Got Caught At Work

[Guest sarah f]

I had the epilator out this morning working on my legs in between approving and replying to posts. I forgot to put it up and left it charging on my desk. When my mechanic got here he saw it on the desk and well let me just say I got a weird look.

I told him what it was and that I hate body hair and left it at that. He didn't say anything else but I can imagine what he is thinking right now.

[Guest Donna Jean]

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Watch out girlfriend.....

You'll end up like me....

I've walked away from my desk and left Lauras up on the screen...

I left my compact on the men's room sink...

I left my purse on my desk...

I had huge mascara smudges under my eyes...

Well, Girlfriend...you really screwed up...you just should of told him that you were charging your GPS...and hope that he didn't ask to see it work....LOL

Be careful!

HUGGS

Donna Jean

[Guest Opal]

Hi Sarah,

Is your epilator pink like mine? A lot of cyclists shave their legs, so maybe that is what he thinks it is all about.

Huggs Dear!

Opal

[Guest sarah f]

Opal it is red. I told him what it was so no going back now. Just not going to tell him how far I am going yet.

[Guest Opal]

Well, maybe he has tried plucking some leg hairs before and wonders how you stand the pain. Please do not let whatever opinion he might have cause you any stress. Its not worth it. I know, easier said than done.

Huggs,

Opal

[Guest kelise]

You didn't just say it was an electric razor for your face?

[Guest sarah f]

I didn't lie because he saw the end of it and would know it wasn't a electric shaver. I felt it better to just tell the truth in that I hate body hair. He said later what are you going to do shave your arms too and I said yes so that it isn't a suprise when I do. I told him again that I can't stand body hair and wanted it all gone. He just smirked and left after that.

Oh well it may be better this way because it will be easier on me when I do remove my arm hair.

[Guest ChloëC]

Sarah,

Oh, that's too bad.

The only suggestion I have is not only for you but for any others who might get into that kind of situation. Just do the best quality job you can, be dependable, and continue working well with those around you (regardless of the looks they may give - be courteous). Besides going afoul of any EEO laws, most (sensible) employers value those.

Hugs

Chloë

[Guest RachaelAnn]

What's an epilator?

Rachael

[Guest Donna Jean]

What's an epilator?

Rachael

A devious mechanical device designed to rip hair out by the roots....

EVIL!

Donna Jean

[Guest ChloëC]

Rachael,

An epilator is a little (and I mean little) like a men's electric razor. The goal of each is to remove hair, they're electric, and they have a sort of similar shape. And that's about where the similarities end. An epilator's ultimate goal is remove hair - down to the roots. Imagine waxing, now imagine electrical waxing. I would guess it's a bit..painful.

Regarding getting caught at work, and DeeJay's experiences. I have one suggestion. Think of how long it took to apply all those pretty and wonderful cosmetics. If you don't plan on at least the same amount of time to remove said cosmetics, you'll more than likely be noticed.

For my eye make-up - 1. In a shower. 2. Lots of soap (or specialty make-up remover) 3. a very white washcloth. Keep the washcloth lathered, carefully wipe around the eyes, look at the cloth, rinse the cloth, and repeat...repeat...repeat...repeat...repeat...... After at least two wipings where the washcloth remains that pure white, you're done...in the shower. Now get out, get in front of a mirror and washbasin, and (guess what) repeat, this time looking carefully for the smudges you no doubt missed in the shower.

Ok, you're done. Now pray you got it all off, because it will be noticed if you didn't.

Hugs

Chloë

[Guest Elizabeth K]

I donno - when I get caught out like that, I act as it is no big deal. It's when you look or act guilty, then it can get strange. People take the cue from how you act about it.

So you use an epilator - say that and let it go - no body's business (too late now I guess).

An epilator is a wonderful device that allows you to remove body hair (don't use it on your face) and the effects last for weeks! Sally is ALWAYS asking to borrow mine!

Just ask her... grin

Lizzy

[Guest Mia J]

Sounds like you handled it fine Sarah.

And here I always thought the epilator was a medieval torture device......

Mia

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Sarah hon,

I have done the same kinds of things. We all have done them. I think it is a combination of being so natural and habitual that we forget the context that we are in sometimes. Another dynamic is that we sub-consciously need to come out regardless.

You will be amazed by other people's power of denial and I would expect that your coworker has already forgotten the whole

incident.

Love

Brenda

[Guest miss kindheart]

Dear Sarah,

<< hug >>>

Try and not be too worried what others think of you

There will always be someone that will Judge you in some way

Instead try and accept who and what your heart tells you you are

Smile and be happy for you are beautiful

vanna

[Sally]

I have never had that happen to me, Sarah.

For two very good reasons.

I never use an epilator because Lizzy attacked me with one once and I still have nightmares about it.

And here I always thought the epilator was a medieval torture device......

IT IS!

I have never had a job where I had an office, a place to put anything or a chair.

Love ya,

Sally

[JJ]

Well Sarah it sounds to me like you not only handled it very well, you also laid the groundwork for future changes. Smart girl!

Hugs,

JJ

[Guest NatashaJade]

Oh well it may be better this way because it will be easier on me when I do remove my arm hair.

Funny thing, Sarah. I started epilating my hands even before I began hrt and in the last year, I've slowly removed the hair from my arms (and there's now very little new growth outside of some vellous an a few dark hairs here and there).

You know what? No one notices. No one cares.

And if they do? They probably wont say a thing.

Just do it!

luv

Gin

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Oh well it may be better this way because it will be easier on me when I do remove my arm hair.

For what it is worth Sarah, I have been presenting with no arm hair (or underarm hair) for years. I wear short sleeved shirts to work everyday, so my bare arms show Indeed I got some razzing at first by some people when I showed up hairless to work. Interestingly most people did not even notice. In time, no one gives it a second thought. Today, no one questions me on how I present myself.

Love

Brenda

[Guest sarah f]

Well I went ahead and removed my arm hair yesterday. Since it was the first time, I used nair to remove the hair. My arms are nice and smooth now. I can't wait for the response I get from my mechanic when he notices the hair gone.

[Guest Opal]

Hi Sarah,

Just wear some open-toed shoes Monday. Bet he won't notice your arms....

[Guest kelise]

I used to tell people that I shaved my legs because it "cooled me down" in the Florida heat, and they bought it. I also said I plucked my eyebrows because I preferred the way it looked and that I'd have a big bushy unibrow if I didn't.

[Guest Donna Jean]

Hi Sarah,

Just wear some open-toed shoes Monday. Bet he won't notice your arms....

LOL......

Good one, Opal!

LOL

Donna Jean

[Guest sarah f]

He hasn't brought it up again. Nobody has even mentioned my arms yet. I can't believe I waited on my arms.

[JJ]

one thing i've noticed here-people may wonder a little for a feew minutes but then fall back into the default idea of the people around them. People go in with girl jeans and polish, shaped brows and even jewelry and yet their boss and co-workers are shocked when presented with the truth. people really do see what they expect to see and just go right on thinking as they always have unless it slaps them in the face.

Which turns out to be really nice for a lot of us:D

Hugs

JJ