so amazing for me I felt I had no choice but to share.

About 4 months ago I decided it was time for a job change. I was working a dead-end job as a local truck driver. Because I had no over-the-road experience it was very difficult to find a place that would feel like an upgrade. I finally decided to go OTR and had hoped to be a solo driver so I could still dress feminine and not have to hide my true self. As it turns out I wound up having to go to work for a teams only company, so right then I knew the best I could hope for was if we had down time maybe I could get a hotel room for a night or something. That still hasn't happened, but now it doesn't have to be like that.

My co-driver likes all that electronic stuff. He has a phone that sends out a wireless internet signal that you can pick up from any laptop or Ipad (which he just recently bought). I asked to borrow it one night a couple weeks ago, and discovered that he had left a web-page open which I know he did not intend for me to see. He has always been very secretive since I've been on the truck and now I knew why. Ive always known something was different about him from day one, I just never knew for sure and didn't want to bring it up in case I was wrong or that he might take it the wrong way. After I saw this my heart was racing because I wanted so bad to have the chance to just be me.

That next morning after my shift I told him that when I logged onto the internet that web-page he left open had come up. I could tell he was quite burdened by this. I'm sure he thought I was going to judge him or something. When I told him about my cross-dressing he really eased up. After that it was just silent in the truck. Not like an uncomfortable silence, but one of contemplation. Later, after we had time to adjust to everything we've learned about each other, we began asking questions and becoming more open about our different situations and the fights we've been through to accept who we are. I found out that he has even been to some of the clubs in our local LGBT community that I have often contemplated going to, but have been too scared to go to not knowing what to expect.

At first he wasn't sure how he would feel seeing me dressed, but he slowly opened up to the idea. He was almost forced to accept it when one of his dogs pulled my nightie out from under my blanket while I was out of the truck. He just told me he picked it up off the floor and put it where they couldn't get to it, almost as if he was telling me the dogs had gotten one of my t-shirts or something. I have since worn my favorite skirt in front of him. It was as if nothing had changed. He seems to have been fighting with his own identity and truly accepting of who he is. I hope by me being so open, maybe it can help him. He is only the second person I've ever opened up to and it seems to be going great.

I'm sorry its so long but there was just so much to tell. Thanks to this website I am in a better place than I have been in a long time.

Much love,

Virginia (May change trying to think of a more fitting name. GF gave me the name and neither of us like it)

[Guest sarah f]

Oh how fate works in our favor sometimes. That is wonderful news Virginia. I am so happy for you. At first thinking you were going to have to hide who you are to your team driver and now knowing fate stepped in for you both.

By the way you didn't go into too much detail about your partner. Is he MTF or something in between?

I am glad the new job is working out so well for you. Please post more so that we know you are doing ok.

[Guest Donna Jean]

OMG!

HOW COOL IS THAT??????

The odds must be pretty high of that happening...

And what a wonderful outcome, too...

I seriously enjoyed reading that and I have to hope that you post a lot more...OK?

Wonderful!

Donna Jean

[Guest virginiaJ]

Wasnt sure the best term to use so i just left it kinda vague. But he is homosexual.

[Paula ult]

That made my day,

We never know who may be Lesbian, Gay, Bi or Trans, my best guess is there are lots more than we think, i know out of about 150 in my bowling leagues the odds of a few being Lesbian, Gay,Bi or Trans are quite high and deep in the closet.

Paula

[Guest ChloëC]

That's a wonderful story, virginia. I'm glad it's turning out really good for you.

Regarding what Paula suggested, I think it's not so much a case of someone being a certain well defined way, because the spectrum as we have pretty much all agreed is quite wide. I think there are all variations and degress of gender disphoria, from very mild to very involved. And I would guess the people with mild cases can function pretty much normally and keep their desires well in the background.

As I've often posted (and it's on my personal page), I'm probably quite close to being transsexual but probably on the mild side (if I can use that analogy). Since I have made a choice because I can keep that part of me on the 'mild' side, what I now am is very involved as a cross-dresser. I dress quite elaborately and fantasize quite a lot.

So I agree that the number of people with some form of gender issues is probably quite a lot more than has ever been reported, it's still very limited for those who are quite strong or involved at the certain points. (there's probably a lot better words than I'm using).

Now if all those marginal people would speak up, show sympathy or support for those with strong feelings, or make their feelings known, a lot of the problems we face would probably quickly disappear. Or if more would identify themselves so the rest of us could offer our support and gain support from them, it would make the world a lot better.

At least we wouldn't have to rely on out of place web pages or dogs to find kindred spirits.

Hugs

Chloë

[Guest ricka]

Sweet Virginia! I too was moved by your beautiful story. It reads like a

fairy tale. I swear God looks after us in amazing ways!! What a wonderful

support you must be for each other. How fun it would be to go shopping

together and wearing each other's clothes

Hugs--Miss Ricka