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Do Anti-depressants "unnaturally" Surpress Mtf Feelings?


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I've finally found a shrink who seems to know her psycho-pharmacology and whom I can trust. The meds that she has prescribed have had an almost unbelievable effect, i.e. allowing my mood to be to almost normal.

However, I have noticed a side effect in that my transgender feelings have diminished. I.e., I feel like a straight guy instead of a mtf lesbian. I know that I should regard this as a positive, yet it still feels, well, just plain wrong, and a large part of me absolutely hates it, and wishes that I still -totally and without a doubt- felt that I should be a woman.

Is this normal?

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Guest KellyGirl
I've finally found a shrink who seems to know her psycho-pharmacology and whom I can trust. The meds that she has prescribed have had an almost unbelievable effect, i.e. allowing my mood to be to almost normal.

However, I have noticed a side effect in that my transgender feelings have diminished. I.e., I feel like a straight guy instead of a mtf lesbian. I know that I should regard this as a positive, yet it still feels, well, just plain wrong, and a large part of me absolutely hates it, and wishes that I still -totally and without a doubt- felt that I should be a woman.

Is this normal?

The truth is I have my own concerns about medication and I too belive I am a MTF Lesbian. are you positive it's the drugs? I've been through a great deal of stress and now I feel calm...not necassirly male but I'm not thinking about or feeling my trans feelings very strongly during this time. I think maybe your mind is allowing you to relax. to take a break.

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Guest Leah1026
I've finally found a shrink who seems to know her psycho-pharmacology and whom I can trust. The meds that she has prescribed have had an almost unbelievable effect, i.e. allowing my mood to be to almost normal.

She may know her drugs, but does she know gender? This is one of the reasons I prefer a therapist for these matters and not a psychiatrist. Psychiatrists a more prone to trying to fix you and cure you, which anyone who's been aroung long enough can tell you can't be done. Transsexualism isn't a mood disorder, it's a physical birth condition. The best way, the only way I dare say, to triumph is to embrace those feelings. Those feeling are the real you and by trying to rid yourself of them you are essentially trying to kill part of yourself. It's time to bring the inner conflict to an end. It's time to be you, the whole you and not just a shell.

My advice would be to see a GENDER therapist.

Be You.

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Guest Snow Angel

It's difficult to give you a definite answer based on the information you provided. Anti-depressants personally did nothing for me in my teens. But back then I also didn't recognize my inner depression being related to transgender issues. Each individual person on this planet has different levels of brain chemistry, and that's why there are so many different kinds of anti depressants. To clump every medicine together and asking what affect it has can't lead to a very precise answer. If they are making you feel better, that's good. Just take one day at a time and see if your feelings persist or diminish.

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Guest Alice4016

I don't really know too much about anti-depressents except I refused to take them. Those are dangerous drugs dear, they can cause a lot of things to get muddled up in that head of yours. My advice is to ride this out as long as you feel is necessary, and yes please see a gender expert they can answer your questions. (if you can't find one in your area..there is a great Doctor online who you can talk with...I live in a pretty remote area and he's been able to talk with me over the internet/phone...also give me my letters of recommendation to start HRT. You can get to his site off of here or I think it's http://www.gendertherapist.com/index.html ). Anyway, only you know whats is right for you hun, do what you feel is right.

Peace, love, and health,

Alice

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Guest April

I personally am taking an anti-depressant, and i can tell you that for me it just helps to keep me from going off the deep end. I have also

found that it will not stop me from getting depressed over my gender issues.

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Guest AndreaSC
I don't really know too much about anti-depressents except I refused to take them. Those are dangerous drugs dear, they can cause a lot of things to get muddled up in that head of yours.

I know you mean well, but you are giving advice that is very dangerous and will often result in death, so you ought be _extremely_ careful about who you give it to.

Personally, if it weren't for the anti-depressants that I'm taking, I would almost certainly be dead. Yeah, they do a lot to your head, but that's like saying oxygen does a lot to your body.

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Guest Leah1026
I know you mean well, but you are giving advice that is very dangerous and will often result in death, so you ought be _extremely_ careful about who you give it to.

Personally, if it weren't for the anti-depressants that I'm taking, I would almost certainly be dead. Yeah, they do a lot to your head, but that's like saying oxygen does a lot to your body.

I don't know what your status is but.......

I have heard many people say that after they started HRT any need they had for anti-depressants disappeared.

My experience was I didn't know how chronically unhappy I was until I started HRT. It has made a tremendous difference, I even told my parents that HRT saved my life.

Food for thought.

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Guest OctoberMermaid
I don't know what your status is but.......

I have heard many people say that after they started HRT any need they had for anti-depressants disappeared.

My experience was I didn't know how chronically unhappy I was until I started HRT. It has made a tremendous difference, I even told my parents that HRT saved my life.

Food for thought.

I've been on a bunch of anti-depressants but I don't think they've ever really affected any Mtf feelings for me. Usually if anything, they seemed to make me think about it more and get more depressed. But I guess I only really take them now to help with anxiety.

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Guest AndreaSC
She may know her drugs, but does she know gender?

In many ways, it doesn't matter, because without her I would almost certainly be dead, or if I were especially lucky, hospitalized.

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Guest Sheila
She may know her drugs, but does she know gender? This is one of the reasons I prefer a therapist for these matters and not a psychiatrist. Psychiatrists a more prone to trying to fix you and cure you, which anyone who's been aroung long enough can tell you can't be done. Transsexualism isn't a mood disorder, it's a physical birth condition. The best way, the only way I dare say, to triumph is to embrace those feelings. Those feeling are the real you and by trying to rid yourself of them you are essentially trying to kill part of yourself. It's time to bring the inner conflict to an end. It's time to be you, the whole you and not just a shell.

My advice would be to see a GENDER therapist.

Be You.

you're so right. i've just decided i have to live my life as a woman instead of living a lie and not being true to myself. i am embracing those feeling inside me. it's weird that you are saying something to someone else and it applies to me in every sense of the word. i'm so tired of the inner conflict that's been haunting me all of my life, it's so great to have found a community of people who understand exactly what i'm going through. i feel so much like an outsider in our society.

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