Trans Couples

[Guest okayokay]

another relationship thread!

would you date someone that is basically going through the same thing as you? soo, male to female trans with a male to female or female to male trans. or female to male trans with a female to male or male to female trans.

like does that matter? or are you someone that overlooks all of that (meaning the gender) and just goes for personality? and whatever theyre born with or trying to transition to really doesnt matter

i guess, would you as a transsexual ever date another transsexual? views on it?

[Guest Cowboy]

i would. id date an MTF. because they're women

Pre-op or post-op. dont matter. they always have been, always will be, women.

(lol i mean what can i say? ima ladies man)

and i personally feel that personality should outshine operation "status" anyway.

[Paula ult]

Okayokay hon,

I believe there was a topic similar to this not too long ago.

Near the beginning of my therapy sessions My therapist asked me a couple of times, a few months apart who i was attracted to, at these times i told him i was asexual but thought if i had a relationship it would be with a GG, FtM or even an MtF under the right circumstances, at present no genetic guys for me, that may change after my surgery.

Two years in transition i believe i am actually bi, i did have a wonderful relationship with an FtM for about 6 months, unfortunately he is my ex now, i have had dreams about being with another MtF but i seem to lean towards being with an FtM, finding someone my age is difficult as most FtM blend into society and live as the men they are.

In answer to your question, yes i would date another trans person in a heartbeat, another trans person understands us and what we went through all our life, no having to worry about telling them and hoping for acceptance.

Paula

[Guest Donna Jean]

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Oh, absolutely......

Who better to understand each other that two Trans people?

Body parts only count if you want to make babies...

Otherwise....love is love...

Donna Jean

[Guest KimberlyF]

My feelings can best be described by a line from the movie Election.

It's not like I'm a lesbian or anything. I'm attracted to the person. It's just that all the people I've been attracted to happen to be girls.

I'd date a MtF but she'd have to be less screwed in the head than I currently am.

Kim

[Guest sarah f]

I think I would prefer someone that could relate to me right now. I know from personal experience how a relationship goes if your significant other doesn't understand.

[Guest okayokay]

im not going to lie, when i first started going the transgendered route, i wanted a straight genetic male.

now? it doesnt matter. i just want someone who is going to respect me, love me, and be there for me so i can do all that in return. and if they have masculine traits, then thats a plus

[Guest Elizabeth K]

yes

We are just two people in love - when this happens.

Lizzy

[JJ]

If given the gift of love I would not question the anatomical details-just embrace that holy grail and thank my creator that I had been so blessed.

Love is too rare a thing to be denied.

JohnJ

[Guest JadeK]

Yes, I would. I think we'd have a level of understanding of each other beyond what I'd have with a cis person (though I'd date a cis person too), and if I love someone who loves me, that's the most important thing.

[Guest Evan_J]

Body parts only count if you want to make babies...

I SOOOO want to shout "right on" and yet...I know I can't.

That is true except for people who's sexual relief/involvement are dependant on those parts. THOSE people will differ with you. And honestly, doesn't every have the right to be aroused or NOT aroused by what they are or choose?

The SECOND part though

love is love...

Yes, I agree. No exception.

Humans. Love and sex. And the difference between the two. And the fact that for some people they do not wish to separate the two.

[Guest kelise]

Of course I'd date an MTF as long as our personalities matched. I'd be a total hypocrite otherwise. I am currently (and hopefully permantantly) with a GG, but have dated an MTF in the past and even some FTM (though that stopped when things started getting physical. Sorry boys! )

[Guest AshleyRF]

I use to say without a doubt I would.... but now, I'm not so sure anymore. Would I date one that was not done with their transition? Probably not. I know this sounds terrible but the reason behind this is that during the transition process, we require so much more of our partners than normal. We often forget that when we are with someone else, we are not going through this alone and the ups and downs that we go through, our partners also go through. I would just feel that with two people going through the drastically changing process of transition would lead to major problems. Honestly, I know I could not give that person the support they needed at this point in my own transition.

[Guest Liam]

I would be open to dating a trans person, though certainly not simply because they are trans. I ID as pansexual, though I tend to be more attracted to women and genderqueer people (of all sexes) than I am to men. But I really don't care what somebody's genital configuration is, or what their hormone levels are. If a person that I am attracted to happens to be trans, then cool. If not, that's cool, too.

[Guest doodle]

I don't know . I live with a GG. in a long term relationship. I used to love men really love them and am still attracted to them pperson. I don't know. my life is already hard and as much as the person would understand me I think as Ashley RF it would be to hard.

Kelly

[Guest ShortyT]

I'd date a trans guy, no problem.

[Guest Distort]

I'd date an FTM, quite happily. In fact, I think I'd prefer it over the majority of relationships.

I don't think I could bring myself to date a pre-op MTF. It's nothing against male-to-female transsexuals, and I think that if I were post-op I would have a different stance, but, for much the same reason that I'm leery to date bio-men, it's just seeing someone who possesses, naturally, something I desperately want to have. It's not the people who I shy away from, but rather, on a subconscious level, seeing my desired physical appearance on another person tears me apart a little.

Of course, that's all dependant on the person. I believe that I could date a pre-op MTF or a bio-guy, if I felt strongly enough about them, but then that's generally a friends-first scenario, and I tend to live by the 'you don't f your friends' rule. I cherish my friendships, and I have a tendency to destroy romantic relationships