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Guest Nadia

Hi everyone. :)

Ok here's my question, I've started dressing a lot more like a girl at school lately, still male mind you, (just), and I was wondering what I could do about my, 1 flat chest and 2 broad shoulders and narrow hips...

I do not want fake breasts, I want to try and pass flat chested so any fashion tips are what I'm looking for.

I havent come out at school and eveyone just thinks I'm a VERY fiminine guy...so i'm trying to pass by wearing female clothes which aren't too stricly female wear only. I have a pair of womens jeans and a really nice blue girls jacket which pinches my waist and fans out a bit at the bottom to make my hips look bigger; it does make my soulders look a bit broader though... :mellow:

so yes, any advice is welcome. :)

Love

N

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Guest tfritz

coming from a young(20) trans woman who passes all the time flat chested (11 weeks hormones), I feel like if you are going to pass you have to go for full on girl. There are many girls who are flat chested so its really not that weird if people see some girl waslking down the hallway with no boobs.

for broad shoulders I suggest tops that are bigger towards the bottom, that flow these give you a nice "A" shape sillouette and help with shoulders alot, and if you pair them with some skinny jeans it helps with hips / makes you look skinnier. also I wouldnt wear any tiny straps. try to keep straps around 2 to 3 inches becausee these will hide the broadness of your shoulders a little, but still look fem.

hope I answered anything :)

-Tara

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Hi Nadia

Broad shoulders seems to come up a lot in passing questions. I was born with a female body and have always had very broad square shoulders. So broad I couldn't wear dresses because anything that fit my shoulders was too big. No one ever questioned my gender because of them-Oh how I wish they had! The main thing is to not hunch them and avoid capped sleeves and spaghetti straps. Broad shoulders make your waist look small and can really make clothes look good. In fact I was offered modeling jobs when I was young!

Actually -broad shoulders, flat chest-the way to pass is the same. Attitude! As an actress you know how to project what is in your mind with your body. And people will see what you project! I have seen beautiful women virtually ignored while someone else who should have been plain was the center of fascinated attention. And it was all attitude. you are starting out very pretty so you should be able to be the most attractive girl in the room!

Plump your chest out in your head, remember what a beautiful fascinating girl you are and go for it!

:D

JJ

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Guest tfritz

When I said "I feel like if your going to pass you should go full on girl" I meant minus the boobs

btw you are super pretty, im sure youll pass fine

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Guest Maria (Hilda)

I have seen beautiful women virtually ignored while someone else who should have been plain was the center of fascinated attention. And it was all attitude. you are starting out very pretty so you should be able to be the most attractive girl in the room!

:D

JJ

Amen!

Learn to carry your flesh sensuously, and you'll pull them in every time. Everyone is so attracted to that sense of vitality in people.

I'm fat, far too tall, nose is hideous, and I still have to beat them off with a stick (sad thing is thats true, very scary day that, but now I have a good laugh at it)

Love, Maria.

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Guest RachaelAnn

I'm 6'3", about 240 pounds and insanely broad shouldered. But when I go out en femme (which is increasing much more rapidly than I expected), I just put on a little makeup, fix my hair, and give myself a pep talk before I step out the door. I have to agree with JJ on a thing. Try to stay away from things like halter tops, spaghetti straps, and backless tops. Wear things that have a little bit of a sleeve at least, like babydoll tops. Also a bra, even if you're flat, helps with confidence, and gives the hint of a boob. Hope I helped.

Rachael

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Guest Virginia_

I'm a 36A, Nadia and absolutely refuse to wear falsies. Victoria Secret "Very Sexy" push-ups are all I need to fill out my tops. You didn't say how much you weigh, but I'm a 5' 10" 146 pound beanpole. Halter/choker collar & tube tops, empire waists and shirts that flare at the bottom all look great (just about anything Mudd, American Eagle or Old Navy). Not sure I agree about avoiding spaghetti straps, but I run from muscle shirts and anything with boat necks or cap sleeves.

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Guest Elizabeth K

Well - if this is a school situation it might be dangerous to use enhancement or even a bra. If they are just 'you' upstairs, no one can say you are doing anything against the dress code.

I am tall and I have moderately wide shoulders, but the 20 months of HRT have finally given me a waist (and breasts - duh). That is what helps us the most, a rather narrow waist. Before I got there I did some research and found my hips and shoulders were nearly equal and in a woman that is considered a square body shape. There are tricks to dress a body like that and you can Google those sites. No horizantal stripes, things like that.

BUT

I found out this works for me:

No off the shoulder outfits - no wide scoop neck clothing. "V" necklines work best - and tailored shirts with collars, the buttons left partly opened, gave a suggestion of cleavege, even when there is none. This is especially effective with a necklace - not exactly a chocker, hut one that sits higher on your neck, exposing the chest area under it.

A tight wide belt

Shirttail always out (widens the hip area even if you don't have hips.

Showing a bit of leg (no socks if jeans). If in girl mode - wearing capris.

Longer hair to cover the ears and some of the neckline.

Keeping well groomed

Carrying a shoulder bag or computer case - NO backpacks, no cross body straps.

Hope this helps

Like everyone says? ATTITUDE carrys the day...

Lizzy

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