What Do Men Want From Relationships?

[Guest My_Genesis]

I can agree with that. some people think its healthy to build a relationship on the physical aspect of it, then build feelins, & trust, & all that other important stuff, and thats when its doomed. I just see a relationship going a lot farther, and each person gettin a lot more out of it, if its built on the emotional/mental stuff than if it was built on the physical stuff. I dont think a sexual side to a relationship automatically dooms it to failure, but i do think it should come after everything else. I see your point though.

I think both are important. I think the physical aspect is important for the health of a relationship but I think that in order for the physical aspect to work out, it has to be based on "feelings and trust" and all that. If that is missing, the physical stuff just won't work out. They kinda go hand-in-hand.

[Guest RachaelAnn]

I'm not going to lie. Your typical male has his mind on 2 things: food and/or sex. Remember I said typical. Not every guy is like that. Remember they say that "the way to a mans heart is thru his stomach". LOL

A lot of guys actually want the storybook relationship. There are lovers and fighters in this world. Just be true to yourself and you'll figure everything out.

Lots of love bro,

Rachael

[Guest My_Genesis]

I'm not going to lie. Your typical male has his mind on 2 things: food and/or sex. Remember I said typical. Not every guy is like that. Remember they say that "the way to a mans heart is thru his stomach". LOL

A lot of guys actually want the storybook relationship. There are lovers and fighters in this world. Just be true to yourself and you'll figure everything out.

Lots of love bro,

Rachael

I think most guys fall somewhere in between those 2 descriptions.

[Guest KageBoy171]

The first thought that comes to mind to most women and possibly some men is "What do men want from a relationship? Sex!" Well is that true really? Being a man myself (yea some people may argue that I'm not but meh whatever) I can say honestly no it's not all men want from a relationship. Unless I'm just not as manly as some men?

For me as a man in a relationship I want someone to care about me, actually love me and be affectionate to me. Cuddle me, hold me and kiss me. Yes I too would care for them, love them and be affectionate, cuddle them and hold them and all that. But what I see in this world is people believing men don't want/need this stuff so it always comes across one sided to me that it's all about the man taking care of the woman. The man holds the woman, cuddles the woman. Why do I never hear about a woman actually caring for her boyfriend? I mean I realise it's partly because most men do not talk about this stuff. I wouldn't usually be one to sit around talking about this stuff, write it in my lyrics and such things but wouldn't actually be talking about it, especially not to other men! But after sitting here endlessly dreaming about my perfect ideal romance...It got me interested to know other mens points of views on this? What do YOU want from a relationship? Is it really that men have to constantly keep strong and look after the women? Or do/can women also look after men?

Being a man I'm starting to slowly realise that men are very much alone in this world, even when attached. This loneliness I feel is starting to haunt me on whole new levels of pain and sorrow. Honestly I do feel like a man, always have. I feel male. I believe I think for the most part in a male way. If there is such a thing as thinking in a male way. But one thing that gets me is that...I don't think I can do this alone. I mean...I'm not saying I'm wondering around looking for someone as such. It's just that I'm looking around wondering if I can ever have the kind of love I think I need. Or if as a man I'm expecting too much? It seems to me men should expect nothing in return, no affection. And honestly it makes me feel kind of like less of a man when I look around and feel like well I want to be cared for too! I want someone to kiss my forehead! Just like I want to care for the woman and all of that, I want love too. I don't just want sex. Is that too much to ask for if you're a man? Cause I'm kinda getting the feeling it is....

I haven't read everyone else's responses to this, but I felt the need to say something, whether it's already been said or not.

Having been born a female, and not having been around men a lot, growing up, I feel that most women feel that they are the only ones that care. Personally, there have been times when a guy was nice and caring to me as a friend, that I was truly astonished. It's not to say that I don't believe guys can cuddle, care, and love someone, it's just that it's never happened to me. I think it's all about a person's personal experience with the opposite sex that makes them assume a man or woman can't do something.

It's definitely not too much to ask for. I ask that myself every day, heh. I understand that feeling, though I'm not out as a man or anything. I'm still just an androgyne.

Women care for men. Definitely.