A Place To Say Something To Others!

[Guest kelise]

Sometimes I wonder if, within an infected body, there are a subpopulation of viruses who say to their fellows, "Y'know chaps, perhaps we ought to step back and rethink what we're doing. Perhaps we should stop our uncontrolled reproduction and spread throughout our world, or someday it will no longer be able to support us!"

Then I wonder if the majority of viruses hate and despise the minority, proclaiming "How dare they say such horrible things? There will always be enough body resources to go around. Besides, the great Virus in the Sky commands that we be fruitful and multiply! And baby viruses are just so darned cute! Everyone should have a few thousand!"

[Guest Micha]

Read something cool, dunno who said it.

"I read somewhere that minorities make up 80% of the population of New York. Don't you think after a certain point we ought to stop calling them a minority?"

"Leave it to white thinking, who else could go to Africa and say 'look at all the minorities here, I must be the only majority.'"

[JJ]

[Guest Micha]

Something of an update, to appease my ego:

http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/index.php?app=blog&module=display&section=blog&blogid=312&showentry=2416

[JJ]

Micha-Have I told you lately how much I like you? I do. You are unique in a wonderful way and someone I value in my life.

Sometimes I think as trans people one of our biggest burdens is how self aware we become when we do turn around and face ourselves at last. more demanding of ourselves because we can no longer wear the blinders most do. We have so much to deal with emotionally that it saps our energy sometimes.

But because of that same self awareness I think that we eventually come to a place of peace and wisdom that is also greater than most people ever know.

Love ya

Johnny

[Guest Micha]

Thanx Johnny. Introspection comes with many risks, but I believe I will be better for it.

Now. . . GIC of CO shared a quote an' I wanna share it too.

‎"There is nothing to practice. To know yourself, be yourself. To be yourself, stop imagining yourself to be this or that. Just be. Let your true nature emerge. Don’t disturb your mind with seeking."

~ Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj

[Guest shar59]

Hi to everyone, not sure which forum to post on so i hope one of you can direct me to the correct one.

Im a mother of a transgender male to female and this is all very new to me so if i make mistakes please excuse me.

I was wondering if there was some parent forums to chat on and maybe help us, I love the person i gave birth to very very much and would like to help her as much as possible, but dont know how besides supporting her with what she desides to do, She has been diagnosed with gender dysphoria so what is supposed to happen next?

shar

[Cyndee]

Hi Shar

You may find the Parent forum by clicking @ http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/index.php?showforum=31

Hugs

Cindy -

[Guest Mia J]

Hello Shar and welcome to Laura's. We are always happy to have parents here.

This post will probably get more response if you put it in the introductions forums but this is okay.

First let me thank you for coming here and supporting your child. A supportive parent makes all the difference in the world.

We do have a sub forum for the parents of transgendered children where you should be able to get some information and help.

One of the first steps is to have some sessions with a qualified gender therapist. I am not sure how it goes with the NHS in the UK but there are members who will be able to help you.

Mia

[Guest BeccaC]

Shar welcome, I can not commend you enough for supporting your baby through this. Sorry but they will always be our babies, even when they are 50. It shows much love and compassion, which you will both need through this. I truly believe you came to the right place.

Hugs

Becca

[Guest shar59]

A big thank you all for them comments means so much to me, and good luck to all off you in your quest to become the true you ((((((((((((( HUGS))))))))))))))) to you all xx

[Guest Janice Lynn]

Shar, thanks so much for coming to Laura's and bless you for the good

heart you bring to us here. Your child is truly blessed.

Please know that if even half of us had mothers or fathers like you this

would be an indescribably happier place. That's a simple fact. Far too

many of us feel afraid, ashamed, or isolated because we have experienced

or fear the rejection of our parents. Sometimes we are dumbfounded when

we discover we were wrong, but too often we are right.

May God bless you. I need not ask God's blessings on your child because,

by your beautiful post to us here we know your child has been truly

blessed.

Love and peace to you in your journey,

Jan

[Cyndee]

I am so happy to read news today of a young woman (18 years old) from India named Laxmi Sargara, who successfully annulled her childhood wedding her parents arranged for her when she was only a toddler. This was apparently the first legally binding case in India that sets the stage for other young women and girls trapped in these arranged marriages between families to be set free. Times are changing, even ancient traditions are crumbling.

C Rae -

[Guest Micha]

Cultural revolutions are needed everywhere, even in the "developed" world still.

[Guest Micha]

[Guest Micha]

Some mornings I can barely get up outta bed because my body is so weighed down with ugly meanings that my culture has dumped all over me.

Julia Serano.

[Guest]

Hi Micha,

That IS weighty. As my signature says. "what others think of me is not my business" I suppose one could apply that to our whole culture

Love, Megan

[Sally]

We, as transgender tend to think of our lives as somehow missing something, the childhood that we wanted, the ability to bear or sire children depending on the direction of the dysphoria.

