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A Careful Excursion From The Closet

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Oh my, dear ones.

I'm still crying as I write this. To this point, I've not come out to anyone but my wife and transition team (GT, doc and laser tech). But there has been one person more than any that I have been eager to share with, not only for myself, but for my wife's sake, as she is both of our best friend and we both needed someone else to talk to about this. So yesterday we went out to L.A. for another friend's birthday party and B (as I will call her) came back to AZ with us for an event we are attending together. So all week I've been thinking about coming out to her and then telling myself it's not the right time and crying about it. It got to the point that on the drive back today, I cried about half of the way home (my wife noticed, but B was nodding off in the back seat). We had to go shopping and B stepped away for a moment to look at some shoes and I c0uld barely keep it together at the store.

So we got home and when I went to take a shower, my wife started opening the door for me. She was dancing around the subject when I came out from the shower, but B is a very perceptive lady and knew it was something. So I sat down, shaking and crying, and explained what was going on with me...with us.

And you know what?

B was totally accepting and loving. She affirmed my existence, understood what kind of struggle that this has been and opened up about some related struggles of her own. I'm so lucky to have such an amazing friend in the world who felt no betrayal, no anger. Only love. She said, "So should I start calling you Virginia?"

I told her that if I am dressed as Virginia, then yes. Otherwise, no. It's still a slow boat, but I have another friend along for the ride and it is such an amazing relief.

with all the love I feel right now

Gin

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Hi Gin,What good news! I feel so relaxed when I'm with people who know me, and so on edge when I'm having to keep secrets. Now that you've started with one close friend, I hope that you can continue. All the best,Love, Kat!

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Wonderful news, Gin!

I am so glad that it went so well.

Now on to the next, with each success you will have great returns for your efforts.

Love ya,

Sally

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Gin-That is wonderful!

Having someone else know and accept you is great but when it is your family's best friend it is beyond amazing. What a difference it wil make to have someone else to tak to and be yourself with!

I'm very happy for you.

JJ

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I hate soggy toast....

But, your post made me cry on mine this morning...

Honey....so many people just don't understand the importance of coming out to people...

The validation that we must have in our journey...

You're like me...we kept our secret to our selves for so long and no one knew...

But, now we MUST have confidants and people must know so we can be , not only to ourselves, but to the world, our true selves..

Your girlfriend is only the beginning...

She's wonderful...

LOVE

Donna Jean

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Oh, my, Gin, what a wonderful post to read this morning.

I am so happy for you, hon. Delighted. I know how much it means to have that support, and I know how hard it is to open up

and tell people you know, and who have known you so long.

Enjoy the feeling, dear Gin.

Love

Carolyn Marie

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Oh my, dear ones.

I'm still crying as I write this.

Congrats Gin on your friend and confidant. I can tell by your post (just getting caught up) how relieved you are.

In my case my Sister has become my closest confidant apart from my wife.

I wish you the best on your journey

Hugs

Cindy -

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