From Day To Day To Lifetime

[Guest mia 1]

Myth#1It's easy being a cross dresser, just put on your panties and nylons and then take them off and wear your jeans and sweatshirt or tie and suit.

Not easy and there is always part of you that feels the comfort and the need for the clothes that shed your masculine self.

The need to feminize your masculinity is real and you are given the gift to peek inside womanhood and the gateway is your clothes.

Myth #2

I can take it or leave it. And it is a just as easy to quit being a cross dresser as it is to quit a habit...

Not true. Cross dressing is as much a part of you as your heart and brain and it is not a choice, you are born with that gift like you are born right or left handed, or

blue eyes or brown eyes....

Myth #3

I only cross dress when life throws me a curve or if my partner isn't filling my needs.

No you cross dress when your psyche trips the wire and you need to be the woman within or the woman you saw or the woman you love. There are external

trip wires, but they lead to your need for temporary womanhood.

There are no people to blame and no situations that are excuses. Cross dressing is not an escape or a tunnel to hide in, but a part of us and a part of us that should

be enjoyed and nurtured and shared if you want with those that should know that part of you.

Concluding allow me to say that there is nothing simple about cross dressing and it is an important part of the transgender community and should not be hidden from your own conscience and allow it to be part of you and feel proud that you are given this gift and that your hidden gender is just as vital to us as those who are transitioning full time into permanent and complete womanhood.

[Carolyn Marie]

Mia, thank you so very much for your words of wisdom.

Those are great reminders of what the CD experience is all about, and why CDers should cherish the

feelings that crossdressing brings. It's all about being happy, being in tune with the female side

of ourselves, and not being ashamed or afraid.

Mia, you are a treasure!

Love

Carolyn Marie

[Guest ChloëC]

Very well done, Mia!

If I could I would like to add a little to each of the mythbusters.

#1 You will always have two sets of clothes that now have to be taken care of - washed, put away, organized, kept up to date, possibly hidden. Lucky is the person who has only one set to deal with!

#2. The frustration you will feel when you think you've 'beaten' the habit only to have it return even stronger will wear you down. It's not a habit, it's who you are. Revel in it, be yourself in it, appreciate and enjoy it.

#3. Never ever use your partner as an excuse. Your partner is who he/she is, appreciate and honor them for that. Your cross-dressing is for a different part of yourself entirely apart from your partner. Don't confuse the two (though the two can be combined if you both want).

Thank you Mia for your insightful thoughts.

Hugs

Chloë

[Sally]

Thanks Mia,

You always bring an intellectual approach to subjects that are so often only addressed through emotions.

Understanding Cross Dressing may be harder for people outside of the community because without the desire to effect permanent changes the people without these feelings think it is a choice or a habit when in fact it is a part of each of us, just as deep in the core of our being as any other part of the Transgendered Spectrum.

Embrace that female side, let her have her time and enjoy it - do not ever look for excuses because none are needed.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Emily H]

Thank you for this. In a way...it some how made me feel more secure about myself. Thanks.

[Guest Penelope]

Thank you, Mia.

For me cross dressing is definitely not a lifestyle choice. It is the response to a lifelong compulsion.

All the best,

Penny

[Guest Donna Jean]

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Mia, Sweetheart.....

You're a peach.....

It's the guilt that has to go.....Across the spectrum...

MTF..FTM...CD...all across the board, we were BORN this way...WRITE IT DOWN!

There would be less pressure if the world could just see it this way...

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[JJ]

Celebrate who you are and that which gives you a unique insight into the human experience.

JohnJ