I heard an inspirational speaker once explain that as we live our lives, each time we let someone else have the power over us (letting what others say cause you to act differently from what you had originally planned) they are taking away some of our crayons.

The analogy was that a full life is the 64 color box of crayons, complete with a built in sharpener and we look at our lives and see at least a half empty box.

Now is the time to reevaluate the way that we think of our lives - the different childhood from the one we wanted was not lost crayons, only different colors - maybe not your favorites but with 64 colors there has got to be Salmon Pink and Yellow-Ocre.

All of those days make up the less used but still necessary colors, they are not missing - now as we become our true selves and live the lives that we always knew we should have, we are adding the other crayons - we are taking back the Peacock Blue and Bright Red to make our box of colors once again complete.

We should look at each day as a new blank page just waiting for us to open up that box of 64 colors and picture a beautiful day.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Micha]

Please forgive me my little melodrama. . .

Got a bit of dark irony for ya.

I makes a joke involving suicidal tenancies. I'm not joking about suicide, but it is involved. Mi madre gets all peed (she thinx the joke is about her). Like I ought to threaten suicide to get her to do something. Well it weren't about her (and it's so typical she'd take it that way), so now I gots to be all defensive and crap and try and get her over herself.

Here's the ironic part. After mullin all this over and dealing with this --Censored Word--, I feel like killing m'self.

Not gonna, but if I am to be completely honest (and tha's what I'm tryin to do. . . by the way pops, I hate Romney and I hate the GOP - love off), I have to admit that the idea is pretty appealing right now.

Not cuz mi mum got mad at me. No, that has happened enough as it is, if that were to kill me I'da been dead las' century. I's more about a couple o things I think. Mind you this is an emotional thing, not a rational one, so analysis may be lacking in logic. It's a feeling of everything I do is wrong. Some one some where, a person of importance to me, is gonna be all put out because of who I am and how I feel. Now I always thought I didn't give a crap, let em be hurt, their own damn fault for expecting me to be otherwise. But tha's not completely honest. It hurts.

It really --Censored-- hurts.

Specially when it's someone I love. I hate doin wrong by them, and it's worse when I try so damned hard to do right for them.

But it's this feeling of no winning, nothing I do will ever be "right." I can't win, I can't get it right, and I'll have to deal with this crap all my life.

Quibble over the definition of right or wrong all you like, not gonna change the fact that I gots to deal with this crap, it won't change and it won't get better, regardless of how right I think I am.

Just another tally under the --Censored Word-- score.

Feeling overwhelmed and out gunned. Like life is a losing battle, a hopeless struggle, a never ending pot of brewing, stewing, stinking --Censored Word--.

I can make some of these loves happy some times, but apparently I can't be happy m'self.

No surprise really, can't cry for myself, can't stand up for myself, can't even seem to think for myself.

Yeah, jaded, cynical, over dramatic --Censored Word--. Tha's what this is, and I'm guilty of it. So what? Everyone is.

[Carolyn Marie]

Micha, its a bit ironic, but I just posted something about just what you are feeling, and maybe this will help: http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=48985&hl=&fromsearch=1

What's important to remember is that you cannot control how others react to you, or your changes, or your goals. People will feel how they feel, and there is often little you can do about it. You cannot make someone accept you, or support you, or like you. You can help them understand you, and how you feel, and why you are doing what you are doing. You can give them resources, things to read, and help open their mind and heart. Those are the things you can do. But what effect any of it has, is beyond your control.

If you were disabled in some way, and people you know reacted badly to that, would you feel guilty? Probably not, I think. You would feel angry, and perhaps sad, but not guilty. Well, being androgynous or TG is like that, in that you are no more responsible for being that way than you would be for being disabled.

Once you find the path to loving yourself, Micha, you will be on the road to conquering your guilt. If you don't love yourself, unconditionally, it will be hard for others to love you. Find someone to talk with about how you feel, hon. Do it for yourself, and for those you love.

(((HUGS))))

Carolyn Marie

[Guest]

The secret to making stoplights all go green: Hold a tube of lipstick at the ready at all times. What's worse than talking on a phone while driving? Yep! Sixty miles an hour trying to see in a mirror in the dark. My lipstick came out fine. Not sure about that pileup behind me.

Gotta remember to lipstick before leaving the house!

Love, Megan

[Guest]

From my book of useless knowledge.

We handle stress differently. Some of us by crying, some of us by joking, some of us by screaming, some of us by laughing.

It really doesn't matter how we deal with it. The end result is the same -> RELEIF. Sometimes spellt as r-o-l-a-i-d-s.

Huggs,

Joann