Others Opinions

[Guest RachaelAnn]

I was reviewing the "Tell A Lie" thread that JJ started and that got me thinking.

How much does everyone worry about how others view/think of them?

I personally couldn't care less what people think of me. The way I see it is, either you will like me or you won't, it's your choice. Heck I'm sure there are a few people that have me on ignore here. Does that bother me? No. I have some on ignore as well. Just the same, there might be a person or 2 who thinks the world of me. Do I care? Well it's nice that someone might think that much of me, but it really doesn't have any affect on my life for the most part. So I guess that would be a "kind of" for the sentiment.

What is everyone else's view here?

Rachael

[Guest Soran Vs]

I'm somewhat the same. I honestly don't care what people think of me. I only care about what my close friends feel about me, and would like very much to feel accepted by them. I stopped caring about other people's opinions a while ago, but I can't help but worry about being accepted by the ones I DO care about.

[Guest Cowboy]

I really dont care about what anyone thinks bout me as well. I do try to be friendly and keep the peace, but honestly, i really dont care. Im the kind of person who would rather tell the brutal truth than a beautiful lie. And it may hurt feelins, but at least i was bein honest. Some people may like me, others may hate me, and some might not know what to think about me. and im alright with that. lol. There are people i do care about, and i do care about what they think of me, but only cuz i really care about them, and want them to wanna keep me around. lol.

Oh, and i dont have you on ignore. lol. I didnt even know we had an ignore option on here. (ooopppsss)

But i wouldnt add anyone anyway. still wont. I enjoy readin people's posts and gettin their opinions, and views and all that.

(So for the record : I COLTON REED WILLIS, DONT USE THE IGNORE OPTION FOR ANYONE ON THIS SITE. I LOVE YOU ALL.)

lol.

Cowboy

[Drea]

I took it as a simple reminder about basic caution one should exercise in beleiving what you read in a forum such as this.

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Read the thread again

JJ was being toungue and cheek

Brenda

[Guest Micha]

Hit and miss. Don't worry about people I don't know, don't worry much about what the family thinks of me (strange paradox. . . ) and most people in life I guess. People here though, I do think about it a lot. I have friends else where too that I find myself wondering over.

Other than that, I have this unexplainable self consciousness that annoys the hell outta me. Not so much about what people are thinking, but I dunno, just something about how I see myself physically making me uncomfortable.

[Guest Opal]

I have real self-esteem issues and through my life putting myself down to avoid others being critical of me. Have even been written up in a performance review at work about it. Thus, I worry too much about what others have to say, but I believe that I am improving. Have gone out and done things I could not have imagined doing just three or four months ago. If someone is not keeping you alive, does it really matter what they think?

Huggs,

Opal

[Carolyn Marie]

I've always been more concerned about it than I should be. But I don't obsess about it.

Carolyn Marie

[JJ]

One of the biggest changes since I discovered and accepted I am trans is that I am no longer frightened and obsessed with what anyone and everyone thinks of me. I no longer seek validation in the eyes of strangers.

As my fear and unease fell away so did everyone else's and even though I now know they don't realize who they are seeing I meet people as the real me. It has nothing to do with body parts or clothes but with my heart and mind.

And oddly enough even though my body is clearly female I haven't been mam'd since I started being me. Must be something in my eyes. but even so everyone has been warmer and friendlier-I think. I don't notice as much anymore.

JJ

[Flint]

I care and don't care. I care a little. But at the same time a part of me couldn't really care less. But another part of me really does care and is very... judgemental of myself therefore meaning others must be judgemental of me too. At least in my head.

[Guest Micha]

I care and don't care. I care a little. But at the same time a part of me couldn't really care less. But another part of me really does care and is very... judgemental of myself therefore meaning others must be judgemental of me too. At least in my head.

Yeah, tha's kinda how I feel, I think.

[Guest Mia99]

One of my problems is that I care too much about what people think of me. I want people to like me. and it bothers me when they don't. I am getting a little better. A while back when I completed a painting I would ask myself "am I doing this for me? Or just to impress people?" This problem was interfering with something that was one of my biggest loves, and source of enjoyment, my art. That went for my music too. I don't like to think how much this held me back in life. But I feel I'm making some progress. I'm allowing myself to be "me" without letting other people dictate how I should look and act. I tell myself, "If this person doesn't like me then it is their loss". Life is too short to waste time on trying to please everyone.