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Alyssa,

After seeing my Psychologist for a few years for severe PTSD I finally came out to him in 2014. He is bound by his profession to not reveal what we talk about, but I'm not worried since he has been fantastic.....He has even gone so far as to study transgenderism, and can now actually qualify to be a GT.

He literally has kept me on this planet. So you might want to keep that in mind.

I can't say that much for my PCP or any other help i.e. endocrine, blood monitoring, and so on from the VA. They have since told me that they are just not equipped to help me properly. I live just outside of Houston, and they have really dropped the ball as fas as my physical health. But like I said the mental health support has been phenomenal.

LesleyAnne,

Thank you for your reply, I really appreciate the information. I only just recently found out at a trans-social event in Austin that the VA even did anything at all concerning this. I really didn't think they did. Still, living in the Ft. Hood area, I have a real hard time being honest with anyone up here. Just yesterday I was at my VA doctor's appointment, the usual 6 month deal, and the nurse was going on about all the "God-less" things in this country now. . . That pretty much made up my mind that I wouldn't say anything to my doctor. I think she would be far more understanding, but it is pretty scary at that big hospital up in Temple.

Anyway, thank you so much for talking with me. It is pretty lonely up here.

Alyssa

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I served from 74-94 in the army. I did 3 tours in Germany and the rest of the time at Fort Bliss TX. I did not deploy during the gulf war, I was considered mission critical because I was an instructor in the air defense field.

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05-14 Just over 9 years Navy. Was medically retired for mental health issues as an LSC (Really I was an SKC but that isnt the right name anymore...)

Destroyer life was where I was, did the boarding teams, fire fighting and all the other fun Navy games. Three rounds to the Persian Gulf and thankfully every time was uneventfully for the large part.

Still in Norfolk area for now, are there any other vets in this area? Would love to chat locally a little for some freindship and support.

~Jess

SKC(SW) Retired.

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Hi,

I am a US Navy veteran from 2003-2007. I had come out to my command as lesbian just before I got out of my active duty status. However, I've recently been considering the possibility of being transgender. I'm not entirely sure my girlfriend will be entirely receptive to the idea. I have the support of most of my friends and I mentioned it to my mother, who I'm very close with, and she was unsure about it all. Any tips or pointers would be much appreciated. Just as a side note, I'm far away from my family and don't have too many friends in my area. I'm currently living off of the GI Bill and going to school full-time. I'm really not sure what to do at this point. Part of me wants to start "T" asap, and the other part of me is still trying to figure out my plan before I get in too deep.

~Man in my Head

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wow! That is a rough one, the gi bill is nice but I imagine it is a stretch in VB! I live in south chesapeake and I know what you mean about being away from everyone. My family is out of the country so its very quiet here. I haven't yet told my family, thats too scary yet, but I am working my way there. My girlfriend was very accepting though she is concerned how she will react if I choose to use hrt. If you ever want to chat over coffee shout out. I am lost, but company is offered! :)

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USAF - 1973 to 1977 (Vietnam Era)

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Be well everyone,

jenifer

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Guest LesleyAnne

Welcome Jenifer,

Thank you for your service.

You've found a great community to be a part of, and many of us here are veterans.

Join in, and don't be shy, tell us about yourself when you're ready.

LesleyAnne

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Welcome to Laura's Jenifer. You might want to post in the introduction forum as well.

Thank you for your service. I managed to avoid the service during Vietnam. At the time i was a hippie and felt we were doing the wrong thing. Too many of my friends came back very damaged. I have only respect for those who did serve.

Glad you are here with us.

Your not alone.

Hugs,

Charlize

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I served in the US Air Force from 1982-1992. I spent part of that time at Wright-Patterson AFB OH working in the B-1B engine program, and in bomber/tanker upgrades. The remainder was at Barksdale AFB LA in SAC logistics plans, working on plans to repair, rearm, and refuel bombers returning from a nuclear strike on the Soviet Union, so they could be sent back for a second strike. I was separated in 1992 as an O-3 as a result of the reduction-in-force at the end of the cold war.

I am very glad to have found this place, and quite amazed at the number of vets I see here. To all those who have posted here before me, thank you for your service!

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OK, So active duty CSM of an Infantry BN!!! So proud the ban is gone, my advice to my sisters, is understand it is hard!! When I retire, I will so go to VA and get my hormones in check!! As a matter of fact! When I go in next year prior to retiring, I will mention it. I want on hormones and prepared for surgery!!!

 

Feel free to contact me rebeccaanne07 at yahoo . com

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Veteran here Massachusetts Army National Guard 1st bn 181st infantry light 29th infantry division Headquarters company 31u signal support systems specialist honorably discharged 13OCT01 .

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